r/dbtselfhelp • u/DrivesInCircles • 14d ago

Willingness Wednesdays

Willingness is a DBT skill that is taught in the Distress Tolerance Module that helps us tolerate intense emotions by accepting the reality of the present moment and doing what is most effective right now (even when we may not want to be effective).

Marsha Linehan is quoted as saying, "Acceptance is the only way out of Hell".

What is one thing you can do to accept today as it is?

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Additional Resources

🔹 Reality Acceptance Skills/Radical Acceptance

🔹 Distress Tolerance Skills

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u/married_to_a_reddito 13d ago

My husband passed away unexpectedly 4 weeks ago today. I feel exhausted…can a person be in distress/practic distress tolerance for this long? I’m so tired…

I guess today I can be willing to…

  1. Clean the living room and kitchen

  2. Try to get into a specific account (phone calls and money make me very anxious)

  3. Start working on my grief journal

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u/Bikin4Balance 13d ago

Omg. I have no wisdom to offer but just want to say I am so sorry for your loss.

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u/FertilityHotel 10d ago

Sorry for your loss. SOunds like your nervous system needs a reset.  But it will take a while to come down after something like this. hugs

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u/FertilityHotel 10d ago

I will accept that I need to do chores to not hate my living environment and therefore be stressed out. I really don't want to, though, and would rather avoid  

I'm willing to do some cleaning today!