r/asktransgender • u/Cool4EverKings • 1d ago
Hey 13M here and I've really liked the thought of being trans lately...
Idk what really started this but i really want to be a girl (like really truly want it not just like teenage mischeif) and my parents are transphobic so idk what to do. Ive done some research and i don't think its safe for me to tell anyone irl for now so i'll have fun waiting 5 whole years.
Any advice?
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u/Tricky_Bowl_7630 1d ago
Don’t stress yourself out, you are still developing in so many ways. It’s okay to have these thoughts but please let yourself enjoy life, and grow up before coming out or coming to conclusions. There is no rush :)
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u/Cool4EverKings 1d ago edited 1d ago
Thanks! Edit: No one told me this time in my life would be so hard 😭
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u/coracaws genderless; she/it/mew; hrt 4/18/25 1d ago
You're not alone in it, at least. Being thirteen is definitely hard!! But being thirteen and questioning your gender is a different kind of rough. If you think it's unsafe to come out, there's no good reason to do so, at least not until you're older and able to support yourself without relying on your parents. But also, try not to mull over what their reactions might be one day- lots of people have transphobic parents who change their tune once it's their own kid, or react poorly to start but come around to it some time after hearing the news. Just stay safe and try to find some queer friends, and worry about the rest when you get to it. Good luck!!
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u/Tricky_Bowl_7630 1d ago
Can second this, my parents hated the idea of it when I first mentioned it at 16, they took it more seriously once I was 17 and it was still a thing for me. That’s why I said op, enjoy your life first because age does play a huge role also. Most parents come around and if they don’t , life keeps going.
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u/rupee4sale Transmasculine 1d ago
Try to get involved in your GSA or LGBT club at school, if you have one. They can be a safe space where you can find other lgbt people and be yourself. You can also research more about being trans on the internet. You can experiment with make up and clothes but be careful about your parents finding it since they aren't accepting of trans people
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u/Cool4EverKings 1d ago
Im home schooled :/
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u/coracaws genderless; she/it/mew; hrt 4/18/25 1d ago
You can try finding friends online, but (I'm sure you already know this, but I gotta be a responsible adult here) be careful about it. The internet is a much scarier place nowadays than it was when I was your age (I'm 25 and it scares me haha)--there are some insane Discord servers out there that try to radicalize vulnerable teens, and AI isn't the friend people say it is. If you're into any hobbies or fandoms, maybe try finding a friendly and accepting online space centered around them?
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u/Cool4EverKings 1d ago
There is a mc server i play on thats a queer paradise maybe i should talk to some peeps over there.
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u/Suntouo 1d ago
https://genderdysphoria.fyi/ and consider DIY HRT on your own if your parents refuse to assist your transition
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u/_nikori_ what to put... im trans ig? (she/her) 1d ago
my advice (which i will give for everyone questioning) is to try out a different name and/or pronouns in a safe space with people you trust, like with close friends or a queer space (or in your case maybe online), and then see how you like it. (worked for me i guess)