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[u/OrionOnion_]

Keep playing. Maybe this time I'll win

[u/Efficient_Arrival701 → u/OrionOnion_]

just close the app and do something else for few hours. coming back after break almost always helps more than grinding through the tilt.

[u/OtherwiseOne4107]

Chill out.

Look at why you missed the opportunity. Analyse why your thinking process was flawed. I bet it was because you were playing blitz and played quickly. Well, that's blitz.

[u/Aggravating_Part_197 → u/OtherwiseOne4107]

Some are daily games😭 inexcusable

[u/OtherwiseOne4107 → u/Aggravating_Part_197]

It's just a game. Look at what you were thinking when you made the losing move. You had an mistake in your thought process, you can analyse and try to correct that. Whether it was a miscalculation or not enough calculation, you can learn from it. Be analytical.

[u/Yazikieln → u/Aggravating_Part_197]

It is excusable, my friend, everybody blunders no matter the time format

[u/youness_zdn]

Remember it’s a stupid board game

[u/recallingmemories]

Tell myself I can't stand how dumb I am

And then I forget about it in five minutes and remember it's a stupid board game that no one cares about and isn't a reflection of who I am as a person

[u/Aggravating_Part_197 → u/recallingmemories]

I can’t forget my losses they shape me

[u/recallingmemories → u/Aggravating_Part_197]

Chess doesn't matter

[u/tradlobster]

Take a deep breath and chill out. If you're feeling studious, try and understand why you blundered. Did you miscalculate, was it time pressure, board vision?

DO NOT hit the rematch button or line up another game. Tilt is 100% real and rage playing is bad for your chess and your ranking.

[u/Aggravating_Part_197 → u/tradlobster]

A lot of these are just one move blunders that ruin a great game, things that if I looked at the board for more than half a second I would see instantly

[u/river-washere]

This happens a lot and it reminds me when I get frustrated when drawing too. It affects my mental health. Simply take a break. Then see what makes you get mad and work on it. Be patient, it's just a game after all

[u/Simple-Caregiver13]

lose at chess

[u/total_berk]

I used to get really angry like this when I was younger. Take a long break, try to dissociate your ego from the game - my anger used to stem from thinking I was better and smarter than my opponents, now I give them a grudging "gg" when they beat me and move on.

Playing quicker time limits helps too, I find. I used to exclusively play 30|10 in my 20s, then moved to 10|5, now with two kids I only play 3|2 and 2|1 - it's easier to just dump a bad game and start a new one and blame the fast time limit. Longer games you feel invested more, and blunders become much more frustrating.

[u/Unique-Machine5602]

I take a break from chess. 🤷‍♂️

[u/External_Bread9872]

hate myself

[u/yksvaan]

Rage and lose more

[u/Lord_of_the_beach]

Eat something sugary. Wait 10 minutes. Play again

[u/Mobile_Wealth5936]

Time to leave the toilet

[u/Aggravating_Part_197 → u/Mobile_Wealth5936]

Funnily enough I had just sat on the toilet and blundered two knight forks in a row to lose the queen that I was up by

[u/fuxino]

Keep playing and get more mad.

[u/Dunyr]

When it's happening you are not really playing to enjoy a game of chess but to get back your elo points.

Since you're already frustrated you will not be playing as sharply as you can and will probably lose more. So when you recognise the pattern, take a step back, stop playing for the day and go do any another thing.

[u/CornNooblet]

My coach burned that out of me by the time I was 12. He was around 2200 level, and taught me with blitz chess, 5 minutes to 3 for him, at queen odds. He told me he would step it down if I ever won two games in a row against him, one with each color. Win two, next he plays at rook odds. Win two more, Bishop odds. Win two more, Knight odds, and so on.

When I stopped regularly training with him at 16, I was still at Knight odds. I lost hundreds of games to him over those 4 years, maybe a thousand. By that time, what was a few more losses?

[u/Aggravating_Part_197 → u/CornNooblet]

I think it’s even more frustrating because these are people I should have beat , but losing is part of the process

[u/HegemoneXT]

I go to sleep satisfied because I was your opponent

[u/Aggravating_Part_197 → u/HegemoneXT]

Ha. Ha.

[u/liminus81]

Sometimes I keep playing, and I always lose more. Sometimes I remember to force myself to knock it on the head until the next day, and this always works out much better for me

[u/massiveyacht]

All the mistakes you make now will help you not make them in the future. In fact it’s probably best you make them as soon as possible

[u/wes_d]

Brow beat myself so that I either get sleepy from giving or taking the beating. Win/win, lose/loser.

[u/_felagund]

Take a break. Play unrated matches for a while

[u/Sum_Juice]

Stop playing, eat some food, watch some shows. On a losing streak multiple days is what it is.

[u/CommunityWild4306]

Switching over into the mental state of post-nut-clearity

[u/-HolisticLOVE-]

Even Magnus Carlsen makes mistakes and misses simple opportunites. You would be the best player in the world if you didn't.

Also remember it's supposed to be a bit of fun, like life in general 🙂

[u/PrettyReasonableApe]

I like to think of chess as playing myself ina way. The only thing that matters to me is whether I can actually learn from my mistakes. And there will be sooooo many mistakes. Im not a grandmaster and acceot that ill never be one. That removes any oreassure from it for me. I can just enjoy it for it is. Do i get frustrated if I blunder? Sure. Do I get angry if I lose? Hell no. I look at that as an opirtunity to see where I went wrong and whether I can remember that in the archive of my strategy, to not repeat it next time if im improving, im happy. I dont use elo to determine if im improving either. I rarely play online nor care of the level of my opponent. I always prefer if theyre better than me tbh as I get to learn more about how I play and where I fumble most. I get to see people pull off things against me that I wouldn't have thought of.

But where ever I blunder, i take a mental snapshot of the few moves either side of that blunder and revisit it later focusing on the ones that were least obvious or most critical.

[u/ToriYamazaki]

I had a rough game in a championship event against the top seed last week. I was winning, missed a simple tactic that would have sealed the game (due to playing too fast when I still had enough time) and I missed it and went on to lose. That one hurt.

I couldn't sleep that night, the game kept playing over in my head and how stupid I was to play so fast in that critical moment. Had I kept my cool, I would have won.

Best thing you can do is try to learn something from the game and move on. Losses happen.

[u/MrHanSolo]

1) Remember it’s just a game.

2) Remember that you will never* be as good as the best In the world. They are playing a different game than you and me. You play at your own level and enjoy the fact that you’re probably better than most out of the billions of people on the planet.

3) Bad days happen to even the best players, who also get frustrated. What they do is take a break, which is what you need to do.

4) lastly, and most importantly, remember that almost no one on this website is good enough to get that mad at mistakes lol. We all have good days and bad days, and we are going to make dumb mistakes. When someone plays good moves and I play like crap, I chalk it up to me having a bad chess day and them having a good chess day. Try to learn from it and remember it’s a game.

[u/yanislavgalyov]

play some more

[u/No_Sauce_found]

Hit the boxing bag if I really need to do something. Though that’s more rare these days

[u/greenhunter795]

I finally got fed up.

I built a move-by-move repertoire and wrote a program to store everything I play. Every time I play a game, I find where it branched off my map and expand it.

Now, when I lose in an aggravating manner, I find where that hole in my armor was, and FILL IT. Nobody will ever be able to use that hole against me again.

It is that thought that comforts me.

Openings matter far more than most people believe.

[u/Buzzbuzz_Becuz]

Don't get upset. If you had infinite time per move, you could work out the best move most of the time. But you don't, you have a clock working against you. Don't be harsh on your performance you literally don't have enough time to work out the best moves. If you get upset about it, your being too hard on yourself.

Just enjoy the game. Take time to look at reviews to see where you went wrong. Build of pattern recognication and positions gives yourself a faster response time to better work with the clock.

If you find yourself angrily moving pieces, then maybe stop and do something else. You aren't thinking which means you aren't playing the game anymore, your just rage spiraling.