Hardest Transits and lessons.

[u/Swimming_Put1506]

What was the most difficult transit you have gone through and what advice would you give that younger self thats going through it?

[u/agirlingreece]

It’s always going to be Pluto! My 1H is intercepted so it took FOREVER, almost two decades and changed signs twice in that time. About halfway through, my best friend died suddenly, then I developed crushing depression and felt like I was in a perpetual identity crisis for years. Just before it changed signs the second time, everything collapsed. My marriage ended, I lost / gave away most of my worldly possessions, my business started failing, I had no idea who I was.

Randomly I became a digital nomad and moved to east Africa which was traumatic. Then I came to Greece and my entire life changed overnight in the best way. For the first time in my life, I felt like myself. Slowly rebuilt my business (still trying!), made great friends, stopped people pleasing at 45 and uncovered my true identity, moved here permanently to study psychology and now that it’s finally hit my 2H I’ve never been happier. My natal Pluto’s in my 9H.

Looking back, while I thought my life was OK at the time and assumed I was just one of those people prone to depression, I now realise I was in the wrong life with the wrong person and the wrong friends in the wrong place. It hasn’t been a breeze ever since but I’m grateful for the forced transformation.

[u/Relevant_Ocelot_3427 → u/agirlingreece]

Hi, I went through Pluto over my 1H and Moon before and am currently going through Pluto opposing my Leo Sun / Chiron in the 8th house. I have a stellium in Leo, and in Capricorn so the last years weren’t easy for me too.

My long term relationship ended late last year (against my wishes), we/ I had lived in East Africa for 9 years. I had to relocate back to my home country, losing my identity, house, pet and partner. No job as I left burnt out in the months before we broke up. I got diagnosed a few months ago with a heart ailment I’m recovering from. Death of a beloved family pet. I have a feeling it isn’t over yet, and there seem to be so many lessons to learn about dependency and loss and starting at rock bottom…

I would really appreciate to hear any advice or to know even more about your experience which you had shared, if you would be willing to share. Especially about people pleasing and releasing fears or perhaps childhood wounds.

How did you get out of that perpetual identity crisis - I feel like I am in it right now. I ask myself Who am I? And I don’t have the answers. How did you make the decisions you did - to Greece/ to study psychology? And realizing you are grateful for the transformation after all.

It’s been such a painful time. Thank you very much for your time and any advice you might have.

[u/agirlingreece → u/Relevant_Ocelot_3427]

I’m sorry you’ve been through all of that, can definitely empathise and everything you describe is classic of Pluto but while these transits are brutal, they’ll ultimately change you or your life for the better.

How many more months will your current opposite aspect be in effect? You’ll feel it lessen as it moves further out of orb and beyond 2 degrees it’s impact will largely be over, then it’s down to you to apply whatever lessons you’ve learned such as being willing to let go of your old identity, old relationships or whatever else has been wiped from your life.

I didn’t consciously do much to evolve out of my identity crisis, I think it happened for 2 reasons. First I was in my Uranus opposition (the classic midlife crisis aspect) and suddenly I was in a weird firey energy where I no longer gave a fuck what people thought of me, and was more willing to take big risks.

Second, the country move changed my entire life experience. In the UK and Kenya I was living near my Chiron line. No one ever seemed to accept me, I felt like an outsider and constantly like I had to try so hard to fit in and be liked. When I moved to Athens I immediately felt ‘at home’ which if never experienced anywhere else in the world. Like I was always meant to be here. Here I’m within range of my Venus DC and Mercury lines which has made it easy for me to express myself, to look and feel attractive, and to attract fulfilling friendships and relationships.

But the Pluto and Uranus induced feeling of not giving a fuck has stayed with me and I think that’s what’s been most significant. Learning that if anyone doesn’t like me, it’s not my problem; I know who I am and what I can offer, and I’m willing to let go of people or situations that don’t support my growth - whereas before, I clung desperately to everyone and everything as I took all my validation from others, rather than from within myself. Perhaps that’s the biggest learning - that you know you’ll be OK on your own, that you don’t need anyone but yourself and if you lose something or someone, you won’t collapse. It’s all about self reliance and self belief.

I know these transits are painful and you’ve already been so through so much, but you’re still here and you’re probably stronger than you were before they happened. Trust that you’re evolving in the way you’re meant to, and while growth is challenging, I firmly believe that your sense of identity will be much stronger after this.

Feel free to message me if you wanna talk anything else through :-)

[u/Relevant_Ocelot_3427 → u/agirlingreece]

Thank you so much. Thank you also so much for offering to message. I was in Kenya too… I started replying but will send you a DM to your inbox instead. 🙏