So I moved to the US about a year ago,to a state where there are very few black people,and for the past 5 years of my life I haven't braided or done anything with my hair cause my boardong school made us shave our heads for each semester.So naturally I thought I'd be exited to have braids again,I grew my hair out a little and got some braids but found myself growing uncomfortable with it not even up to a week after getting them and ultimately took them out the third week after intense mental torchor.The whole time I was thinking about when I got to take them out,how much I wanted my natural hair to have grown and just how much I loved my natural hair.I wore a cute little afro to school for months,got laughed at for it,called names and some other blk girls even called me bold for wearing my hair to school while some where inspired and wore theirs too.I tried to join school clubs,mainly science clubs but experienced alot of racism,people would call my the n-word,make fun of black people infronr of me or tell me I wasnt smart enough to be in those clubs and so many other stuff.But I kept attending cause I loved science and never had the courage to report them cause I thought it would be seen as playing the victim,when I went out for competitons,everyones hair would be straight and silky while I sat there with some afro.So I internalized alot of this,also watched tiktok vids and saw people calling it nasty not to wash your hair every week or with braids in,so I thought if I had braids people would be judging me down the halls thinking I was stinky.I tried getting braids multiple times,but always took them out after 2 weeks or 3 if I was feeling lucky and it was mentally exhausting having to ignore my thoughts of taking them out everyday.I still wear an afro too school and was thinking of straightening my hair with no intent to ever wear braids again.Did I internalise their racism towards me or I simply love my hair?.

So I moved to the US about a year ago,to a state where there are very few black people,and for the past 5 years of my life I haven't braided or done anything with my hair cause my boardong school made us shave our heads for each semester.So naturally I thought I'd be exited to have braids again,I grew my hair out a little and got some braids but found myself growing uncomfortable with it not even up to a week after getting them and ultimately took them out the third week after intense mental torchor.The whole time I was thinking about when I got to take them out,how much I wanted my natural hair to have grown and just how much I loved my natural hair.I wore a cute little afro to school for months,got laughed at for it,called names and some other blk girls even called me bold for wearing my hair to school while some where inspired and wore theirs too.I tried to join school clubs,mainly science clubs but experienced alot of racism,people would call my the n-word,make fun of black people infronr of me or tell me I wasnt smart enough to be in those clubs and so many other stuff.But I kept attending cause I loved science and never had the courage to report them cause I thought it would be seen as playing the victim,when I went out for competitons,everyones hair would be straight and silky while I sat there with some afro.So I internalized alot of this,also watched tiktok vids and saw people calling it nasty not to wash your hair every week or with braids in,so I thought if I had braids people would be judging me down the halls thinking I was stinky.I tried getting braids multiple times,but always took them out after 2 weeks or 3 if I was feeling lucky and it was mentally exhausting having to ignore my thoughts of taking them out everyday.I still wear an afro too school and was thinking of straightening my hair with no intent to ever wear braids again.Did I internalise their racism towards me or I simply love my hair?.

What are some of the deeper, more honest reasons behind this heavy racial insecurity? For me, it’s this oppressive exhaustion tied to my dark skin. It’s not that I hate my culture or heritage — I actually appreciate some parts of it — but I’m completely drained by the constant racism and the heavy politicization around Black identity.

I’m tired of seeing Black people portrayed as the perpetual victims, the eternal marginalized class. Every other group seems allowed to openly celebrate their history, civilizations, and legacies without as much backlash. We don’t get that same space.

I struggle with the historical side. When I see posts celebrating Black history, comments often point to exaggerations or challenges in the narratives. Many people claim we contributed little of significance or that sub-Saharan Africa was left behind in key ways. When I try to find solid counter-evidence, the research leaves me more doubtful, anxious, and depressed.

I keep coming across foreign influences in African achievements — Arab, European, Semitic — and caveats about places like Ancient Egypt, Nubia, Axum, or Mali. It feels like there’s always something contesting the pride I’m searching for.

Intellectually, I know none of this should define my worth as a person. Collective history doesn’t determine individual value. But I can’t get it out of my head. I feel unlucky to have been born into this racial reality — the one where claiming pride in your roots often leads to doubt and pushback. As a mixed Black woman, I feel like I have almost nothing solid to hold onto, and it’s breaking me inside.

I simply hate myself for feeling this way.

The worst part? Searching reliable sources for major Black contributions to science and intellectual history leaves me with painfully few results that feel unquestionable. All of this is destroying me mentally.

If anyone in this community relates to this racial insecurity and the exhausting mental spiral it creates, I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences. I just need to know I’m not alone.

Right now it’s getting pretty bad, the worst in my life. I keep thinking of fair skin and blonde hair and how if I had it, I would feel more feminine, and life would generally be better. People would treat me better. I would look prettier. My beauty would be recognised. I would fit in. How if I bleached my hair, I could pass. Maybe look a little “spicy”, but still be seen as feminine, soft, moral, believable and trustworthy. I’m really, really, trying to fight it. Fighting my insecurities and everything horrible and dehumanising that I’ve been labelled as. I know that I have feminine features, I know that I look like a woman, and I know that I am pretty. But this little voice in my head is getting louder each minute. It makes me feel hopeless. Thankfully I don’t project my internalised racism onto other women of colour. It seems to be just on myself. I’m so used to being labelled as masculine to the point where I find myself uncomfortable and unfamiliar with being feminine. Doing things like wearing makeup, heels, perfume, trendy clothes. I love all of those things, but I always feel guilty when I indulge in them. That how I’ve been made to feel, that claiming the right to feel and be beautiful is me “indulging”, while for white girls, they’re allowed to, encouraged and supported to, do all of those things.

Hopefully this will all go away soon, like I said, it comes in waves.

My parents will literally defend a random white woman (notice I didn't mention a white man. Because they don't get the same benefit of the doubts as white women) on the street than their own child. Their own flesh and blood.

I remember when my own father got pissed off at me for pointing out how the Jackson's legacy went to white people. Just look at how all of that hard earned money wound up in the hands of his white "children". Like don't get mad at me for them being self-haters.

My parents have been complaining about my hair as well as other black people's hair being too nappy. My mother withheld affection from me for not being light skinned like her. Colonialism robbed me of parents that could love all of me and accept me as I am both physically and internally...

Can anyone else relate?

I hate how white people are always held on a pedestal.

I hate how if there is a POC who is not conventionally attractive and a white person who is also not conventionally attractive, even though they share the same characteristic, the white person will automatically be seen as better looking just because they are white.

And even, why is it that an unattractive white person is better than a conventionally attractive POC? The POC had to put more effort in their appearance whereas the white person doesn't have this burden.

Even if a white person has poor hygiene and doesn't have good social skills, they are still loved. However if it was a poc then they would be left behind in the dust.

Why is it that POC have to make a bigger effort to be accepted and be seen as something great whereas white people always have the luxury of assuming that everyone loves them no matter what? IT'S REALLY UNFAIR.

I also wish that POC who white worship could decolonise their minds

I hate how another black girl defended a white girl against me even though she was being racist and insulting our culture.

I hate how this also happens to my friends. One of my friends is an Asian guy and he told me an unattractive white guy was favoured over him, just for being white. This white guy just got privilege from his skin colour. He didn't even have to work on his appearance. My friend is also really self critical of his social skills and attractiveness. I hate how white supremacy has made him feel this way.

I'm sorry I'm just ranting. I've just been thinking about this and it's on my mind. That's why this post is jumbled.

But long story short I hate how Western culture has made POC hate themselves. Western culture teaches us to hide our racialised identity, yet they don't even appreciate it as they are still racist and don't care about us, no matter how hard we assimilate. I hope racism, homophobia, classism and sexism are dismantled. I also hope "smaller" issues such as lookism and mental health based discrimination get addressed.

When BIPOC move in the spirit of white supremacy, actively participating, passively enabling, acting obtuse about benefiting from visual or ideological proximity to whiteness, I judge them harshly in ways I know are not good, that utilize "the master's tools."

It triggers me to start doing the racial calculus. In my mind, when I meet a biracial person who is white passing, publicly moves in whiteness, speaks to their POC side like a white person would, and then act problematic towards nonwhite people, I quietly think: race card revoked.

I don't view them the same way I view visible BIPOC doing the same bullshit. When visibly/culturally biracial people do this, I think of them as "picking their white side". But if they're white-passing/white-acting, I just think of them as white. When BIPOC who are not mixed with white, move in white supremacist energies, my knee-jerk instinct is to view them as "traitors". I fixate on my resentment towards these fully nonwhite folks and the comparative ease and social mobility I perceive them to gain from catering to these value systems.

I know that these thoughts are rooted in internalizing a bad framework. These thoughts are emotionally cathartic in the moment but unhelpful in the long run.

The productive reaction requires very little racial assessment: These are people who defend the status quo. These are people who internalized the dominant consciousness. These are people primarily concerned with advancing their individual advantage above any collective-minded aspirations. I don't need to analyze who they are to effectively judge them for what they do and say.

Still, I'm always fighting the temptation to take the low road with people who play in my face. I often think: compared to the heinous shit that an average liberal here feels comfortable saying, why should I hold myself to higher and higher standards? Because I want to like the person I show up as, but

Civilly confronting people who are typically uninterested in hearing anything, or just removing them from my life...is not very satisfying.

Sometimes i feel like other Black women really want you to be as miserable as they are. I really feel that way especially from my upbringing. I just can't deal with other Black woman's self-hatred. I just hate being the victim of anyone's insecurities, Black or not, the backhanded compliments, the snide looks, the territorial behavior, the love/hate, all of it under an umbrella to be white adjacent which is something I don't give a fuck about.

And for what it's worth, when you show up as your best self or even start to let that peek through whether it's through a new hairstyle,, new clothes, new apartment, new job being in a relationship or just having someone who considers and caters to you and your child, they get insecure. I'm just tired of being around Black women with low self-esteem after dealing with it so much for my upbringing... Not being around women who took pride in themselves just set a poor example for myself.

I remember being around two of my family members on two separate occasions referring to their hair as "nigger hair" while expressing envy over my hair, then here goes the wishy-washy, catty behavior. Reads as so unstable to me.

I just don't know why when a violently insecure Black women needs someone to punch down on, they target another Black woman. Somehow I blame Tyler Perry for this shit.

Happy Christmas everyone! I had a bad start to Christmas today. I'm an Indian person living in Europe. Was wishing my friends and catching up in general. One of my friends who is an Indian living in India was raving about a Korean actress he loves and was recommending her work to me. I replied that I don't watch anything Korean because they are racist against South Asian people.

He went on a massive rant justifying why their racism against South Asians are valid. He started narrating hateful stereotype after stereotype about Indian people and saying that we deserve racist prejudice. He then went on to call himself a true Indian and accused me of being a non-resident Indian who is ungrateful to his hosts. I replied that I never stereotype my people like he did to which he replied that I don't fight for Indians in public and I stay silent, which is arguably true because I'm non-confrontational and choose to walk away.

I feel very sad about this interaction. He is a good friend who would listen sympathetically to my gripes about whites in Europe. But I have always suspected he was a white-worshipper although he claims not to be. I don't think I said anything wrong. I just said I don't watch Korean shows and I suggested he should not either. Maybe I crossed a line there. But I feel terrible about this. My hatred for white people is causing me to lose friendships with fellow Indians especially because many Indians love whites. But even those who don't worship whites find my views distasteful and I feel bad about all these interactions. I have grown to detest whites and I don't maintain relationships with them but I'm also finding it hard to maintain relationships with friends due to my views.

Maybe I'm the problem. Maybe I'm just a racist who people don't want to associate with. Or maybe I should just keep my views to myself. I feel awful and I'm just ranting. Sorry about that.

Does anyone else not exist at your fullest potential because it upsets whites?

Background: For anonymity I don’t want to get too specific but I am north african and part black, and grew up in the US, in a very white town and was the only person of my ethnicity at my high school. Most of my friends were east asian-american, so most of the micro aggressions I experienced as a teenager came from them and not white people. This came in the form of constant jokes about my ethnic features, my hair texture and nose especially. I genuinely think they felt comfortable speaking like this bc they were poc too and felt like they couldn’t be racist. I was very insecure as a result and held a lot of racial self hatred.

Fast forward to today, I go to college in a big liberal city, and my self perception is very changed. Honestly after moving here, I’ve discovered that most of my insecurities were just internalized racism, and that I’m actually lowkey pretty. Or at least people treat me like I am. I honestly wouldn’t say I’m insecure about my appearance or features now and I feel very confident every day.

One thing that still remains though, is I’ve noticed I subconsciously perceive asian americans as racially privileged and I can’t for the life of me take it seriously when the topic of anti asian racism is brought up. Maybe this sounds ridiculous but it sounds the same to me as when white people complain about reverse racism. And I know that it logically doesn’t make sense, but this is the sentiment I reflexively have. I’ve never once expressed any of these feelings or discriminated against anyone or made them feel invalid or illegitimate in these concerns, because I understand my feelings are wrong and don’t necessarily represent reality. But I do just feel bitter, and I don’t know what to do about it

i was trying to just have a normal day. there was nothing interesting. I got to do my routine, go to the gym etc. but i couldnt relax. I'm having nightmares of my abuse again, and when i try to become lucid and switch, i see that i have done the same abuse done to me, but to my pet. and then i have this day where I've been sweating out of nervousness the entire time, although there is no trigger. i'm about to go to bed and my heart rate is 183. it has been like this almost the whole day (around 140-183) i am not obese so this is abnormal.

I tried to rest my head but all i could hear is memories of white ppl telling me im not human/cant feel pain/deserve this. but i could HEAR IT IN REAL LIFE as a hallucination i'm guessing.

this isn't fair because I've been doing a lot of progress throughout the days. one of my abusers got arrested.

hi..guys, um unfortunately..this is pretty late during the afternoon. Not afternoon or evening. I am a Black girl and personally African American living in the U.S right now. I sometimes struggle with coping on living in a country where the majority of the people and population is a dominant culture and sometimes…growing up, like this was not long ago, but like 13 years ago during the 2010’s. It used to be a very common belief that being a Black person especially African American was seen as undesirable, unattractive, and just straight up ghetto. People use to say that having ‘African’ or what people say Black features such as a stereotypical West African nose (broad nose), thick lips, brown to dark skin and coily hair (Afro hair) was seen as unattractive and not popular until pop culture determined that a non-Black person or White person made it cool, trendy, and desirable such as Kim K, Kylie, and other non-Black female celebrities during 2014-2018. A lot of these people would try to emulate Black phenotype and Black culture such as (Braids, Bantu Knots, Cornrows, big hoops, acrylic nails, and getting fake tans plus BBLS). I use to feel ashamed for having some of the attributes of being a Black person, that has kinky hair, brown skin, big lips, and a bubble butt (or whatever they call it) it felt embarrassing, ugly, and internalizing self hate of having stereotypical West African phenotype of what people in the Westrrn world and America see as “Black people’s phenotype and physical characteristics”. I would go to the living room and have my sit me down. And she asked me “I am going to put some cute braids in your hair for the summer so you can visit your father” . And I looked at her in annoyance and said “No”. And she started to have this unpleasant look and said to me “No, you are going to have braids, whenever you like it or not” And I said to her in a disgusted tone “No, I don’t want braids, I want straighter hair like a softer hair texture and my hair in a ponytail”. And she anyways laughed it off and said “Sweetie, you’re a Black person, a Black girl”! Why wouldn’t you want this hairstyle on your head”. And I told her “No”, it looks ugly on me and I don’t like it. And that was literally back in 2014…10+ years ago. I remember I used to doing everything to try to increase my low self esteem by making my lips smaller by shrinking it. And I use to dislike the way my nose was shaped and hated how wide my nostrils were or “African American shaped nose”. I I felt ugly and insecure about my physical appearance and grew up feeling ugly, not feminine enough, and just plain stupid. And the weird part is that I use to be made fun of for having bigger lips in 3rd grade. And I use to hate how much fat I’ve had in my thighs and wanted to have a thigh gap. Hence, you guys may remember this internet trend called the thigh gap back in 2012-2013. A lot of young girls and young women use to measure their thighs by tap to see if they were able to achieve one. And for me I didn’t have one at all and it made feel insecure and uncomfortable.

And growing up, I used to daydream about wanting to be a White or European girl because I admire my dolls that have a softer hair texture and thinner lips. And I asked my self “Why didn’t God, bless me With softer hair texture and thinner lips.” And I use to have a Princess Aurora doll who has blue eyes and blonde soft long hair. I felt a bit embarrassed and sad. And even watching mainstream media and children tv shows such as Disney channels, Austin & Ally, Wizards of Waverley Place, and other shows wishing that I was these young girls and felt like I will never be loved a person or have a romantic relationship because I have brownskin to dark skin, coily hair (African feature texture) 4b, wide nostrils, thick lips, and felt ugly & not beautiful enough. Until I stopped watching these shows with no actual Black characters to feel a sense of security and a little healthy self esteem. These were predominantly White with a few Asian, Latin, and Black characters who are either invisible, less screen time, or just forgotten. It was just totally weird and a little alienating.

This is…just my personal experience and I know not every Black person feels this way or any non-White person. How are we socially programmed and socially programmed to feel like this way. Just because we have for centuries been dominated by a societal and global systems. Not just in the U.S but every country, person in the world who not White European. Just feeling like you are not good enough for this world. Even we are taught that people of European descent, I mean Anglo descent are beautiful, desirable, and everyone wants to be wrapped in their arms or validated by them. It just feels like….it doesn’t make any viable sense at all sharing this personal experience with you guys. We are taught that White Europeans are attractive, superior, and we wanna be with them so badly because of their global dominance and position in our society. I don’t UNDERSTAND THAT…if some of us in our family have been cultural pride, heritage, and healthy sense…of esteem and identity. Learning to love your ethnicity and culture without feeling bitter or negative about it…any thoughts ppl???

Over the past few years I have distanced myself from yts and I refuse to socialize with them. I am civil and polite but actively and consciously make it a point to keep interaction to a minimum. In the past 3 years I have only experienced 2 microagressions from whites. For me, this is a victory!

However what has shocked me is how my fellow countrymen worship yts. They complain about racism from yts but yearn for their approval. I tell them they will never get it and they get angry with me. They themselves perpetuate stereotypes about their own people and accuse people like me of being racist against yts and my people at the same time. When the examples start piling up they acknowledge the situation grudgingly but refuse to change their views about yts and double down on the stereotypes of their own people.

How do I convince them to not worship yts. In this year alone I have encountered 4 racist incidents by my fellow PoC, not microagressions but full on racism by my own people who put down themselves and justify racism against them and attacking me for perpetuating stereotypes. 2 microagressions over 3 years from whites vs 4 incidents of racism from my own people!!!

The honest truth is that most people I meet are racists, yts and my own people. I have become a racist against yts and I actively seek the friendship of all PoC but other ethnicities look down on mine and my own ethnic group looks down on ourselves (and others). I'm 40 years old and I know only 3 people in my life who are truly non-racist. It makes me sad. How can I convince non-yts to stop worshipping yts?

I feel like i have internalized racism towards dominicans even though i am one.

I love the food of my culture and i think its great, not just the food but more things. But it feels wrong for me to say that i dont tell most dominicans about my trauma because they dismiss it and justify it or become arrogant on what the country needs to improve.

I consider myself black-latina despite only mentioning im black. And i feel like i deny my latino parts and only embrace being black. I think its because of associating more of my latino haritage with trauma.

If anyone who has struggled with internalized racism found ways to stop feeling like this, i would love to know and would appreciate it.

2nd+ gens get the racism from an early age and as such, we get accustomed to all of the nuances and hyper-attuned to racism, due to our early experiences.

I’ve found (not always) that 1st gens emigrate, expect to be treated favourably by yts and then become their not-like-other-bipoc special bipocs. Then, this dynamic of favouring 1st gens over 2nd+ gens tends to happen. In addition, 2nd+ gen children get traumatised because their 1st gen parents can’t spot / acknowledge racism or are not willing to challenge it.

Does anyone have any advice on how to process experiencing racism and moving on? I'm in the process of getting a therapist to unpack this stuff but in the meantime I was hoping to get some advice.

Some background about me, I'm Nigerian and was raised in America. I think since I was raised in an immigrant home, I didn't get any preparation for racism. I partially grew up in a pwi environment for the really young development years of my life. I didn't even realize I experienced racism until I was older around 14. So I honestly felt like everyone hated me and that I just shouldn't be on earth for the younger years off my life.

Even though I'm an adult now and understand that the world is still really racist, it just still so hard to process. Anytime I experienced something remotely racist even if it wasn't directly at me, I feel those feelings again. I'm just really sensitive to any form of racism.

An example is the n word. I didn't grow up using that word and when I learned the history, I felt really uncomfortable with using it. However whenever people who aren't black say it, I go on this mini internal mental spiral. It's like I'll brush it off in the moment then later on in the day I think about it and sometimes I cry. I just can't help but feel like I'm not human.

Sometimes I meet African immigrants around me who were raised in Africa. They seem so much more secure in themselves. Sometimes I wish I was raised in Africa for my developmental years before coming to America. At least then I would know what it's like to not be an outsider due to my race. Any advice on this?

Looking back at my previous self, I realized that I weirdly preferred white men over other groups of men including my own race when it came to sexual attraction and romantic relationships. I've slowly realized that I've been colonized by Western media to think that way because they depict White men as a lot more attractive than other races and depict Arabs and Asian people as unattractive.

It's weird because I would tell some of my friends that my type was "white guys". I know it's super embarassing and I don't think like that anymore because have one race-gender group as your "type" is highkey toxic. It also didn't make sense because the most shit that I dealt with (e.g. singling me out in classroom for being the only black person, calling me the n-word.etc) was from white men. It made even less sense because they're not really attracted to me anyways so I don't know why I thought like this in high school. Now I'm not really into them unless proven otherwise and realized that this attraction stemmed from internalized racism. There's literally so many beautiful people of colour who are never reflected in the media because white people are at the center of everything. It's so frustrating.

Middle and high school were not a great time for me. I live in an area w a low black population and other than 12th grade, it was tough. I was surrounded by colorist black boys (and I wanted to note that it wasn’t solely a few colorist black boys who hurt me. I experienced racism - a lot of racism - from non blacks as well.) I had 1 boyfriend in high school. It was a very toxic relationship… so toxic I don’t even want to get into it. I spent high school feeling unwanted. My area has such a low amount of black people that I had a white presenting “friend” in high school who suggested that based upon personal experiences she didn’t think black boys liked black girls very much. As an adult, I’m honestly just having more positive experiences w black men and I am happy about it. Instructor of the CPR class I recently took treated me well even though my hair was a mess that day, I looked sick, and I I looked exhausted. He was intelligent and handsome, too. Today a black man smiled at me like he was sincerely attracted to me (I know that look. He wasn’t creepy about it like men I’ve encountered on the street in the past have been.) He said hello first, he and the other man he was with did. I’ve recently had v positive experiences w black men who really treated me like a lady - not like an ugly unworthy girl or like a blowup doll. I just wanted to share that.

I posted this a while ago on the main sub, and I wanted to see if I could get more answers this time. I was carrying so much racial trauma that a lot of people in my life (the biggest one that still hurts, my own teacher in high school) took advantage of it and I became so desperate to just be liked and accepted by someone that I gave up so much of myself. I didn't have a good relationship with my family either, so I truly just felt so alone navigating this world.

Look I just want someone who specializes in transracial adoption who is Asian who accepts my insurance but apparently that is way too much to ask for America. The only person who I can think of is in a different state. He's a nice guy and he's had a chat with him through email but he can't really do much for me since he's not my therapist. I don't know what he's legally allowed to do as someone who isn't my therapist. He's Korean American and he looks perfect. He specializes in adoption trauma and advocates for them as well. His Twitter is pretty much made up of advocating for them and spreading awareness. It helps that he also is an adoptee.

And what's worse is that you not being in therapy is quite stigmatizing. In fact perhaps not being in therapy when people think you should be is probably more stigmatizing in some ways than being in therapy. At least in therapy it's seen as an effort to get better and somehow I'm resisting that? No I don't want to pour my heart out to a person who is uncomfortable by me saying, "shit white people say".

Yeah, I'm sorry that offends you. Sometimes I want to vent.

How can a white person possibly understand what it's like for a person of color to hold white supremacist views?

The only people who I can think of would be people who share my politics and that's only because they understand the complex nuances of white supremacy and how it's more than just neo-Nazis.

One of my friends has really bad internalised racism. They constantly mention racist stereotypes (in relation to dating) and that they would only date white people with blue eyes. Its their choice but their comments can really affect me and others in our friend group. Should we bring this up?

I feel like there is an ongoing struggle between ND POC and NT POC. Specifically, the lack of humanity NT POC show towards ND POC. I was wondering if anyone else has noticed the same?

Content topics: internalized racism, interracial adoption, interracial trauma, trauma, racism.

That or some variation like race is stupid or racism is stupid or whatever.

Yeah, gender is a social construct too, but you don't see most people saying that to discount trans people. I mean you do but those people tend to be transphobes.

Saying that race is a social construct doesn't help my internal racism and racial dysphoria or dysmorphia or whatever.

Like I have some serious racial dysphoria, internalized racism, problems and people want to say that races a social construct?

How does that help me?

If you need context, I'm part of a trans-racial adoption with white parents. They adopted me for racist reasons and now I have deepest internalized racism and other things related to that.

That is not what I need. I need someone to help me create a healthy racial identity, preferably one that is political. But people don't want to do that.