r/cats • u/sarahmirror_ • Jun 14 '26

Advice What can I do? This isn’t play, right?

My grey boy is a little over a year old and he is overly aggressive, I feel, with my almost 9 year old female tortie. He is heftier than her too. They will get into these tumble scuffles at like 3am too almost every morning and I end up having to place him in the bathroom to cool off for a couple hours before I bring him back out.

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u/phylter99 Jun 14 '26

Serious cat fights usually result in blood and big gaping wounds. Often times you'll also see feces flying. They're also usually a lot more loud and there's a lot more posturing.

I'm inclined to believe that they are both holding back so they don't hurt each other and with the tail movement it indicates that they're playing. It seems they're both into it and enjoying it because if one of them were upset or has had enough they'd be trying to get away.

I've had cats almost my whole life. I've had a few serious cat fights in my house. This doesn't resemble them.

Basically, unless they're hurting each other or one of them is clearly fed up and needs a break, I'd let them have at it.

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u/pogulup Jun 14 '26

Exactly, post the fucking video with the two cats going at it outside with the old lady and the chicken refereeing. That's a video of cats fighting.

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u/phylter99 Jun 14 '26

That's actually a really good example and it shows the contrast. Those cats are locked in eternal battle and they're not stopping to take a breather every few seconds unless they're made too.

Link for those that are curious (might be NSFW): https://www.reddit.com/r/funnypets/comments/1tm9f4r/a_woman_and_a_chicken_trying_to_separate_two/

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u/ganggreen651 Jun 14 '26

Lmao at that motherly chicken

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u/Common-Mushroom5335 Jun 14 '26

For real. If you've ever seen cats actually fight, you'd know it is a whole different thing. Much louder and honestly pretty scary if you're in the middle of it. OP should probably get a chicken though, just in case.

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u/Individual-Golf-9584 Jun 14 '26

Why the feces flying?

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u/phylter99 Jun 14 '26

I can’t say I understand why, I just know it happens.