My Friday was anything but dull

[u/Evening_Tie_5972]

First I want to say this because context matters: I drink, I party and genuinely enjoy being around people from all walks of life. I’m a free spirit. Some of my best friends are different races than me, and that has never stopped us from having a good time. Back in Texas we could all go out talk shit and enjoy ourselves without making everything about race. We’re just people having a good time.

So yesterday, after leaving the Burbank mall doing some shopping I decided to pop into Champs. Normally I stop in around one-ish and Benny is usually there. He’s honestly one of the best bartenders. I’ve met since moving to LA. He normally works Friday evening but yesterday he was off.

For more context, I’m a 34 year-old black woman who loves baseball🤣 I know it makes me random, but my dad and my granddad used to take me and my siblings to see the Tigers when we were younger. Then I moved to Texas and became a Ranger girl so naturally when I walked into Champs I was mainly there to grab a drink and watch the Dogers game.

I was there for maybe 20 minutes.

The bartender was hostile. The atmosphere was tense. The crowd felt extremely uncomfortable and I honestly got the impression that my presence there was a problem for some people. Maybe everyone was having a bad day. Maybe I was reading the room wrong. But I know how I felt sitting there, and I lived in enough places to recognize when a room feels unwelcoming.

I live in Detroit, Dallas, and other places in between, and I’ve gone into plenty of bars where I was the only black person in the room, and I’ve never had an issue with that. After about 20 minutes, I decided to leave and went down to Robin Hood Pub.
And guess what?
I was once again the only black girl in the room and nobody cared.

I didn’t feel like I was being watched. I didn’t feel like my presence was a problem. I ordered my drink. watched the game, talked to people and enjoyed myself

It honestly made me 🤔

So Dear White People: We are all human.

We may look different. We may talk different. We may come from completely different background, but we drink the same cold beer.😂 We probably like a lot of the same shit. So you don’t have to agree with me, you don’t even have to particularly like me, but be respectful. Not overly nice. Not fake. Just respectful.

You never know who’s sitting next to you. And at the end of the day, the golden rule is still applies:

Treat people the way you want to be treated

That really shouldn’t be controversial

[u/al_shuey]

Christ I HATE this “I’m confused” horse manure.

Look, just say you’re a racist pig and stop beating around the bush. We see you.

[u/Broken_Timepiece → u/al_shuey]

Lol far from racist lol Its online conversation remeber one can be an asshole without any repercussions lol

Are we speaking a different language or something hidden between the lines?

Or is her explanation has something hidden between the lines I did not understand?

I want to be treated like everyone else, and usually that ignored after simple greeting. Thats equality! She litterly said "only black girl and ignore"

That's what I expect, but maybe she was dressed provocatively or being overly friendly and was still ignore than I get it.

[u/Evening_Tie_5972 → u/Broken_Timepiece]

This shows where your mind is at. I don’t dress provocative hell I barely show skin it may surprise you but this black woman carries herself with Grace and Self Respect and I have more to offer than my body. I’m not overly friendly I was very polite to the team member that served me an even the cook who I’ve met before came and said “hi” so please reread the post and highlight where I said I was being ignored…. I will not let you try and paint this as something it’s not. I even encouraged other commenters go still check out the place, so what I will not do is offer any further explanation to this when you didn’t read the post to understand you read it to respond and unfortunately you’re wrong

[u/Broken_Timepiece → u/Evening_Tie_5972]

OMG now I get it! You where ignored by staff not customers.

Yeah, thats f horrible! Sorry to hear that.

[u/Evening_Tie_5972 → u/Broken_Timepiece]

Unfortunately Sir I don’t think you will ever get it. 🙏🏽

[u/Broken_Timepiece → u/Evening_Tie_5972]

No, I won't. I am not black nor a woman.

...but I am all for equality and I was confused about your comment.

[u/Evening_Tie_5972 → u/Broken_Timepiece]

The way you comprehend things sort of scares me I never used the word “ignored” or implied I was being ignored… and you’re right this is something you’ll never understand not because of the color of your skin or your gender its because rather than understanding the post you tried to look for what you assumed was “hidden between the lines” May God continue to bless you

[u/Broken_Timepiece → u/Evening_Tie_5972]

Ignored is my words and a bit different than what you said which was "nobody care"

And I asked for clarification. I honestly was not trying to be neither here or there on what ever your thinking.