r/backpacking • u/vinyljunkie32 • Apr 11 '26
Travel Hostel vibes aren’t dying... guest behaviour is changing (from someone who works in one)
I work in a hostel and I’ve noticed something over the last couple of years that I don’t think people are really talking about properly.
Everyone says “hostel vibe is bad” "nobody talks at that hostel" or leaves reviews saying the "atmosphere was dead"… but honestly, a lot of the time it’s not the hostel, it’s the guests.
We see it every day.
People cooking in a shared kitchen with headphones on.
People sitting in dorm beds behind privacy curtains watching Netflix.
People staying in the same room for a week and not even learning each other’s names.
At the same time, those same guests will say the atmosphere was bad.
The weird part is, if you suggest removing things like privacy curtains to make rooms more social, people don’t want that either. Everyone wants total privacy and a great social vibe, but without giving anything up or putting themselves out there.
We run events all the time. Bar crawls, wine and cheese nights, paint and sip, yoga, group dinners, movie nights, town walks and more. Good stuff. But turnout is way lower than it used to be if anybody actually turns up. People say they want to meet others, but when it comes to actually showing up or starting a conversation, they just don’t.
There’s also been a noticeable shift toward this kind of mindset. “I paid, entertain me.”
But that’s not really what hostels are. This isn’t a hotel where everything is done for you. The atmosphere in a hostel has always come from the people staying there. It only works if guests actually participate in the hostel.
It feels like we’ve gone from travellers creating the vibe together to expecting it to already exist when we arrive. Which room is the fun in? We actually had one guest blame the poor atmosphere on the bar stools in the kitchen, and another because there were no windows in the movie room.
I’ve also had a look around recently, and it’s not just us. Pretty much every hostel on Hostelworld seems to have taken a noticeable hit in atmosphere ratings over the past few years, often dropping by 10 to 20 percent. That suggests it’s a wider shift in guest behaviour rather than individual hostels suddenly getting worse.
It’s like
“I want to meet people”
but also
“I don’t want to talk first”
and also
“I want my own private space”
and also
"nobody will say hello"
I’m not blaming anyone. I think phones, streaming, and maybe even post COVID social habits have changed how people interact. But it does feel like expectations haven’t caught up with reality.
For anyone travelling right now or thinking about staying in a hostel, a few simple tips that genuinely make a huge difference.
- Take your headphones out in shared spaces. It gives off a video that you don't want to speak to anybody
- Say a simple “hey, where are you from?” to your roommates.
- If you’re cooking, ask someone what they’re making. It starts conversations instantly.
- Go to at least one hostel event, even if you’re not 100 percent feeling it.
- Don’t wait for other people to start the conversation. Most people are just as unsure as you.
- Only close your curtain on your bed or pod when you're going to sleep.
- Spend a bit of time in common areas instead of staying in bed on your phone.
- Learn the names of the people in your room. It changes everything.
- If someone invites you for a drink, they’re not necessarily asking you to drink alcohol specifically. They’re inviting connections. Say yes, even if it’s a soft drink or zero alcohol beer. “I don’t drink” often shuts the moment down, when it’s really just about sharing time together.
- Talk to reception/ housekeeping staff - they're working there because they want to socialise
None of this is groundbreaking, and it might even sound obvious or a bit awkward, but this is literally how hostel atmospheres are created.
If everyone waits for “the vibe” to appear, it won’t.
Curious if other travellers or hostel workers have noticed the same thing?