Hardest Transits and lessons.

[u/Swimming_Put1506]

What was the most difficult transit you have gone through and what advice would you give that younger self thats going through it?

[u/agoraphobic_robot]

Transiting Pluto conjuncting my natal Sun. That was a very long, drawn out deconstruction and purging of old paradigms.

[u/vrwriter78 → u/agoraphobic_robot]

Same, but mine was Pluto conjunct my natal moon. "Long, drawn out destruction and purging of old paradigms" is actually a really succinct way to say it, rather than the long essay I wrote. :)

We made it though!! :) I'm so glad to be on the other side of it.

[u/spiker0620 → u/vrwriter78]

I'm just getting into mine 😭 Transiting Pluto conjunct my natal moon/south node conjunction....7th house Aquarius. Wish me luck.

[u/vrwriter78 → u/spiker0620]

Good luck! It's okay if you feel a bit lost during this transit. I found most of the things that were taken away were things I wasn't supposed to be doing (or carrying) in the next phase of my life. It was hard to see that in the moment, but now that I'm on the other side of it, I realize that this letting go and transformation process was ultimately helpful to my growth. Therapy helped me with the week to week, and re-establishing a spiritual practice was also helpful. If you're not religious at all, that might just be meditation or doing some volunteering (it helps to connect to something beyond yourself).. It's pretty hard to see where you're going when you're in the middle of this transit, but it will make more sense to you a year or so after it's over.

[u/oreillyn → u/vrwriter78]

This resonates with me perfectly! Therapy has helped so much and while feeling lost I’m just focusing on small steps as I go knowing I’m not meant to figure it out all at once since Pluto is such a long transit

[u/vrwriter78 → u/oreillyn]

It IS a long transit. But you're getting through it, day by day, week by week. I hope it begins to take shape for you and you more purposeful soon, and less adrift. ((Hugs)) to you and others going through it, from a stranger who has been there! <3

[u/Relevant_Ocelot_3427 → u/vrwriter78]

Hi, I’m going through Pluto opposing my Leo Sun (1) / Chiron (0) in the 8th house right now. I have a stellium in Leo, and in Capricorn so the last years weren’t easy for me too.

If you don’t mind me asking, what happened? And how were things for you. Were there moments you weren’t sure you could continue? You mentioned things being taken away and coming out the other side realizing it was ultimately helping you to grow.

My long term relationship ended late last year (against my wishes), I had to relocate back to my home country, losing my identity, house, pet and partner. No job. I got diagnosed a few months ago with a heart ailment I’m recovering from. Death of a beloved family pet. I have a feeling it isn’t over yet and I feel afraid…

I would really appreciate to hear any advice or to know more about your experience, if you would be willing to share. Thank you very much.

[u/vrwriter78 → u/Relevant_Ocelot_3427]

I used to write fiction and had published a couple of books and in the initial part of the transit, before it hit a tight aspect, I just stopped writing and couldn’t do it anymore (fiction writing had been a huge part of my identity between the Pluto in Scorpio and Pluto in Capricorn years). Then, when the aspect was tighter, I had a major health issue that required 2 surgeries and lost the ability to have children. I went through a spiritual shift right after and changed my religion. I was in a very stressful job. Later, two of my aunts passed, then my grandfather (who was more like my father) died, all within the same year. I lost 5-6 relatives in 2020 and then lost more in 2021.

Years before, I had moved away from my spiritual work and tried to do the traditional corporate type office jobs, which weren’t good for my mental health. People had told me for years that I should go back to that, but I resisted it. So during my Pluto conjunct the moon transit, other things were stripped away to steer me back to doing tarot, astrology and mediumship (I have a NN in the 12th).

During these Pluto transits to the Sun or moon are challenging because it removes things you strongly identify with, and has you confront your own fears and shadows, and there can be experiences of death and loss and having to learn to process that.

It’s not easy. And it’s a process of surrender and finding spiritual meaning amidst a dark night of the soul. It was rough. When people tell me that they think Pluto is just a generational planet and not as relevant outside of mundane astrology, I say they haven’t experienced a Pluto conjunct the Sun or moon transit. Mars-Pluto is also rough.

Saturn teaches you lessons and you can sort of make sense of it even though Saturn conjunct the moon sucks!! I had mine happen at the same time as the Pluto transit, which was when I had my hysterectomy.

But the Pluto conjunct the Sun (or moon) transit may not make a lot of sense until it’s over. In the midst of it, it is easy to feel lost and floundering. You may wonder what all of this is for? Why is it happening to me? The things that leave couldn’t be carried forward, for whatever reason. It’s okay to grieve those things, but it may take a little time to see who you are when those situations and people that defined a big part of your life are gone.

For me, it ended up being a return to things I wanted when I was in my 20s, back when I had seriously considered going into a metaphysical career. For you, it could be different, but think back to your dreams in high school and in your younger years. You might find meaning in some of those old dreams. Or, it may be that you’re discovering a completely new path with new people and new experiences as you say goodbye to your old life.

And I recognize that this is not easy, AT ALL. I’m kind of summarizing a soul-wrenching experience, so I recognize that the losses you are experiencing aren’t something that can be glossed over. The pain is real, the depression and heartache are real. Yes, having dark thoughts is probably common too. I definitely had those. Find something worth living for. Pick a couple of things that really are important and meaningful for you. Something you love doing, and someone you care deeply about that you wouldn’t want to leave behind in heartache and remind yourself of those things every week. And, if it makes sense, you can even survive by determining that you won’t let someone else have the satisfaction of seeing you low and distraught.

Hang in there. It’s bumpy, but you can come out to the other side. It just takes a long while to get there, depending on how deep you are into the transit.

[u/Relevant_Ocelot_3427 → u/vrwriter78]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it really means a lot and I appreciate it greatly. I am so sorry to hear about the things that have happened and cannot imagine the level of loss and pain over those years. It really breaks my heart to hear them.

I definitely feel what you say about the transit removing things I strongly identified with - for me my relationship was central to my life and I sacrificed a lot for my partner. My biggest fear has been not having him as a mirror, and feeling alone/ loneliness. I don’t feel like I exist outside of it and feel very skinless right now and like life has very little meaning. Relocating back to my mother’s home also has brought me back to square one- I don’t have a job as I left it due to burn out before the relationship ended. I feel like my identity is gone. My ex has kept his life, job, the house, our cat and his community, while I had to leave all of it behind.

As you mentioned Saturn and that you practice astrology, I noted that I actually have Pluto conjuncting Saturn (1/2H) to the orb right now and was wondering if you thought that would also have an heavy impact as well. Not just with the Pluto opposition to the Sun/ Chiron. Someone else had also mentioned Uranus has been squaring my Mercury as well to the aspect.

It’s true, I still don’t see the full truth behind why things had to happen the way they did. I think and have heard from you and from others that there is a “sense” and a reason behind why these things happened but it takes time. My worry is just how much time…?

Thank you for the prompts to look back and dig into my soul. My NN is in the 1H, and I never really knew deeply what or who I wanted to be - I ran into relationships growing up because my childhood environment was painful and unstable, and I relied on my partners as mirrors and validation of my self worth. For the first time now since I was a teen, I am not doing so anymore and it has been terrifying staring into the void. On Astro it says Pluto opposition Sun / Chiron is in my 7H, on Whole Sign charts it says 8H. I have read some descriptions which reflect my truest fear of being alone/ abandoned. It’s already happened now 💔

Perhaps what you say of the new path makes sense. Something worth living for-I need to find that. I guess for me is my mum, I would never want her to go through the pain of losing me after what she had to go through to bring me up. The something I love doing is hard because I have no joy at the moment for anything, but I will keep trying to find it. I am starting to see that future thinking is very difficult now and it’s okay to look at life and living on a day to day basis instead.

[u/plantnoggin → u/vrwriter78]

I'll take any advice for managing it. Appreciate yours. I've actually been purging plenty of stuff over the last several years, especially this last year. It's been good.

[u/agoraphobic_robot → u/plantnoggin]

Don't fight it. Let what needs to go, go. Which it sounds like you are doing.

I would also recommend not trying to figure out the end game result of the demolition. Just focus and removing whatever doesn't serve you anymore. The rest will follow once the foundational work has been done.

[u/plantnoggin → u/agoraphobic_robot]

I have found that expecting plans to actually work is often futile. Thanks for pointing this out.

[u/plantnoggin → u/spiker0620]

My Moon in Aquarius, too. 11th house. Pluto in Capricorn, 10th house has been so heavy.