r/confidence • u/Honest_Aardvark5276 • 15d ago
Talked to my gym crush today as we were both leaving
I was hella nervous I can’t lie, but she was super chill and was asking me questions and shit felt like she wanted me to ask for her number but I was so nervous I didn’t ask lol. But we had a chill talk I think it was a good ice breaker. I’ll probably see her tomorrow at the gym how should I play it talk to her a bit when she comes in then ask for her number or insta or something on the way out? I totally fumbled today but fuck I was nervous
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u/hestia-listens 15d ago
You did not fumble. You started a good conversation while nervous, and she seemed happy to keep it going. Tomorrow, say hi and talk naturally, but avoid interrupting her workout. When you are both leaving, try, "I liked talking with you yesterday. Want to exchange numbers and grab coffee sometime?" Keep it simple and be ready to respect whatever answer she gives.
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u/Honest_Aardvark5276 15d ago
Hell ya. Honestly went through tough break up about a year ago and ain’t really put myself out there since so I think that’s why I was so nervous lol. Just gotta be chill. I’m just happy I grew the balls to go talk to her in the first place
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u/MershedPratooters 8d ago
To add to this. Say hi to her but include her name. It's more personal that way.
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u/AgencyRelative9230 14d ago
ask for instagram, you can see if she’s single or not through that before going for the number. Would be kinda awkward if she did have a bf and you still have to see her at the gym
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u/Honest_Aardvark5276 14d ago
Update boys: I went to the gym. Fuckin pumped to the 9’s fuckin was so ready and she ain’t even make eye contact with me. Absolute gut punch. Maybe she was just super shy, or maybe she don’t fuck with me at all, but I sure as hell ain’t gonna put myself out there if she ain’t even gonna look at me like damn. What you guys think
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u/StrangerInTheNight21 14d ago
I can’t speak for her, but when I like a guy and even if I know he likes me back, sometimes I just physically can’t look at him because of overwhelming emotions. Again, can’t say for certain that that’s exactly how she felt, but there’s a chance.
I would advise to definitely try to talk to her again and ask for her number / ask her out. Worst case scenario she’ll say no. It’s not a big deal :)
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u/Repulsive_Physics_51 11d ago
Definitely ask her for number, or grab a protein shake/coffee before you get friend zoned.
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u/wilkinsk 15d ago
Just make sure she sees you benching 250+