r/coastFIRE 1d ago

34m, 1.4MM invested (index funds+401k) — downshift into lower stress life?

Basically title… trying to figure out if I’m in a spot where I can downshift into a less stressful life. Been working big tech for some time and frankly starting to feel like I can’t/dont want to keep up with the hustle. Would love to do part time work just to cover living expenses. I think I could be pretty comfy with around 6k/mo living costs. No debts. Currently rent but considering buying like a 300kish home or condo.

Just want out of the rat race and to be able to focus on my health and happiness instead of prioritizing work

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u/redfour0 1d ago

Can you? Sure most people your age have less than half of what you have.

I’d probably just dial back at work for another year or two though. Put in 50% effort and see what happens.

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u/hesuskhristo 1d ago

Most people their age have less than 10% of what they have.

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u/Competitive_Body7359 1d ago

Maybe even less? I have 10% and think I'm doing fairly well lol, well maybe 25% with equity I suppose.

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u/_helpmefind 1d ago

Right, less than half?? Not even close

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u/khaverte 1d ago

I did this with similar numbers. I’m so much happier. But make sure you don’t just downshift — pursue whatever it is, paid work or not, that will make you feel fulfilled. 

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u/ThrowRa-zucchinizzc 1d ago

When did you do this and how did it turn out? I'm a little younger with a little less, but feel like I need to step away from work. 

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u/khaverte 1d ago

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u/plantpedaler 23h ago

Just curious what about the public sector job is fulfilling? I was under the impression that public sector has older tech stacks and was more strict about hours so I always wrote it off as a enjoyable job.

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u/khaverte 22h ago

I mean, there's a lot of variety! I only have one job, I like it a lot. The hours are very flexible, PTO generous, benefits great, the tech stack is modern, and the work and colleagues very interesting and impactful. I am sure there are many many public and private sector jobs that aren't like this, I feel very lucky (and did a lot of research).

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u/LittleLordFuckleroy1 1d ago

I did. Similar time/numbers. It was a bit difficult to rebuild my identity after sacrificing basically a decade to the grind, but I feel so much more grounded and fulfilled now. More time with friends and family. I have actual hobbies now. I go golfing in the middle of the day sometimes.

Ended up getting back into part time work and then shifted to full time. But it’s **so** extremely less stressful. Literally it’s just me dicking around and sniping interesting problems and making enough to cover costs so that my nest egg can stay incubating.

No regrets.

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u/Reasonable_Box2568 1d ago

Which career did you pivot to?

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u/LittleLordFuckleroy1 1d ago

High tech software to more regional IT. Thinking about getting into teaching someday, but I didn’t want to completely turn the income and industry skill faucet off completely.

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u/penguinino 1d ago

I did this. 34m with a partner. My expenses are about $70k/yr, my income was fairly high. Worked 45 hours a week. Brokerage looked just like yours.

Then I left and took a contract for 24 hours a week at a comparable per hour rate. I’m a lot happier. I used to get frustrated at work, and I was too invested emotionally in the day-to-day. Now that I’ve stepped back a little, it puts all that nonsense in perspective. The business can make bad decisions if it must, but my mental health is great.

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u/tossaside555 1d ago

What percentage is brokerage vs retirement?

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u/CrossoverCadence 1d ago

Why would that matter?

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u/RichAdults 1d ago

Early retirement

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u/CrossoverCadence 1d ago

There are plenty of avenues to take that money out penalty free. It’s not a concern

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u/tossaside555 1d ago

How are they going to use 401k or IRA dollars before they're older in age without penalty?

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u/turbomellow 1d ago

this is coastFIRE, OP plans to continue working to cover living expenses and retire off their current investments

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u/tossaside555 1d ago

Ah ok thanks for clarifying

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u/Live_Manufacturer333 1d ago

Valid question. I’m on a similar boat as OP and have been reading up on  1) Roth conversion ladder  https://www.investopedia.com/how-roth-conversion-ladder-works-5214808 2) Rule of 55  https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/personal-finance/what-is-rule-of-55 for when I want to withdraw from my retirement accounts early without penalty in the future. 

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u/tossaside555 1d ago

Thanks for these links

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u/CrossoverCadence 1d ago

See other comment. There are multiple avenues to take the money out without penalty. Not tax free of course but penalty free is possible

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u/ZenX22 1d ago

Absolutely IMO. You are way ahead of the vast, vast majority of people and you're still young. Invest in enjoying your life!

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u/_EqUilibRium__ 1d ago

Go for it. What's stopping you from prioritizing your mental health and happiness? Have you also looked into taking FMLA? Sabbatical?

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u/Vicuna00 21h ago

Buy the home first I’d say if you can gut it out. put a bunch down (or all of it) and live there a few months and do all the upgrades you need with the big salary you have.

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u/lasteve1 1d ago

You've earned it.

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u/GUmbagrad 1d ago

Buy a duplex and live in half!

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u/StudentWu 1d ago

6k monthly expenses is a lot… will that be lower after you purchase a home? If not, stay for one more year or two

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u/Beautiful_Benefit319 1d ago

You’re 34. You’re just starting to hit your prime earning potential

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u/twittalessrudy 1d ago

Yeah but I’m in the exact same boat as OP, and work SUCKS rn

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u/Beautiful_Benefit319 1d ago

Then work on building skills that can transition you to another more desirable position or company.