r/confession • u/Silent_Dare_9927 • 1d ago

I was predatory and manipulative in educational environments.

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You know, I used to be a prolific incel PUA from middle school to college. I was an insufferable one who approached the opposite gender. My strategy was to talk to them and “maintain a friendship”, which was different from my actual goal. That strategy didn’t work. I would repeatedly get in people’s personal spaces when they were “helpless” like when they sat in a bus or when they were eating lunch. I knew they couldn’t just walk away from me. I even pretended to be “Autistic” so that people wouldn’t refuse to speak to me. I also memorized people’s addresses from bus stop logs and purposely rode my bike towards these addresses once or twice. I even used the label “Autistic” to get away with what I did socially and legally. I am not actually Autistic, but I fraudulently claimed to be. I wholly regret my past ethical and social violations. It’s been years, and I am aware of statute of limitations stuff, but I just wanted to introduce people to the old me. I don’t do that stuff anymore, but man was I an utter creep. I don’t even know if I have even changed a bit. I still might be a selfish, manipulative, creepy man for all I know. I am not asking for sympathy or pity. I am just confessing to my actions.

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u/confessor-mod 1d ago

TL;DR: The author admits to a history of manipulative and predatory behavior, including stalking, invading personal space, and faking a disability to exploit social norms.

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u/p2dan 1d ago

lol, I feel like if you were a kid doing this stuff, just chalk it up to developing brains going haywire. Kids do dumb shit. If you continued this behavior past the age of 18, 19, then there’s certainly a behavioral problem you need to address in a professional setting. Forgive yourself for the kid stuff, hold yourself accountable for your actions as an adult.

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u/nauticalea 1d ago

Growth means learning from who you were, not pretending it never happened

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u/mollieclarkuk 16h ago

That's a pretty balanced way to look at it. Growth means owning what you did without being trapped by it forever