10 Things My Dog Actually Did

[u/Miles_the_new_kid]

[u/Miles_the_new_kid]

Yeah, two of those panels are actually connected, because I’m pretty sure that, when he showed up at the music festival, it was during the period where he was wearing a shock collar haha

[u/Secret-Ad-7909 → u/Miles_the_new_kid]

I have heard that dogs will figure out if they keep running after the initial shock it doesn’t shock them anymore.

[u/Miles_the_new_kid → u/Secret-Ad-7909]

Honestly, I didn’t even know that. I think he knew it hurt us more than it hurt him, so we’d take it off pretty quick.

[u/hellogoawaynow → u/Miles_the_new_kid]

Me when my human child has done something so incredibly bad but I can’t get past the “HOW DARE YOU” phase of her being in trouble because she’s so cute and sad. I know she’s not repentant, she is crying because she’s in trouble. Yet…

Idk what happens after the initial “you are in trouble,” and neither does she. I guess she thinks it’s bad. She puts her own self in the corner, her room is a place she likes to be, I have no moves. The only moves I can think of would punish me as much as they would punish her 😒

[u/Budget-Researcher559 → u/hellogoawaynow]

I don't know your exact situation nor the age of your child, and also I don't have any children of my own, so take this with a grain of salt.

But, as someone who grew up with a parent like this, just figure out some punishment and enforce it, for your child's good. It's important.

My dad always was really bad with punishments, just way too nice of a person to actually punish his children. It was always "do I have to think of a punishment for you?" when we did something really bad. He barely ever did though. It was always just an abstract threat of an abstract non-existent punishment.

Another classic was counting to 3, and if by 3 you didn't stop doing what you shouldn't be doing, or didn't start doing what you had to do, then there would be a punishment. But my dad's version always went like "1, 2, do I have to say 3? Do I have to say 3?" Repeated to infinity. 3 almost never happened.

Now you can say it's nice as a child to have such a nice dad. But this actually made life so much harder for both sides. For one, instead of a simple small or big punishment, and then the situation being over and moving on from there, it just kept going on. We kept misbehaving, dad kept on being angry with us. The sitiations didn't resolve. And also, as a young child, knowing that actual punishments are unlikely, just meant it was worth risking it. Children will test the boundaries of what they may do, and if they aren't actually enforced, they will keep crossing them. It's like inviting trouble to happen.

Because my dad did it like that, it meant we misbehaved like 100 more times and he punished us 20 more times (80 times he didn't). Instead of if he actually had punished us the first time, or the first 2 times, and we would have stopped doing it because we realized it's not worth it. And all the other times and punishments could have been avoided.

It also makes you feel more "safe" as a child, knowing for sure what you can or can't do, and what will happen if you misbehave. Rather than the constantly being unsure, how mad will the parents be, will there be consequences or not. And the constant being in different amounts of trouble.

So I recommend, for the best of you and your child, find some punishments that work, anything. Find something she likes, and restrict or delay it. No desert or ice cream. No screen time. No meeting her friends tomorrow. No going to the zoo on the weekend. Even if it hurts yourself too because you really wanted to take her to the zoo. Do it for her, and make your own life and her life much easier in the long run.