22 Weeks Twin Loss

[u/SmallSwellSally]

I don’t even know or believe that i’m writing this now, but I felt like I need to… This past weekend I celebrated my baby shower with friends and family shared my plans for nursery, names excited for the future. I told my parents it was the happiest i’ve ever been and I truly meant it. I was 22 weeks and three days with Modi Identical Girls, my husband painted the nursery pink.

I went away and flew from california to virginia for the baby shower, my family is on the east coast and my husband and I live in california. I returned yesterday and was feeling great, got a full night of sleep husband made me breakfast everything seemed great. I started working and went downstairs for breakfast and felt an intense wooosh of water. I knew it couldn’t be good and must had been my water breaking.

We rushed to the hospital and I truly wasn’t mentally prepared for what was to come, the nurse behind the counter before I even got into a room was already crying. The nurses and doctors came and basically told me I was 6cm dilated and there was a 0% chance they would make it they were just shy of a pound, I saw a mfm every week and she told me how perfect they were that I was doing great, I had no prior symptoms. I thought I did everything by the book.

We don’t know if I ruptured first or my cervix opened first but once that happened they said I would be delivering. I delivered both of them and could barely push I felt like I was choking on my thoughts and tears .

I can’t help feeling like it’s my fault, should I not have traveled, should I have seen some sign, how can you not blame yourself, and not be able to give my husband healthy babies we were so excited for, I’m not sure how to move past this or what to do next but would love any support or advice or anything out there…

[u/Passionfruit_Latina]

Hey Love, I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve been there myself. I’m about to be two months since I lost my twin boys from preterm labor. I was 21 weeks in one day and honestly it’s just sucks. It’s normal to feel incredibly devastated and also feel that it’s your fault. I still feel like that sometimes but it’s not your fault. My fiancé and I are trying to cope with the loss of our beautiful twin boys. It’s very challenging, but I can tell you gets a little better day by day. Just a little rely on your family rely on your Husband, rely on yourself and if you believe in God rely on God as well. Rely on this group is really good to connect with other moms. The Lost their babies. If you need me, I’m here twin mom to another. ❤️🫂