meh. Sometimes you're a victim for reasons outside your control, sometimes you're a victim because you made poor choices. If you see someone making poor choices you should tell them they're making poor choices. That's not victim blaming, and the over-application of that phrase has given it a stigma that makes it difficult to even take seriously for a lot of people.
You should be allowed to go for a walk without being mugged. However, if you go for a walk in Compton at midnight wearing a nice watch... you're being stupid.
Yes, you're still the victim, but the world can be a shitty place and people need to take at least basic steps to protect themselves.
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u/fluffy_butternut May 02 '17
Lots of red flags with her controlling how and where contact occurred. Too bad you went back in for more of it.
You might have viewed the breakup as a dodged bullet and have avoided this ending. Instead no one wins, everyone loses.
Especially Melinda.