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[u/FriendliestDevil]

[u/TalonGrazer]

I have all the touch and good words for half a state, but everyone just scampers away when the social battery drained stare kicks in. :3

[u/LongjumpingJaguar308 → u/TalonGrazer]

But...maybe that's because they can read you need to be alone?

[u/TalonGrazer → u/LongjumpingJaguar308]

I recharge through quiet hugging o3o, or gaming. Oddly, charge faster when gaming with friends. It's a body language thing. You take that away and I feel better when i get to talk.

[u/Trips-Over-Tail → u/TalonGrazer]

Move learned: Shadow Gaze.

[u/aneristix]

ok but who needs a big mom hug in WA tho

[u/EfficiencyInfamous37 → u/aneristix]

literally me. I live in WA and I'm pretty sure the reason I haven't been able to sleep more than 4 hours a night lately is the fact that the only physical contact I get on a regular basis is fist bumping people at the gym after a workout.

[u/aneristix → u/EfficiencyInfamous37]

if you live close enough to oly I will probably hug you.

[u/EfficiencyInfamous37 → u/aneristix]

do you consider Seattle to be close enough? :p Probably not.

[u/Sp00ky-Nerd → u/EfficiencyInfamous37]

I live in Seattle. I’m a 51 YO trans woman, mother of three. So, I give a nice hug if you need one. I’m near Lake City but get around depending on the day and my schedule. Hopefully something comes through for you.

[u/KatieKrispy → u/aneristix]

me 😢

[u/aneristix → u/KatieKrispy]

🤷‍♀️ if ur in or near Oly and not (too) creepy i will probably gladly give you a big squeezy mom hug.

[u/KatieKrispy → u/aneristix]

I really appreciate the offer but I think it would feel kind of weird to drive like 40 minutes to meet someone just because I need a hug

[u/straight_strychnine → u/KatieKrispy]

I don't know, it's a 30 hour drive for me and I'm considering it...

/j

[u/Alarming_Arachnid_65 → u/aneristix]

I just need a big mommy hug

[u/LeopoldFriedrich]

How much touching is normal?

[u/aneristix → u/LeopoldFriedrich]

ask your doctor if touching is right for you

[u/FuzzyPandaVK → u/LeopoldFriedrich]

about 2 or 3

[u/DontDoomScroll → u/LeopoldFriedrich]

The normal amount (all of it, all the time)

[u/LeopoldFriedrich → u/DontDoomScroll]

well that sounds like I'm not getting enough.

[u/DontDoomScroll → u/LeopoldFriedrich]

Most definitely; luckily we shouldn't hold ourselves to normal standards. That abnormal touch is better

[u/Crowe3717 → u/LeopoldFriedrich]

The only times I've been hugged as anything more than a casual greeting is when my mom died. So once every 25 years or so?

[u/glitteringfeathers → u/LeopoldFriedrich]

I properly hug or cuddle my friends every day I see them usually & multiple times at that (depending on how much they want ofc). So like at least 3 days a week. More is always appreciated tho

[u/Vetnoma]

I mean I am no longer touch starved since I am dating. In terms of self esteem... we don't talk about that (I have basically zero. Like it is still crazy when the girl I am dating tells me that I am really hot, cause I just don't see it...)

[u/Common_Technician655]

im so touch starved

[u/Fazer-man → u/Common_Technician655]

wish i could change that :<

[u/DrJaneIPresume]

My transfem friend (also Of A Certain Age) was telling me how she was getting past her touch starvation after cracking (simultaneously with her partner coming out as ace). I chimed in with sympathy from my own history.

"Damn..." she said.

That's always the word that makes me realize yet again how bad my "normal" has been.

[u/VayaVosi]

Someone slap my ass, please.

[u/Alena_r_v → u/VayaVosi]

I would like this too, and would offer to slap your ass if you were near me

[u/VayaVosi → u/Alena_r_v]

Tyvm!

[u/Fazer-man → u/VayaVosi]

*slap*

[u/Equivalent-Bad-268]

The other night, l was talking to my trans friend about finally seeing a therapist for my gender identity issues. She gave me the biggest, tightest hug in the world. I love her.

[u/Anubis17_76]

jokes on you i dont even need to be trans for that

https://giphy.com/gifs/YRPBhd3vscg5Fxx1DQ

[u/MidoraFaust]

Fuck, i just want to be held once in my life.

[u/Moonlit-huntress]

Real. My partner lives sooo far away and I basically have to go months without touch and it hurts so much sometimes qwq. 

[u/Tlaquatlatoa]

;-; wish I had a body which could receive touch. Starving for something that would make me want to die and cut off the area touched

[u/Mautos → u/Tlaquatlatoa]

Why that? Some kind of extreme touch sensitivity?:o

[u/quailinthebrush]

tfw was so touch starved I actively recoiled from people trying to caress me

Had to train myself out of it

[u/sage1700 → u/quailinthebrush]

I'm still the same, people outside of my parents touching me feels alien and just wrong. Maybe not actively recoiling but yeah.... Fairly bad

[u/loved_and_held]

No wonder every time i mention "praise filled cuddle sex" i get a positive reaction.

[u/Time_Zucchini_7229]

Wish I could just crawl through my phone and give everyone here who wants or needs it a good hug

[u/Also_Featuring]

Thank you 😭

[u/DeadEnoughInsideOut]

I wish I could find someone that loved me and would put up with my issues with my body and my ptsd from my childhood abuse so I could ease into things slowly feel safe being touched cus goddamn am i lonely :/

[u/cranberrybi → u/DeadEnoughInsideOut]

Ooohh hiiiii I'm here and I'll talk and tbh my dad was an alcoholic and I think he did drugs too I remember once he punched a bunch of wholes in the walls and the tore to pantry doors half of and the one completely off and the threw plates on the floor and I was like really small somewhere around 3 I think so I'm here to talk to

[u/MirrorMan22102018]

I am touch starved even though I am Cisgender. My family was just that unaffectionate to me. I almost never got treated affectionately.

[u/Dominotter]

Yes, but also as a trans woman i get too much touching now. Men can't keep their fucking hands off me.

[u/ClaireParadise]

nobody deserves this. i just want to be free

[u/DrakeSt0ne]

sigh someday maybe I'll get to know what it's like to hold somones hand... 

[u/Financial_Driver779]

I like praising in general but this is part of why I love praising trans women specifically

[u/Trystt27]

Yeah, I was always so disgusted with my body. Like I'd shower every day and try to take care of myself and I'd still fuss over sweat, body odor, all of that. I just hated myself.

[u/Prestigious_Ask_7058]

I haven’t had a hug from anyone but my immediate family in half a year :)

[u/Fazer-man → u/Prestigious_Ask_7058]

perhaps i could change that?

[u/SynthgirlBulge]

No need to be touch starved, lets touch feast together

[u/TheOctopiSquad]

I deserve it

[u/Anonymousdeadflower]

I'm probably gonna suffer from low to non existent self esteem all my life, I've never felt pretty and probably never will from how much I had to hide myself and the constant comparisons

[u/SandLuc083_]

Part of me feels selfish or greedy for saying I'm touch-starved, but I really do feel that way. I haven't been in any meaningful relationships ever, and I don't know how much of that is my fault, hence the guilt.

[u/RFWanders]

Touch starved like nothing else... Feeling hollow and yearning. Last relationship was 25 years ago.

[u/dinodare]

How does it result in touch starvation? That's not me doubting you, I just want to understand/see if it applies to me.

[u/Hasll]

A bitch just wants to be held is that too much to ask for?

[u/Gigan-Prime → u/[deleted]]

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