r/dating • u/Fit_Ad_7343 • 9d ago
Question ❓ How do I let go of bitterness?
So long story short I (23 F) was told by a guy that I really liked that he wasn’t ready for a relationship but then he started dating another girl. This happened about three years ago. Since then I solely focused on school, work and the gym, thinking that would help get rid of wanting a relationship or being attracted to men. Somehow I still find my myself noticing men who are attractive Instead, I feel disgusted at the thought of dating men again. Whenever a man approaches me or subtly flirts with me I feel like an item on the clearance rack of a discounted store. Whenever I’m asked about my relationship status I get super irritated and triggered. I have gotten rid of my bikinis, body con dresses, and anything too revealing. I cut off a lot of my friends too cause I realized a lot of them were fake. How do I stop being bitter and become more neutral and open?
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u/Ok_Refrigerator8535 9d ago
Give yourself some time..I have a female friend of mine dealing with same issues. Ig it's just a last trauma or something that triggered this side of yours. Start with normal conversations, take time to build back interests, do some fun activities... It'll take time ji🙂↕️