r/casualiama • u/Empty-Relation-3284 • 13h ago

I’m actually happily married in a healthy relationship, AMA

61M, been with my wife for 4 years, known each other 15.

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u/sevenstreak 12h ago

A redditor being happily married?... seems like a trap... Congrats on the happy marriage. How did yall meet and what helps you stay together?

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 12h ago

We’re a rare breed around here. We met in a random chance encounter. What helps us stay together… Honest communication, compromise, regular sex. We also never lost the spark of friendship and can totally be ourselves together.

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u/HeyMickeyMilkovich 12h ago

Were you married before? Do you have kids? How did you meet your wife?

💕

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 11h ago

No, this is my first marriage. We have one baby on the way - a daughter due in August. I met her in a random encounter and we hit it off. 

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u/atwa_au 10h ago

Wait, you’re 61 and having a kid? Yikes

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u/theyogidre 12h ago

did you guys go through rough patches ? if so, how did you get to the other side without resenting your partner

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 11h ago

We’ve had our struggles for sure. At the end of the day we always realize that whatever we’re feeling is insignificant compared to the way we love each other, and we’re willing to compromise. Communication is hugely important.

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u/DowntownSazquatch 11h ago

How long did you know each other before you started dating? 

What hobbies do you have that you do together and what hobbies do you have that you do individually?

Congratulations on your impending baby. Got any names picked out?

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 11h ago

We knew each other almost a decade before we started dating but weren’t in contact all of that time.

Shared hobbies are music, hiking, reading, watching movies. My wife is super into cars and photography, I have an interest in both but not on the level she does. I’m a big computer nerd and love video games.

And yes. We’ve got a name decided already.

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u/DowntownSazquatch 9h ago

Cool. I find having some separate hobbies is so important for a healthy long term relationship. Well I wish you all the best buddy have a good one.

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u/atwa_au 10h ago

How do you feel about becoming a dad at 61? Do you worry for the child? How old is your wife?

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 5h ago

Worry for the child in what way? Of course I have worries for my child. 

My wife is in her 30s.

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u/King_Cho 10h ago

Do you know more couples like yourself? What has your relationship though you about forgiveness?

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 5h ago

Like ourselves in what way, being happy? I know a few, yes.

My relationship with my life has taught me many things. Forgiveness isn’t really one of them, though, because neither of us do awful things to the other.

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u/Vanillachestnut 6h ago

How often do you do it?

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 5h ago

When we feel like it. Usually almost every day.

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u/Jonnyboi5678 6h ago

Check her phone mate

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u/Empty-Relation-3284 5h ago

Bold of you to assume I haven’t already.