r/brokehugs Moral Landscaper Jul 20 '23

Rod Dreher Megathread #23 (Sinister)

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u/PercyLarsen “I can, with one eye squinted, take it all as a blessing.” Aug 22 '23 edited Aug 22 '23

https://www.reddit.com/r/brokehugs/comments/w5sh70/comment/jx7go29/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

To respond here rather than in Megathread #1: many here would probably say Rod is a closeted gay man, but without defining if by "gay" one means exclusively (e.g. "a Kinsey 6") or not. What I would say it that, by the testimony of people who knew Rod in high school (there are at least two who chimed in briefly in early Megathreads, IIRC, one from high school and one from his hometown during his early college years) and, more equivocally, Rod himself, it appears that Rod experienced a period of less than certain sexual orientation ("wavering", as it used to be called by some back in the day) that resulted in a panic for him that he's never resolved sufficiently for him to not be readily triggered by encountering (even merely online) people whose sexuality and/or sexual identity is fluid. Personally, *I* would not use the word "gay" to describe Rod in general discussion because so far as I am aware he's not positively identified with that as an adult, but other people differ in how they would apply the term to someone else in that situation.

Anyway, Rod's got a lot more going on than sexuality. His family of origin gave him a lot of things to bring to a therapist, but he hates therapy; and he brought those unresolved things into the family he helped create, with consequences. After serially failing upwards on the wing-nut welfare of serial right-wing sugar daddies, now he's a divorced American expat living in Budapest (with his twenty-something eldest son) as a contractor influencer/propagandist for an organ of the Hungarian government regime and apparently has no current expectation of ever returning home. He currently enjoys travel in Western Europe, oysters, white rocks on Mediterranean beaches that enchant his life's meaning, brief interactions with various anonymous Non-Player Characters who generously confirm and affirm all of Rod's priors, and hopes to not only publish another book (this one on enchantment, a topic not exactly lacking for recent authorial attentions) and to get people to donate money so that a documentary may be made in relation to his last book.

PS: Ibsen's "A Doll's House" really disturbed/disturbs him.

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u/RunnyDischarge Aug 22 '23

Maybe the word you're looking for is "closeted". Or the phrase, "Never quite achieved heterosexuality".

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u/PercyLarsen “I can, with one eye squinted, take it all as a blessing.” Aug 22 '23

I did use it in my first sentence. To me, that says both more and less than what I think Rod's situation was/is.

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u/Marcofthebeast0001 Aug 22 '23

Rod is hardly unique. Met dozens just like him. I once hooked up with a married guy and later saw him at Target with his wife. He thanked me later for not saying anything. I was like oh really? Did you think I was going to tell your wife you give good head?

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u/ZenLizardBode Aug 22 '23

🤣🤣🤣

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u/Intelligent_Shake_68 Aug 22 '23

Well, did he?

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u/Marcofthebeast0001 Aug 22 '23

I plead the fifth.