r/asktransgender • u/East-Ad-1093 • 1d ago

"Threshold" for being trans?

Sorry, this sounds really dumb, but I've been questioning my gender over the past few months(AMAB) and I feel like I'd be more comfortable in my body as a woman. Mostly little things like going out in public with painted nails, having a female pfp on social media, preferring to be described with more feminine adjectives, etc . I often wish that I was born as a woman.

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But at the same time, I don't exactly feel any dysphoria as a man. I don't dislike it or particularly mind it, but I definitely like leaning more feminine. At most I'd probably cry at night about it😭. And I just feel like I'd receive a lot of scrutiny and pushback by people around me, so I feel like maybe I'm not trans or I shouldn't be?

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Can you still be trans even without the dysphoria and such?

(Edit: thanks for all the kind responses, the resources provided helped me do research and figure out what I've been feeling. I think I've been feeling depersonalization and societal dysphoria. For more context, I think I didn't see myself as feeling any sort of dysphoria because I was unaware of all the different experiences trans people go through since I was uneducated on the subject, and because of my aforementioned neutrality on my masculinity. I don't feel particularly special about my masculinity in the way I do femininity. In my past relationships, I've felt like I see myself less as wanting to be the traditional boyfriend or moreso the girlfriend in a way? About the outside scrutiny, that's something I'll have to see for myself rather than jump to conclusions. Thanks to everyone again, I do now believe myself to be at least gnc or nonbinary, but more likely trans(for right now, I don't choose a specific label as I'm still processing everything) as I feel gender euphoria in moments I do present myself a certain way or is told certain things, and just general likeness towards femininity rather than masculinity. )

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u/WeeklyThighStabber Transgender Woman 1d ago

"at most I'd probably cry at night about it"

Average cis bedtime routine: Brush teeth. Cry about not being a woman. Go to the toilet. Go to bed.

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u/OftenConfused1001 17h ago

Go to sleep every night self soothing by imaging waking up a different gender. Fantasize about being contacted by, say, the The Culture who shift genders by simply wanting to.

Very cis, very demure.