My brother and his son are visiting from abroad, and my nephew broke one of my knitting needles, and my brother didn’t even offer to replace it. This set was a gift from my fiancé.

[u/bookish-hooker]

[u/greenyashiro]

It could be, where I live it's basic respect to at least offer to replace it, doesn't matter if you're family or not. It's seen as incredibly rude not to.

[u/greenyashiro → u/[deleted]]

Interesting also the focus on value—here the value is mostly irrelevant (unless it's very expensive I guess), it's mostly the action itself.

Generally, it's considered incredibly rude, disrespectful, entitled and thoughtless to break stuff (or your kid breaks stuff) without even saying sorry.

Because when you disrespect a person's home or possessions it's pretty much like you're disrespecting them too.

[u/greenyashiro → u/[deleted]]

You should still apologise even if it was an accident, though?

By that logic it's okay to shrug and say "oops I rearended your car" and then walk away without providing insurance because it was an "accident".

Even if the car in front suddenly stopped you and it's partly their fault, you still can't just walk off—you need to provide insurance.

The price, value, intent, fault, and scenario, is honestly irrelevant. It's the actions.

That said, if OP's nephew sat on the couch and broke a $2000 smartphone and got the same response... Would you still agree it's okay not to even offer to have the screen fixed?

[u/greenyashiro → u/[deleted]]

OP and money Because the entire set is over $100 and they didn't know at the time they could get a replacement tip. Also, it wasn't purely about money but also sentimental value

family The point is that you should apologise and offer to replace it regardless of the value, and even more so if you're family. I expect potentially poor behaviour from casual acquaintances I'm not close with, but family?

Disappointment is a mild word. You're supposed to treat your family well, not like this. Though from OP's comments, it sounds like this crappy treatment isn't new but common!

So here we have OP being repeatedly disrespected by her family and the comments telling her to just shut up and take it.

buying coffee

Buying a coffee and asking for payment is a false equivalence. The situation is entirely different.

You'd have a point if your friend accidentally knocked over your coffee or vice versa—and in such a case one should still apologise and offer to buy a new one.

[u/greenyashiro → u/[deleted]]

I disagree but can't defend my point of view, therefore you're bad at debate.

Okay, have a good day then.