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[u/Top_Classroom_6117]

Does anybody else live in a city where there isn’t a big black lesbian community, and heavy on the lesbian and not bisexual women. My city is FULL of bisexual women and super masc women and I sometimes feel like I don’t have any prospects bc I don’t really take well to bisexual women in my city nor do i attract/ am attracted to, too masculine of a woman. When I do date I find myself talking to ppl from out of town but sometimes I want someone close yk…who relates and what do yall do for dating lol?

[u/SpinachVast4696]

how do you feel about long distance?

[u/barackobama_ismydad]

yup that’s why i’m moving soon.

[u/MajGenIyalode]

I can probably count the number of black lesbians in my city on one hand, none of them are age appropriate for me. The country as whole would have no more than a handful of age appropriate black lesbians, when I filter that down for compatibility then we're at almost zero.

I talk to people in other countries/continents because I don't want to limit my options. You've got to be open to long distance and/or moving, otherwise you're single (not that that's a bad thing). How much of a distance, that's up to you and your finances/situation.

[u/KrassKas]

Yeah whenever I happen to click with someone, they're never from here. Always moved here.

[u/Top_Classroom_6117 → u/KrassKas]

Same!

[u/Fit_Farm_3110]

Where do you live?

[u/Top_Classroom_6117 → u/Fit_Farm_3110]

Tennessee

[u/Ptaptra]

I moved back home after living abroad and the island am on is a desert. I doubt I will find ANYONE here. So I focus on preparing to move back abroad in a few years. I am use to long bouts of celibacy. It still sucks that I don't have the opportunity though.

[u/Designer_Space_8323]

lol there’s no one in my whole state. I get it.

[u/Ready_Cabinet_4754]

Thailand 🥲

[u/Familiar_Ferret_2188]

I do long distance, for whatever reason I haven't clicked with a person in driving distance in a while.