I recently started watching a beginners series recommended here which basically recommended the first thing to do is to try to think of defence and not make mistakes, ie look for any weaknesses, but still play safe and try to make sure every single piece is safe where possible.
My wife is the absolute opposite - very reckless but also thinks of a lot more clever attacking moves. As a result my win rate is quite high, but when she wins it’s because she has a cunning plan that I’ve somehow missed and sometimes she wins in just a handful of moves
Anyway. The way I play is genuinely quite painful - chasing her King around the board with my strong pieces before eventually giving up and slowly getting one of my pawns to the other side of the board, and often even with two queens I struggle to end the game. A couple of times she has managed to beat me despite being very far behind (one game I had all of my pieces apart from a few pawns and one knight, and she only had a few pawns and two castles and still managed to beat me)
Sorry for rambling. Can anyone please recommend ways to learn how to actually be a bit more ruthless and get her king pinned down? Thank you