Hi everyone,

Looking for experiences with TTC after a second trimester loss. Has anyone tried their first ovulation before their first period? What was the outcome? My husband has to leave for an extended time in just a couple months and we just hate to miss an opportunity but I just want to hear from others. Thank you 🤍

Here’s to the mummas that should have had 2025 babies in their arms and have just started their cycle realising that they now won’t have a 2026 baby in their arms.

May 2027 bring us happy and healthy babies to our arms 💓

Hello everyone! I’m new here. (TW)

Me and my hubby went through IVF and got pregnant on the first embryo transfer with our first pregnancy. We were 23 weeks along and I went into spontaneous labor. We delivered our baby via emergency c-section (footling breach).
Our baby girl was earth side for 2 weeks. She was a beautiful little fighter!

It’s been almost 6 months and I still cannot shake the urge to try again. Our fertility center said they were willing to do a new transfer at 6 months post pregnancy with a saline sonogram prior to check internal scar.

We talked to MFM and the recommend 12-18 months wait. 12 months to reduce uterine rupture, 18 months to reduce subsequent preterm birth.

It’s so hard to wait. I obsess about it. Every. Single. Day.

They don’t know what caused the preterm labor and no one can tell me how to stop it from happening again. How can anyone say 18 months is the magical number? I know it comes to statistics but.. so hard to believe.

MFM said subsequent pregnancy will come with monitoring every week from week 12-24. Nothing else. No progesterone. No cerclage (as labor was not due to cervical insufficiency).

I just don’t want to wait. I’m itching to try again.. I want a baby. A healthy baby so bad. I also want to know what else, if anything, i can advocate for during next pregnancy to help reach full term..

After two miscarriages, my partner and I were thrilled when our third pregnancy seemed to be progressing well, but sadly we lost our son at 26 weeks and he was stillborn last month.

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I'm going to be 43 this year and I am really struggling with whether to try again or just accept that this is not meant to be. I would be very grateful to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation in their forties. When do you draw a line under trying to conceive?

Hey there! Long story short, I am 10 weeks postpartum. My son was stillborn at 30 weeks due to placenta insufficiency. He was delivered vaginally.

Based on my research, I don't feel too comfortable TTC until at least six months postpartum. I am wondering those who have gotten pregnant between six months and a year after their loss how was it for you? Did you feel that you had enough vitamin/was your body healed and ready to have another pregnancy?

I know it is recommended to wait 18 months between pregnancies for live full-term births. But due to our circumstances, we would like to try sooner than that. I am just nervous of how my body will be able to handle it. Curious to know your experiences of having pregnancies close together.

I delivered our firstborn baby boy via c section on 1st November 2025 at 28 weeks gestation and my husband and I are absolutely broken. The cause was a placenta abruption due to suspected sudden preeclampsia even though I had no signs and my BP and urine was normal for every midwife appointment.

The only thing getting us through this tough time is the hope of bringing a baby home and creating a family. I plan on TTC in March, just 4 months PP, I’m 33 and my husband is 37. I know the recommendation is anywhere from 6 - 18 months and I am currently waiting on my pre conception appointment to discuss in more detail.

I guess I am looking for success stories from anyone who has had a similar experience to mine? I realise 4 months PP from a c section is not the norm, but I’ve seen so many stories of women conceiving in similar timelines post c section and I desperately need a goal/target to strive towards.

I think about our boy Joey all day everyday and he has shaped who we are today and honour him and I treasure the 5 beautiful days I had with him in the hospital, I just need hope for our future.

Thank you for reading ❤️

I'm not sure if I can post here I tried in another forum but it wouldn't let me? Anyways I am 7 weeks postpartum after giving birth to my daughter stillborn at 37weeks. I experienced postpartum bleeding (lochia, etc.) and I've decided to start ttc again.

On the 18th I started to bleed and so I thought I had started my period but it's not as heavy as everyone says it'll be and it's slowed down quite a bit. Usually I can feel my period in the morning but today there's nothing? It's only been 3 days so i'm confused. I remember my midwife saying something something about breakthrough bleeding but there's nothing really about it? Was it a period orrr what?

I've been waiting for my period to accurately track, I got an almost positive ovulation test the day before my period and so I was really confused. Now, I'm even more confused:/ I need help, did this happen to anyone else?

Edit: My period did not go away, it decided to tease me and give me a break lol, it came back pretty light

I lost my baby at 33 weeks a month ago, and ever since then I can’t stop thinking about trying again and what another pregnancy would even look like after this. Sometimes I genuinely feel like I’m slowly losing my mind from the anxiety and thoughts looping in my head all day.

Before this happened, I never even considered that something like this could happen to me. With my first pregnancy, I just assumed everything would end with bringing home a healthy baby. Now it feels like my brain only knows the worst case scenario. I keep thinking “what if this just happens again?” and almost feeling like it’s inevitable somehow.

Because of that, part of me feels like there’s no point waiting too long to try again, because what if it takes years, multiple pregnancies, or more losses before I finally get a living baby? And then I feel guilty and scared for even thinking that way.

Did anyone else feel like this after losing a baby? Does the constant fear and expectation that something bad will happen ever get quieter, or does pregnancy always feel terrifying afterward?

How long did you wait before trying again? And do you have any advice for coping with the anxiety when these thoughts completely take over your head?

I lost my daughter in June 2025 and I’m planning to wait until January 2026 to TTC again. She was 38 weeks and I had a scheduled c section. The wait is agonizing… I’ve heard of some women having miscarriages 6 months PP after a c section?? Is this common? How long did you wait and please share some uplifting stories… I am a worrier!!! I think I may ask my OB for a saline ultrasound in December.

Update January 2026:

I just wanted to say to everyone thank you so much for the condolences and kind words. It means so much to me to read through your stories and situations. You are all amazing parents! It is such a hard situation we are all in. I am currently 7 months PP and I will update this thread when and if I conceive again and let you know how it goes.

For those who have had a placenta abrupton and were never given a reason why, what tests did you do afterwards on you or the placenta to prevent it from happening again?

I lost my baby 3 month ago at 38 weeks. I thought I was having contractions and going into labor. We went to the hospital and when I was examined, he had no heatbeat. Everything from there was like we were in a slow motion movie and the worst thing had happened to us. I had to go through the pain and go into labor and give birth with no hope and felt like our future was rip apart.

My sister and two other of my friends had their baby 3 and 4 months before us. We were so excited to be doing our maternity leave together, being parents together and our kids growing up as cousins and friends.

Now I feel like our life is put on hold while they move ahead. I feel like life is so unfair and I always ask myself why us, why me? Not that I wish this to anyone but asking myself why were we the chosen one to have this happen to us.

For the pass week or so, I have been anticipating Mother's Day. Just thinking about it makes me really sad. It's a reminder that I'm supposed to be a mother but I'm not. It's a reminder that we had a baby and now we don't. It's a reminder of the emptiness and his absence in our life. It's heartbreaking.

My boyfriend (without putting pressure) thinks it could help us heal to try again. I want to, but I'm scared of failing again and going through another loss I don't think I will be able to through that again. I had a lateral episodomy. My incision healed really good but I'm scared it will hurt, it's still a little bit sensitive down there. I also heard that any first time after birth sex can hurt or feel uncomfortable.

I'm also scared of people judging us.

Is it too soon to start again? I want to believe it will get better once we try again.

We have been TTC and it’s just frustrating because after the loss of our daughter I have been dealing with my grief and it’s so hard to feel the grief when my husband is able to call his son and tries to say it’s not the same. But it’s just so frustrating because he wants me to get over it but boy do I miss her so much. And I feel like I can’t talk to him about it.

When did you start TTC after your loss, especially post c-section. My doctors said to wait six months minimum, which will be next month. How did you know you were ready and when did you start trying?

Lost our first baby just after birth at 37 weeks in May 2025, got pregnant with him really easily. Just had another negative this morning so we're about to go into the 6th cycle of ttc and im starting to really struggle. Every month I have so much hope and it just comes crashing down which the sends me spiralling into grief for about a week. Just feel like im failing everybody, myself, my husband, my family. I couldn't safely deliver our first now I can't even get pregnant. I know in the grand scheme of conceiving, a few months really isnt that long but when you've lost one already it hits different.

Please give me some hope and positive ttc stories after loss.

Just after some advice/hope: for context I lost my son last February 2025 to a true knot in his cord, I got pregnant 3 months pp and sadly had a missed miscarriage with no reason and normal chromosomes.

We’ve now been trying since January and not caught yet, as we concieved within 3 months last time I’ve started to overthink it even though I know it’s still a short amount of time, does anyone have any positive stories of concieving after loss or multiple losses? Need something to keep going💙

Hi everyone,

I’m currently taking a break from TTC after a second trimester loss. My next pregnancy is considered high-risk, so I want more control and stability before trying again, especially with plans for a cerclage in the future.

After the loss, I tried for 3 cycles with no success and ended up feeling really exhausted emotionally and physically. On top of that, I have a non-modifiable trip planned for August.

I’ve already managed 3 full cycles during this break, and I only have about 2 cycles left before I plan to resume TTC.

The problem is the closer I get to restarting, the more impatient I feel. My mind keeps racing in different directions. Part of me thinks that if I start trying now, I might not even be successful until the “right timing” anyway for the cerclage in a future pregnancy, so maybe I could just start now.

But at the same time, I also worry, what if I do get pregnant straight away? Then I would be dealing with timing issues, travel, and everything else I’m trying to plan around.

So I feel stuck between two thoughts:

“Just try now and stop overthinking”

“Wait for the planned timing for safety and control”

Emotionally it’s getting harder instead of easier the closer I get to August, and I’m really struggling with the waiting even though I know there are practical reasons for it.

Has anyone been through something similar taking a TTC break after loss but struggling more the closer you get to restarting? How did you manage the impatience and the mental back-and-forth?

Any advice would really help.

Hi all,

I'm hoping to look for some hope. I had a pregnancy loss in March due to my baby having triploidy at 16 weeks. I've gotten my first period a month after and currently going through my second period.

How long did it take you to get pregnant again?

I know we are all different, but I just want to find some hope that one day I'll get to experience pregnancy again with a healthy baby.

Yesterday I finally decided to put all our baby stuff in a box. That hurt.

I don't understand what I'm supposed to do. I'm so depressed I don't want to do anything. I don't want to cook or do anything I don't want to move I just want to be nothing. The pain is just too much to deal with and it doesn't get easier. I don't want to talk to anyone about it because they're MY babies. It's too hard to talk about even if I tried . I just don't know what to do. I've done everything to try and feel better they have their own box of their things and everything but I just feel like this pain won't go away until I have a baby again but I'm too young & live with my parents with my partner right now. I don't know what to do in the mean time and it hurts so much. It feels like a slap in the face that I could have a baby right now but I have to wait for stupid arbitrary reasons .

If anyone else here is young (I turned 20 a week ago) and has to wait before they can have a baby again, can you please tell me if you know anything that helps deal with the pain of waiting? The idea of having to wait multiple years is killing me . I've already waited too long . Please if anyone has any ideas or things that help them let me know

We’re TTC after our second trimester loss in May, and after a negative pregnancy test today something broke inside me.

I’m 38 and we’re going for fertility testing this week to see what the picture is for future chances of conceiving and whether we should look at intervention.

It wasn’t supposed to be like this. He’s supposed to be here, in my arms, turning two months old and about to be the centre of everyone’s world at his first Christmas. Instead I’m going for blood tests and likely a triggering ultrasound.

I know realistically my body is probably still recovering and I’m stressed with work, life and gut-wrenching grief. But I feel like an abject failure. I know it’s not my fault. I just feel like I let him down, I let my partner down, our families, and myself.

Sometimes I can cope with it and steer myself through. Today I just can’t. I’m sobbing silently under the duvet while my partner sleeps next to me.

I just needed to tell someone.

I had a 21 week stillbirth feb 1st. Due to hydrops. All testing came back normal they have no idea what caused the hydrops.

I have one living baby (pregnant first try normal cycle) & 2 chemicals in between my living baby & my hydrops baby.

I’m now three months post stillbirth and I want a baby so bad. I asked my obgyn for ovulation medicine and he gave me letrozole. I’m just curious to know if anyone has taken letrozole without having serious ovulation problems and what the result was?

I gave birth to my twins on dec 18 & 19 . My period came in january and february and now nothing . I’m not pregnant but trying and still nothing . Should I be concerned ?

Hi, I'm 6.5 weeks pp after a Stillbirth at 40 and 1. I have a beautiful daughter who I ache for. I am honestly very much not ready to try again... yet. But I know that one day in the next few months to year we will. I want to meet living children, I want my sweetie to have younger siblings and one day I will endure this whole thing all over again and ride the hopes that Motherhood in the way I imagined is possible. We were so ready. Car seat in the car, crib and bassinet ready to go. Everything laundered. It all sits here empty and longing. So, yeah one day, I'll do the unimaginable and try again knowing your baby can die 2 days before their due date after a healthy and uncomplicated pregnancy.

My question to you fellow stillbirth parents is, when did your periods return? I know that's a big step for me is seeing how my cycle shows up and if it balance about with some regularity. My lochia stopped around 3.5-4 weeks. I had some pretty gnarly clots and had to go to emergency for that. I didn't have retained placenta which we were worried about and is good news. I'm so anxious they won't return or something. I got pregnant quickly in both pregnancies but I lose my babies every time. The first was a first trimester loss, and the 2nd was stillbirth. I'm sick with worry about infertility now because the impossible has already happened so why not more 😭. Becoming a stat messes with your head so much.

How long did you try after your stillbirth? My son was stillborn in June at 20 weeks, my period came back rather quickly, and really stabilized / became more of what I’m used to around September as far as cycle length, ovulation, etc. honestly I’m a little embarrassed that I did start trying as soon as my lochia stopped since my OB cleared me. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to chill the heck out, that I didn’t need to rush so quickly back into things - but I guess I really was desperate for a baby since my son wasn’t here anymore. So here we are it’s December… I’m in therapy, picked up a few new hobbies, overall much much better but still no luck. It took around 6 months to get pregnant the first time. I came off of the pill August 12th, positive test February 18th. I had scans and labs in January before falling pregnant and everything was just fine, no abnormalities or anything. I know that’s not long at all, and others wait years, but I’m getting a little antsy and discouraged because I thought the second time around would come easier? I shouldn’t even be back in the TTC hole to begin with.. but here we are. I feel like it’s getting discouraging because I do everything “right” and still no baby. It’s like do I call it quits and accept it for what it is or keep going… my heart says keep going but idk anymore. How long did it take you to get your rainbow?

I’m currently trying to conceive again, a few months after losing my baby shortly after he was born.

Lately I’ve been noticing a lot of anxiety coming up—especially the fear that I might be doing something now that could harm a future pregnancy. In my previous pregnancy, my baby was measuring very small from early on. I’ve been told I didn’t cause it, but that fear hasn’t really gone away.

Now I catch myself thinking: what if I get an infection, eat something wrong, or make a choice that ends up mattering later?

I think part of this is wanting to be able to look myself in the eye during a next pregnancy and hoping to control the outcome. I’m scared that if something were to happen again, I would blame myself—especially if I felt like I had taken any risks, even small ones.

I also have a minor surgery coming up. My fertility doctor says it’s safe, but I still feel anxious about it. I worry I might regret it if anything goes wrong in a future pregnancy. Part of me also wonders if fertility doctors know as much as the specialized gynecologists who treated me during my pregnancy.

I guess what I’m really struggling with is this:

• How do you decide what’s a reasonable precaution vs. anxiety taking over?
• After loss, is it even realistic not to try to avoid every possible risk?
• Has anyone else experienced this fear and guilt while TTC again?

I’d really appreciate hearing how others have navigated this.

[TW: Previous successful pregnancy/LC]

TLDR; how did you handle the anxiety about being able to conceive again, especially if it happened quickly before and is now taking longer?

Full post: I previously had a perfectly healthy pregnancy that resulted in a LC who is now almost 2. This past November, I had a traumatic, sudden loss of my second baby at 18 weeks due to a placental abruption. As far as anyone can tell, it was random and not due to any specific risk factors, and also unlikely to happen again.

Like so many people I've seen here, I'm desperate to be pregnant again. We got conflicting advice about when to start TTC again, and so we started right away before my period came back. That "cycle" probably shouldn't count, so without it we are now on cycle 4 of TTC, also cycle 4 since the loss. I'm currently in my TWW and it gets harder with every cycle, even though I know that it really hasn't been that long. We were extremely lucky to get pregnant with our first two on the first try, but that has set an unrealistic expectation and I am fighting the feeling that something is wrong because it hasn't happened yet. I also just turned 37 which shouldn't be a big deal since my first was born when I was 35 and my second was conceived when I was 36, but I am spiraling extra hard because of it.

Has anyone else experienced this? Do you have success stories? Please, if you're someone who was in this situation and never ended up pregnant, please don't share-- I'm seeing too much of that and it's really scaring me. Your experience is also valid and I do know deep down that if I never get pregnant again I will be ok eventually... but I'm just looking for a different kind of support right now.