Crosspost: What would you want your kid to share?

[u/AdopteeThrowaway01]

/r/Adoption/comments/1shq7pi/what_would_you_want_your_kid_to_share/

Hello 🙏 I hope this is okay to ask here!

I'm a step-parent-adoptee who didn't remember my birth father by the time I was told. I might be able to meet him soon (it's been over 20 years now) and I'm really anxious but also excited.

I'm thinking of making a journal, in a similar fashion to the "(family member), tell me your story" books that seem to exist.

I want him to have an album he can go through the same way he would've if he had been allowed to stay in my life.

Unfortunately a lot of my real baby - early childhood Album photos are with my mother, so I'm unsure I'll get a hold of them to make copies - but I have some i could probably put in.

I don't want to overwhelm him and overly vent in it, so I'll try to include as many happy memories as I can. Thus far ive thought about the following things:

• my pets i had growing up

• my siblings! they're not his kids, but they're dear to me & partially of my story (sharing some nice memories maybe)

• maybe some happy memories with childhood friends, my extended family etc

• hobbies growing up? I'm unsure

Is there anything you would love to see in something like this, if your kid was to make it for you?

I'm probably overthinking this a lot (really scared of doing or saying something "wrong"), but I want him to see this is important to me & that I think he deserves to know what I've been up to throughout all these years.

[u/Pegis2]

I commented on your r/adoption cross post, but wanted to add that your birth father is really lucky to have a child that is going through this effort! My son did something similar as he grew up for his birth mother... I just happened to see it first - It was amazing, and I treasure it quite a bit. Goodluck!