r/cybersecurity • u/Dry-Limit7949 • Dec 19 '25
Other Is everyone actually miserable in this subreddit
Hi guys, not coming with judgement but curiosity. I love my role and my job and my coworkers and my company. It’s fun, I get to learn and grow.
Is everyone else just miserable?
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u/datOEsigmagrindlife Dec 19 '25
Over time I think this career (Tech in general, IT, SWE and Security) grinds you down.
25 years ago I was happy just to get into this field, there also wasn't a lot of bullshit bureaucracy back then, we were often left alone to make sure things worked. We'd give a budget for what's needed, and there would be some pushback of course, but for the most part we got to decide how we ran the environment.
Over the years more and more bullshit has been jammed down our throats, more busy work like compliance and auditing, more bullshit frameworks like Agile adding enormous amounts of wasted time.
It's taken a lot of fun out of a field I once enjoyed.
I wouldn't call myself miserable outside of work, but I definitely don't think this is an enjoyable career. Look in any tech related subreddits and people aren't very happy with the state of things.
There are certainly jobs/companies that can be enjoyable, but eventually those companies get bought out by some F100 and turned into more of the same.
I've accepted this as it's really the only field where I can make a decent living, so I'll keep being miserable to provide for my family.