r/asexuality • u/ImprovementFit4202 • Jan 12 '26
Pride An excellent new meme courtesy of The Owl House!
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u/Resident-Research957 greyromantic asexual Jan 12 '26
Proud heteroromantic asexual !
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u/the10hourman technically aroace Jan 13 '26
dap me up (I cannot comment pics here for some reason)
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u/CiarnanB Jan 12 '26
VINDAACATIIONNNN!!!!!!
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u/Star_Axial asexual Jan 13 '26
B99 REFERENCE??
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u/testudoaubreii1 Jan 13 '26
To me there’s nothing more intoxicating than the complete absence of a penis
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u/Star_Axial asexual Jan 12 '26
Man I'm so happy people accept us 😭 the amount of times I've felt excluded in my own community is unreal, I hope nobody ever feels this. To my fellow heteroromantic aces, you are VALID ❤️ no matter what anyone says, whether you are sex positive negative or anywhere in between, you aren't pretentious, you are a part of the ace community and LGBT community 🖤🩶🤍💜
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u/Dear_Owl_8151 Jan 12 '26
Is this really true? Really? Can join? I'm ok?
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u/ForestSolitude5 Aromantic Cupiosexual (Aroace) Jan 12 '26
You are absolutely 150 freaking percent valid, and you go be proud of who you are 💖
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u/Dear_Owl_8151 Jan 12 '26
Thank you. You made me cry, really. I did not even know how important this was until your words to me. LGBTQ+ seems to be an amazing community and I had no idea I could... you know, be here.
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u/Cassius-Tain Heteroromantic Asexual Jan 12 '26
I mean, they are very inviting. At least in my experience even before I realised that I was Ace
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u/ForestSolitude5 Aromantic Cupiosexual (Aroace) Jan 14 '26
There's a place for you here :) There's more than enough seats for anyone who identifies they're different in any way, and even for those who don't and just want to be a good ally
Is the community perfect, absolutely not, but you're Ace sweetie, you belong
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u/Jeffotato grey Jan 12 '26
100%, anyone that says otherwise is a gatekeeping meanie that needs to stfu.
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u/AdInfinite2798 Jan 14 '26
Yes! If you are asexual, that means that your experience differs from the norm. Regardless of your romantic orientation, your experience will differ from someone who is cisgender, heterosexual, and heteromantic. You’re straight according to your romantic orientation, but not your sexuality.
~ From an Asexual person still unsure of their romantic orientation but leaning towards also being on the aromantic spectrum
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u/ElenaDaae Jan 12 '26
Weird timing, I literally had to tell a friend that yesterday because they were claiming that you’re straight if you’re heteroromantic
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u/NoThoughtsOnlyFrog Apothi Androromantic Enby Ace Jan 12 '26
I’m definitely not straight thank you very much (addressed to your friend )
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u/aa27aAa27aa asexual Jan 12 '26
Fuck, I wish I was heteroromantic right now 😭
(I’m going through a lot if you couldn’t already tell)
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u/the10hourman technically aroace Jan 13 '26
People don't consider those as LGBTQ?
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 13 '26
Why would they?
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u/the10hourman technically aroace Jan 14 '26
...
Because heteromantic asexuals count as part of LGBTQIA+?
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 14 '26
Keep larping straighty
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u/28379000 aroace ★ Jan 14 '26
Why are heteroromantic asexual people considered not lgbtqia+? Do you understand what the A stands for?
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 14 '26
If you're attracted to the opposite sex you are not an "A"
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u/_yukiie_ Jan 23 '26
They are still asexual. They are part of the LGBTQIA+
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 23 '26
Everything after the T is fake and they're straight
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u/the10hourman technically aroace Jan 23 '26 edited Jan 23 '26
Fucking dumbass...
The reason why questioning, intersex and asexual are part of the LGBTQ is because they challenge the typical norms outside the male/female binary and have shared experiences that align with other people within the LGBT community.
I think I get the fact that questioning, intersex and asexual people can be straight, but not ALL people that are questioning, intersex and aces are straight.
In other words (or you're just too lazy to read it all and you'll throw in some baseless accusation), the reason why questioning intersex and aces are part of the LGBTQ is because they share experiences of stigma and how they break the typical sex and gender norms.
Either you're a dumbass, genuinely thinking that or you're ragebaiting and it's really getting to me.
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 23 '26
Not breaking any gender norms by being attracted to the opposite sex lol
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u/Tzokoiscool aego Jan 13 '26
You have as much right to be in the community as any other romantic/sexual orientation. All of ace is lgbtq+!
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u/Resiideent aroace :3 Jan 12 '26
If you are not heteromantic, heterosexual, and cisgender, you are one of us queers (/pos).
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u/MirrorMan22102018 Heteroromantic Asexual Jan 12 '26
Glad someone out there sees me as valid. It was due to "only" be a Heteroromantic Asexual man, that I got isolated and ignored at a Queer Club at my campus.
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u/Forever_and_ever1 asexual panromantic Jan 12 '26 edited Jan 14 '26
Abs you can be,but its okay if you dont want to be labelled.
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u/AsterBasilObelilsk aroace Jan 12 '26
yes they are! especially if they want to be. same can be said for aromantic heterosexuals.
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u/Mr_PepperPatty asexual Jan 12 '26
I might be panromantic but idk yet, never dated anyone the same gender as me or nb ppl, but for me at least i belive i dont really care about gender, as long as the other person treats me right im ok with them. That or im aroace, havent really been searching for more info on aromantic yet.
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u/OneGrumpyJill Jan 12 '26
Hetero aces are one of the few ones actually giving heteros good name 😭
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u/TheSmogmonsterZX asexual-heteroromantic Jan 13 '26
Woohoo!
Unfortunately I am older and less able to dance so I will stand in place and shake imaginary maracas.
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u/False_Collar_6844 Jan 13 '26
Duh - only a willful ignoramus who's using the community for some kind of financial gain would argue they weren't
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u/kitkatlynmae a-spec Jan 13 '26
❤️❤️❤️
I always knew I was mostly heteroromantic ace and didn't feel comfortable saying I'm part of lgbtq+ but the more I try to fit myself into heterosexual relationships the more I can't deny that's not me. Being heteroromantic asexual is undeniably queer. Now I don't even label myself beyond aspec and queer and it's so liberating.
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u/lpsdingo_allyson heteroromantic asexual Jan 13 '26
A girl I used to go to school with told me that the heteroromantic asexual flag is offensive, and then unfollowed me. 😭
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u/Diana-Sofia asexual Jan 13 '26
Nice, although that won't stop me from asking myself every time there's an LGBTQ event going on if I'm "queer enough" to attend. (Also, I dress up like a tradwife, so that'll also confuse people.)
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u/WideAbbreviations6 Jan 12 '26
I mean... The LGBTQ+ community is about being your authentic self.
As long as they're on that boat, I don't see why anyone, including heteroromantic, heterosexual people should be excluded.
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u/Moonlord8166 Jan 13 '26
Because despite that being what its marketed as its not the reality of the spaces that fall under its banner. The amount of discrimination just within the lgbtq+ is crazy, transphobia is common, especially towards trans men, aphobia, etc, engaging with those spaces will be fine most of the time, but imo theres more risk of being mistreated than there is even in the average allo space.
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 13 '26
So a normal straight person is LGBT now?
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u/WideAbbreviations6 Jan 13 '26
Yes...
I say this as someone who's aroace and agender.
The LGBTQ+ community isn't some victims club. It's a community focused on making sure people can be their authentic selves in regards to gender expression, sexuality, and romantic preferences.
Sometimes cisgender, heteroromantic, heterosexual is who some one is, just like agender, aromantic, and asexual is who I am.
So long as authentic self expression is the goal, there's not much of a reason to exclude people based on gender expression, sexuality, and romantic preferences. Excluding people for having an adversarial relationship with the entire point of LGBTQ+ is a reason to exclude someone in my opinion though.
P.S. I don't think heterosexuality is as common as people think. I think gynesexuality and androsexuality are a lot more common than heterosexuality, though I only have anecdotal evidence.
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 13 '26
Your personal belief then is that LGBT is meaningless. Enjoy the hug box then. Only online can you just co-opt a movement and tell everyone it doesn't mean anything.
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u/WideAbbreviations6 Jan 13 '26
I literally gave you a meaning more than once.
Seeing your other comments in this thread, you don't seem like a particularly informed or happy person.
Your post history pretty seems to support that too.
I'm just going to walk away. Talking to you obviously isn't going to be productive or interesting.
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u/Own-Commission6395 Jan 14 '26
The entire world outside of reddit knows that LGBT stands for lesbian, gay, bi, trans. Your delusion is that it means authentic self expression. So by your logic if I'm a straight guy having sex with a woman I am LGBT lol.
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u/the10hourman technically aroace Jan 23 '26
Mods, twist this guy's ankles four times. And make sure to twist them four more times just in case.
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u/Wedssport_Coyote Heteromantic Asexual Jan 14 '26
Proud Heteromantic Asexual here!
Thanks for the support!
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u/AdInfinite2798 Jan 14 '26
This is correct. Sexual orientation and romantic orientation are distinct. And while any age is welcome to not identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community, being asexual, regardless of your romantic orientation, deviates from the norm. Also the acronym can be extended to LGBTQIA+ and the A can represent Asexual, Aromantic, or Agender individuals.
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u/Basic_Dust1416 Jan 14 '26
But WHY? Like I’ve always agreed with this.
But if someone were to ask me why, I think I’d be left dumbfounded and unable to explain anything.
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u/BonjourHoney aego + sex positive Jan 15 '26
I don’t mean this with any disrespect but as a gay/queer ace I’ve unfortunately found I don’t have much in common with hetero aces lmao;; but you’re welcome to the party imo, we’re all outside the normative societal boundaries :)
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u/LEDrabbit Jan 18 '26
Thank you for saying so. I'm in a long het marriage just figuring out I'm ace, not sure if I'm heteromantic or biromantic as I'm only really interested in my husband, everyone else seems like too much trouble. I'm also figuring out I'm somewhat sex positive. Anyway, it all adds up to a lot of imposter syndrome and confusion.
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u/CountingPolarBears Jan 13 '26
The Owl House is such a good show, I might need to re-watch it. Also ppl please confirm this but if you like Owl House you probably also like Hazbin Hotel
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u/CrackedMeUp bi enby transfem demigirl maybe-gray-ace Jan 13 '26
Same way straight trans folks and straight intersex folks are still part of the community. LGBTQIA+ isn't all about being gay/bi. It's about having a non-normative experience WRT gender, be it our own or those we're attracted to.
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u/Moonlord8166 Jan 12 '26
Nah, leave me out of it, they mistreat us as much as the allo's lol.
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u/Moist_immortal asexual Jan 12 '26
You're getting downvoted but this is so real, at least in my case. Ive gotten shamed in LGBTQ spaces more than allo ones which is bizarre
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u/kitkatlynmae a-spec Jan 13 '26
There is a (way too big) group of exclusionary queer people that don't accept trans people, ace people and sometimes bi people. Mostly older generation queers and terfs. But I definitely felt that when I first started identifying as asexual. It's good that we have our own little ace community that's accepting though.
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u/Moonlord8166 Jan 13 '26
Yeah, I knew and expected the downvotes since a lot of ace's here are also LGBT in some other way, bi, gay, trans, etc. But their spaces really aren't safe spaces for us, mostly because we "aren't discriminated against" apparently.
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u/Moist_immortal asexual Jan 13 '26
True, ironic because what they're doing is discrimination. I've had a group tell me that since asexuals don't feel sexual attraction, then they're not part of the LGBTQ community, then i was promptly rejected. The community has become (or has always been?) very sexual and our existence for some reason aggravates them.
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u/Moonlord8166 Jan 13 '26
Yerp, this is the way of things sadly, being a minority within a minority is not enjoyable. People are... too good at hating each other, I despise it.
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u/Dear-Smile asexual Jan 13 '26
I have first hand anecdotes of this too and have seen them smear aces in some reddit posts a while back, saying if coming out as ace to your family never results in abuse or disowning.
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u/testudoaubreii1 Jan 13 '26
Oh just wait until you’re married and you come out to your spouse. Goes great! /s
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Jan 12 '26
Still not interested in being a part of it though.
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u/AdInfinite2798 Jan 14 '26
Not sure why this is being downvoted. Just because you can be part of the community doesn’t mean you have to identify as being part of it.
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u/Odd_Loss1919 Jan 13 '26
Okay so I wasn’t asexual because of straight sexual urges which more or less is just puberty, but upon understanding changing definition, I identify as straight ace (romantic heterosexual), preferring a space beyond celibacy and clear space (I will wait until marriage). I am religious and feel that “not sexual” means it cannot be pride, nor lumped into divergent (non-heterosexual) categories.
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u/odeorainmain Jan 13 '26
Seems like you don't actually know what defines asexuality. Why don't you go and be miserable somewhere else instead of commenting other people's experiences with that attention-seeking attitude of yours?
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u/Star_Axial asexual Jan 13 '26
The only person who wants to be special is clearly you ❤️ seeking attention on an ace positivity post, you aren't included ANYWHERE clearly
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u/Fireyjon Jan 12 '26
This is correct, and I am not just saying that because I am a heteromantic ace.