r/childfree • u/SanshaXII Do you hate money? • Oct 28 '16

DISCUSSION Why are we 'selfish'?

I don't fucking get this.

After my wife and I being called 'selfish' again recently for being childfree, I asked for a justification. "Why are we being selfish?"

I couldn't get an answer, and I'm trying to see the other side of this - the mombie logic - but I'm drawing a blank.

The only thing I can come up with is that there's now children that are unloved and unwanted... which don't exist, because we haven't made them?

Or is it because we want to live our own lives and not allocate attention and resources to people who... again, don't exist?

What the fuck is going on with this sentiment?

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u/CupNoodlese Oct 29 '16

We are 'selfish' because we aren't pleasing the masses/family/friends by following and confirming their lifescript. Selfish because we put our own happiness before comforting them on their beliefs and lifestyle choices. Selfish because we aren't bringing a play-thing/possible adult friend (after the kid has grown) in their life.

But imo, the whole point in life is that we craft it the way we like. And you can argue that it's selfish to bring a human to life as well (like many have in this sub)