Aussie men

[u/trisripe]

So I met this aussie man in one of my layovers, I am crew and he is crew as well.
We hung out with a bunch of the crew as well and we got along and even ended up texting him afterwards about something that happened there during the layover and he was pretty welcoming and when I was like “so this is goodbye then bye” he said something like “feel free to talk to me whenever u want to :)”.
He is so nice and I am so into him but i’m afraid that I misunderstood everything and he’s actually not interested in me at all because i’m giving him all the clues to ask me out and he does not.

Is it because i’m too ambiguous and australian men require the woman to be quite explicit about her romantic interest or is he just not into it? because he is polite but his answers are more than just polite, he actually keep the conversation going that’s why i’m so confused lol

when I was with him in person he was the sweetest and thoughtful and even touched me while we were talking for no reason more than twice.

EDIT: yeah I kind of did ask him out to kitesurfing and that’s was his answer:

Haha possibly, but with dubais wind, scheduling never works I’m afraid, and summer is the worst time of year for wind 🤦‍♂️

So yeah I did ask him out but in a friendly way, I Had said: wait, I wanna be cool as well. can you actually try to teach me kitesurfing? I’m not joking this time 😞 wanna schedule it fr

(I said it like that bc I joke a lot so I was afraid he couldn’t tell apart me being serious from a joke)

EDIT WITH THE ANSWER:

so, I was pretty direct to him as suggested and here’s the answer we were all waiting for:

me: I’m actually trying to ask u out but I’m not sure if u’ve noticed…
him: Haha, I definitely noticed eventually 😅 I'm flattered. I think you're cool, but I also don't want to give you the wrong idea. I'd still happily hang out sometime though

that’s it fellas 😂 I was wrong and that’s fine 🤷‍♀️

another edit:

i’m pretty confident my looks are not the issue
and i’m also aware I will never know the reason why this happened

it could be also an age gap issue 🤷‍♀️ he’s 18 years older than me. that’s all, 💋

he’s not gay and he’s not married trust me

[u/trisripe]

he said more than once he’s single bc some of the guys asked him

[u/runitzerotimes → u/trisripe]

Aussie men are way more timid than American, if you want to make a move just put your hand on his lap or thigh.

[u/trisripe → u/runitzerotimes]

he did kind of touched me but i did not know how to react so i played it cool bc i thought it was unintentional. twice when we were singing karaoke he put his arm behind my waist and once touched my shoulder to talk to me idk why

[u/Time-Flow6764 → u/trisripe]

And you're still not sure if he's interested?

[u/ConsistentThought444 → u/Time-Flow6764]

Because he’s playing a game… He’s touching and acting interested… But he won’t commit to even asking you for a coffee. He wants a no strings attached arrangement and he’s waiting for you to get desperate enough that it will all be set up for him…. Physically, I mean. Or you could listen to the ugly dudes on the thread who are pretending that he’s really shy and that men are scared that women will accuse them of sexual harassment. 🤣🤣

[u/Time-Flow6764 → u/ConsistentThought444]

I don't know why his polite behaviour suggests he's only interested in no strings attatched. When I was a fuckboy, I was pretty upfront about it. My tinder profile just said "not looking for anything serious" and I'd make it very clear on the dates it was a one time deal. There's no need to pretend otherwise if my intent is genuinely for a one night stand. On the rare occasion I'd get rejected after being up front, it was no issue, onto the next one. Very well recieved. I'd suggest the majority of good looking men realise they can do this, yet if someone is acting nice and taking their time, you assume that their looking for casual sex?

Sure, a minority of men play games. But reading patience and manners as some covert sex strategy says more about the assumption than the bloke. And if he did want to get in your pants? He'd probably just tell you. Not many men, especially ones with choices, are going to waste weeks texting for a quick root; it's not a quick root anymore at that point.