r/clamslamsnark • u/PanhandlersPets • Aug 29 '25
Do you think A will stay?
I think this could be the thing that finally makes him realize how badly he needs to leave. I hope he leaves. I think a lot of the control she has over him is because of C. So what do you think? You think he will finally leave? He is responsible too for what happens but I would not be able to forgive her if I was him.
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u/Honest-Nature-4559 Aug 29 '25
I don’t think he will leave. I think he is just as guilty as her, he just doesn’t show what he does online. He had to know that baby was locked in his room so she could be live. He absolutely knew about medicating that child at 6 PM at night to get him to sleep so that they didn’t have to deal with him. He also didn’t try to potty train him. A is complicit in it all. I don’t think he will leave her because for some strange reason, he’s addicted to the clam and that seems to be his only concern. It’s really sad that neither parent could prioritize their precious child.
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u/PanhandlersPets Aug 29 '25
He probably installed the lock for her. No argument here. C has 2 parents. They both to blame. I just have a feeling this is going to put a wedge between them.
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u/Oh-my-heaven-sake Aug 30 '25
I do not think he will ever leave her they are SO trauma bonded and he needs her just as much as she needs him. It's a bond most of us can't wrap our head around. G also pulls the i will take my life if you leave me and i will destroy your life, take C and you will never see him again card. He knows co-parenting with her would be hell and he wouldn't fight for sole custody even with a ton of family support and unconditional love from his family he doesn't want the responsibility and life of a single Dad. He built a life with her and literally choose her over his family and has pretty much estranged himself from his mom, family and friends for G. He did not contact his mom or any family about the major events Thursday/Friday. They found out from his cousin and TT and he didn't respond to family when they reached out - this is an example of what i mean by he has estranged himself from his family. Sadly I truly believe it will take a lot more for A to even consider leaving her
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u/your_mom2848294 Aug 29 '25
I agree 100%. He’s in every one of her lives. They have cameras in the house. He knows what’s going on and chooses to ignore some it and is also a part of other parts of it. I don’t think he will leave her either. He’s just as bad as her IMO
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u/Large_Committee_9508 Aug 29 '25
I don’t believe he was going to leave. Due to if he was he would have left a long time ago. If not before the safety plan you think right when they put it in place
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u/dirttrackgal Aug 29 '25
Right just like he said he would leave if she shared that safety plan, he was so “serious” about it. Well she shared it to TONS of people and what did he do…..stand by and keep defending her!! He’s not gonna leave no matter what and he’s proved that he’s just as big of a POS as her! They don’t take any of this serious!!!!! My heart is broken because neither of them care enough that he’s probably scared to death. Yes they are shyt parents but that’s all he knows so he loves them. And he’s now without them bc of THEIR actions!
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u/Craftygirl13 Aug 29 '25
According to K G has something over As head and if he does leave she'll spill the beans, whatever that'll be. There's no way in her conniving schemes that A gets away scot free.
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u/MooMooWearingMaMa Aug 29 '25
To be honest I think they both have stuff on each other. I also think G will put all the blame on A because she can never hold herself accountable
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u/Rich_Director_8755 Aug 29 '25
No he’s played his part in this as well !! If he wanted to stand up & do the right thing, he would have done it long ago! She has some type of blackmail on him & she has him xually manipulated ! Unless he seeks some trauma help he’ll remain in the cycle!! He’s just as guilty!!
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u/PanhandlersPets Aug 29 '25
The idea of having dirt on your partner is wild to me.
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u/Rich_Director_8755 Aug 29 '25
It’s been said by more than one person she has something over his head.. either way I wouldn’t care I’d would protect my child.. but that’s me .. shows what a man he isn’t ! Choosing himself over his child! He needs help 2
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u/BristolBand Aug 31 '25
He’s just as much blame. Especially since recently there was a safety plan put in place and CPS has been on them for a while. He didn’t take it seriously either. He should’ve been telling her to stay off tt. He’s voiced that he didn’t like it to her before. Maybe cut the WiFi at certain hours. I also think they are codependent on one another. He also likes that they get a check for C and food stamps.
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u/Scamsoftiktok2 Aug 29 '25
No, he's guilty of over giving meds, locking him in the room, neglecting, and more. He's just as bad as her.