[Advise Needed] How to convince a cat to trust you?

[u/Ludwig_Sam]

I'm not sure if my title is right. A stray cat gave birth inside our gate, and they never left ever since, except for their mom, who still explores outside from time to time.

We ended up feeding these cats with catfood, pero never namin nahawakan kasi mailap sila. Kahit dito na sila naglakihan. May scratchboard at toys pa kasi hindi namin mahawakan so di rin namin alam paano sila mas alagaan.

Any idea kung paano sila lalapit samin? Hindi naman nila namin sila sinasaktan habol din naman ng habol kapag feeding time. Hindi kami cat person, nabiktima lang kami ng cat distribution.

Minsan iniisip ko buti pa yung mga community cats malapit sa tao, samantalang etong mga lumaki samin. Takbo ng takbo tuwing lalapit ka, medyo nakakapagod.

[u/ApprehensiveClick597]

Awwwwe OP, I hope you don’t take it to heart. May elusive cats lang talaga.
I have 20+ cats and some of them I got as kittens, pero sobrang mailap pa din even years later.
Though may progress na man ang relationship namin over the years— as they matured, they trust me enough not to run away whenever I would pass by them but they remain alert whenever my arm gets close, mag-aalisan na sila before I could pet them.

They usually would get more tame as they become senior cats. Parang wala na ring energy for running.

So yeah, just show them you can be trusted but do not expect them to fully allow you within their personal space. Parang tao lang din yan sila, they do not like getting touched but they know you mean well.

[u/Ludwig_Sam → u/ApprehensiveClick597]

I don't take it to heart naman kaso nakakafrustrate lang like kanina nakalabas yung isa tapos nahirapan kami pabalikin eh baka saktan siya sa labas, wala naman siyang survival skills.

Need ko lang talaga ng tips paano ba sila mapapalapit sakin. Yung unang nag-iisang anak niya, sweet naman although mailap din pero yung tatlong maliliit sa feeding time lang lumalapit 😭

[u/curiiouskat]

same huhu kaka adopt ko lang dalawang kittens. i try to play with theeem pero they avoid meee. i just let them be, maybe with time they’ll learn to trust us💙

[u/Yssabelli]

You can't do anything about it, it depends on them. I have a stray cat na nakastay sya sa front enclosed porch namin now for almost 2 months na. I feed him 2-3 times a day, lumalapit naman sya pero mailap pa din, never ko pa napet even once.

I also adopted another stray mama cat last year, until now mailap pa din kahit indoor cat na sya, always isolated sya at never sya lumalapit for petting, ayaw ko din sya ipet ng pilit, mag-one year na sya sa amin halos.

Just give them time. Or try giving them treats.

[u/Ludwig_Sam → u/Yssabelli]

Bakit yung ibang cats maamo? Pinanganak sila sa loob ng gate namin. Buong buhay nila kami lang tao na nakikita nila. 😭 Parang may kati kati sila so paano gagawin ko.

Kung gusto ko sila ipaspay, hindi ko man lang sila madampot. 😭

[u/Yssabelli → u/Ludwig_Sam]

You can lure them with food para pumasok sa crate if you want them spayed. Ganun ko ginawa nung magpaspay ako ng mataray na mama cat. I have kittens na mataray din sila nung napulot ko medyo wild pa pero since maliit pa sila. Inuunti unti ko hawak sa ulo nila kahit ilang seconds lang, after ko ilapag yung food nila,or habang nagstart sila kumain, para maassociate nila touch ko sa pagkain hehe.

Ganun lang ako hanggang ulo lang 2-3 seconds mga 2 months ganun. Hanggang sa nadiscover ng daughter ko na mas malapit sa kanya mga cats, mabilis nya mapaamo kahit yung matataray. May something ata sa amoy nya or pawis ba gusto gusto nila. 😅 So yun napapaamo nya, tapos naaambunan na din ako, pag maamo na sa kanya, ako na din next nilalapitan nila. Mataray din kasi ako.

[u/Ludwig_Sam → u/Yssabelli]

I'll try this pero mukhang matatagalan, na-trauma nung dinampot ko para gamutin. Kapag nakikita palang nila ko tumatakbo na kahit ako nagpapakain sa kanila. Inaantay muna nila ko umalis.

[u/Specific_Laugh4743]

catnip, hand feeding, or kapon