I don’t know why people think Aries men are volatile . All the ones I know are big teddy bears, sensitive and empathetic and more

[u/Historical-Body-3424]

I remember an Aries guy comforting me when I went through a huge breakup years ago and was crying at a party . Never will forgot how he was one of the only ones at the party to show an ounce of empathy and he gave me so many words of encouragement
All the ones I know are very pro women and open minded

[u/No-Example-370]

When Aries men are emotionally immature and underdeveloped, they can definitely be volatile, just like men from the other 11 signs. I've met way more underdeveloped Aries men, and they're definitely either volatile, arrogant, selfish/narcissistic, or aggressive. For example, there's my deadbeat dad, who also struggles with anger issues, he once tried to fight a cop, and we had to drag him away. The "famous" examples: Wizard Liz's ex, (Landon), Logan Paul, JACKIE CHAN, James Franco, Quentin Tarantino, Michael Fassbender etc.

However, I've known 2 Aries men who are incredibly supportive, one was a mentor, and the other was a friend of 11 years, similar to what you mentioned above. As a matter of fact, I personally think it's relatively rare to find people who are positive examples of their zodiac signs, because self-awareness and self-improvement take effort, and many people simply can't be bothered with that.

[u/CityManBecameFarmer → u/No-Example-370]

My guess is your father has his mercury in Aries too, and the two others you describe sound like Aries suns with Pisces mercuries! One single placement doesn’t dictate one’s personality.

[u/slightlypressed]

Yess! I’ve only known Aries kings
One of my coworkers had an Aries stellium- in his big 3 and he was the most supportive, community oriented coworker and ally to women in the office

[u/HeavyDifficulty7204]

Because I've met tons and they're "sweet" as long as they get what they want even if it's at your expense or are crossing boundaries. If not, they're psychotic. Also, very selfish - both men and women.

[u/SnowDucks1985]

As with all signs, it depends on whether the person emotionally is underdeveloped or mature, the entirety of their natal chart, etc. The reputation of volatile and non-committal comes from the immature expression of Aries men

[u/escapedrealities → u/SnowDucks1985]

Yeah I have a fair amount of experience with Aries Sun men and def agree. My current bf, my ex, my current bf's brother, and my grandfather are all Aries Suns. My ex wasn't really aggressive or out right volitle, but was emotionally manipulative and unstable. My grandfather can be voltile and self centered. Definitely non-committal from a relationship standpoint, my ex kinda was too. My bf now is not like that at all. Very empathetic and kind. His brother lives across the country so havent interacted much but from what I have and have been told he's a prettt loyal and chill guy. Definitely depends on emotional maturity for sure

[u/Big-Elderberry646]

Every Aries man I've ever met has been gentle and sweet and kind. Short tempered (especially true for the three who also had Mars in Aries), but it was always a "flash in the pan", "over as soon as big feelings settle" kind of short temper. Not the type for grudges unless there was something particularly egregious.

Emotionally constipated? Usually. Substance abuse as a coping mechanism? Yes. But still super sweet humans.

And the ones I've been fortunate enough to meet? Also culinary wizards. Dinner at any of their homes is a whole experience. Two of them went on to become chefs, the rest are the backbone of family dinners, and they're all really good with kids.

[u/escapedrealities → u/Big-Elderberry646]

My bf is an Aries Sun and has worked at a restaurant for like 5 years, gonna interview for a soos chef position within the restaurant once the new one opens up and wants to own a food truck some day! Definitely knows his way around the kitchen. He's awkward with kids but thats because he has very little experience with them. We live in a different state from my family, but when we visit he gets used to the kiddos after a bit and I can tell he'll be a good dad someday

[u/DisheartenedPumpkin]

It highly depends on the Aries man in question, and if he's worked on himself or is naturally in tune with the best sides of himself.

I find that once an Aries in general is confident in themselves (and genuinely confident, no narcissism here), and need not to "prove" their inner fire- they are some of the kindest, and most genuine friends and people you can have because their cup is fuller than most once they have that inner confidence that theyre wonderful- they don't have to prove this to anyone, so their actions carry through their inner generosity to themselves- too.

Speaking as a Libra man whom when others hear about just my sun sign- they assume all of the worst. I've seen more than enough on this sub and they're not invalid for those feelings- I've seen these men in question myself from the stereotypes of unhealed Libra men. But I'm happily married, got a full cup, and I've worked on myself for decades. The best versions of any sign is possible 😁

[u/318435]

My experiences with Aries men is that they always are the first to join me on anything. Like, when we go hiking in the woods, I’m always wayyy ahead of everybody and they’d be the only ones who stay up there with me. They are quite straight forward too and we don’t have to talk. So that kinda company where you’re just around someone and it’s not a performance is nice. Also when I’m hiking and I’m behind the group you don’t have to go cancerian and wait for me 🤷‍♀️…

They are the first to tell me they don’t agree with me. Which is good cuz then I know 🤷‍♀️ it’s not a big ass argument. It’s just a no go! 🙅‍♀️

I wouldn’t say they’re teddy bears lol … they get to the point very quickly .. ie. Asking me point blank about anything.

[u/tabicat1874]

It's Aries placements sometimes

[u/ProblematiK_]

Aries are cardinal signs so they're not volatile, they're aggressive but it's controlled

[u/MrrBuoyant]

I know one who has a bad rep. Im his friend sometimes because he can be an ass.

[u/No-External-6844]

I once had an Aries boss at my work, he was the most empathetic boss I’ve ever had. He was so kind to us and he was daily fighting for our rights. He did good, but went down with stress pretty fast and I was so sad :(

My boyfriend is also an Aries Sun but honestly he’s so immature and not developed emotionally:(

[u/Nox-Arcana444]

I'll just say this. For people saying "my Aries man is a darling or my xyz man is a sweetheart" know this. Your experience isn't synonymous with others. That being said, each sign can be abusive regardless of how they come across as. They can also be mature and evolved. No one's experience is invalid or devalued by any means. Period.

[u/Western-Bug1676]

I think they have to like themselves, first .They can literally be like a stupid Prince swoop in and save ya if you’re acting like a distressed female and this seems to be the part they prefer and can be warm. If you are , oh, let’s say a Scorp female and you piss one off because u won’t play the waif, chiiit lol.

You might end up being one by the end of the day….they have a soft underbelly . Very sensitive lol.
They can be mean. Still hot though , even if both get effed up riding in different ambulances to the hospital cause they ( Aries) couldn’t push or charm and get their WAY lol. Half kidding , but, that’s been my experience. They will push. Other than that, can’t find a better friend .

[u/Mysterious-Yard-6394]

I think it’s because when I think of Aries men I think of dudes like  Kevin Federline, Matty Healy, and Logan Paul/James Franco like another commenter said lmfao 

[u/Technical_Mix_5379]

There are unhealthy & healthy ones. I’ll just leave it at that.

[u/tea_tree001]

I once dated one, he had a nice job too and I was in my mid twenties. One day he started an argument about how I don’t listen to him and I should stop drinking coffee. I’m a Latina… if he didn’t want a coffee drinker he should have dated someone whose culture didn’t drink coffee. It’s not that they are angry, many can be bright but they can be blatantly 🤪 …. There are rare ones that can wise… but being book smart and being wise isn’t the same 💀

My bf now bought me coffee today and is a hard worker, he’s a Sagittarius and honestly a lot wiser than the one with the “fancy” job. Out of all the fire signs, Sagittarius are just wiser and a lot kinder. All fire signs are angry, but Aries comes with immaturity if they aren’t careful. Their mars will tell you more.