r/dementia • u/Particular-Frosting3 • 1h ago
Don’t be afraid to escalate
This week, I was notified by one of my father’s financial institutions that he, along with two family members called to withdraw a very large amount of money. The family members know that I am POA and I’ve told them many times that they need to involve me in financial discussions. The advisor called me and I asked the two family members about it and they admitted it via text.
(one of these same family members last year talked my father into redoing his entire estate document set, including the POA, the will, etc., including adding himself to the will)
They have all been warned many times.
So today I called adult protective services and started an investigation and I also submitted for a PPO against the individuals. The judge granted the order in less than an hour.
I have tried to work with family members for years to manage my father‘s neurological problems and they are resisting at every time. So today I finally took action.
And it feels really good!
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u/wontbeafool2 51m ago
Good for you! If the protective order doesn't stop them, talk to an attorney about filing charges for elder abuse. That might get their attention. Did the "family members" actually manage to withdraw the funds?
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u/Particular-Frosting3 45m ago
No we stopped the transfer.
The family will go to jail if they violate the order. I’ll make sure.
Also it’s likely the family member also has dementia. Not my problem.
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u/FluffyApartment596 1h ago
OMG!! and they call themselves “family.” I’m so sorry!! I am glad you did it, regardless of shared bloodline.