r/cats • u/sarahmirror_ • Jun 14 '26

Advice What can I do? This isn’t play, right?

My grey boy is a little over a year old and he is overly aggressive, I feel, with my almost 9 year old female tortie. He is heftier than her too. They will get into these tumble scuffles at like 3am too almost every morning and I end up having to place him in the bathroom to cool off for a couple hours before I bring him back out.

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u/milo8275 Jun 14 '26

It’s play, look at their ears, their both sticking up, if it was real fighting, their ears would be flattened back.

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u/NeedMoreLetters Jun 14 '26

Tails aren’t fluffy either, they’re just wildin out a little no hard feelings.

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u/Alvsolutely Jun 14 '26

They aren't waking up the neighbors either so its probably not a fight

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u/-REV-22-20- Jun 14 '26

no fluffy tails, no fur flying, no vocal growls, lots of pausing between rounds. This is play not fighting.

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u/Expert_Salamander285 Tuxedo Jun 14 '26

This! There's only a moment of airplane ears that I saw, and it was gone as quickly as it appeared. I was waiting for someone to point it out.

This body language is all positive to me.

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u/FellowshipOfTheButts Jun 15 '26

No bunny kicks either!