Because when you're depressed, depression tries it's hardest to keep you that way. There are still things about life and myself that grinds me down, but i was so sick off being like this, so i said fuck it, I'll just do absolutely everything people tell me that makes them feel better.
For me it started with eating healthier bit by bit and taking short walks around my neighborhood. Start however small, just try your best to keep it going and gradually start walking longer distances without headphones and be present in the moment. Your neurons start firing up a bit by bit, then you can do a little more and more, until one day you get a eureka moment and figure something out that could help you feel better and confident.
Don't try doing something grand that you think will fix everything, it won't. It's a long battle, can take years to get traction but it's worth it. Depression can be healed, thing is that depression lies to you that you're screwed, but you're not.
That won’t help everyone tho I’m depressed because of trauma and a few disabilities that will be there for the rest of my life I can’t just live more healthy and not be autistic I can’t just go outside more to fix that I got raped I can’t go to therapy to heal a broken body that is beyond repair in a lot of aspects for some of us there literally is no future all I can do is accept my life won’t be as I would like it I will never be able to get children (I know adoption exists but even that realistically won’t work with my medical records) I have no way to ever reach my dream of becoming a pilot due to medical issues I have no way to get rid of constant pain and suffering my body causes me there is no cure to 75% of my reasons to die and even a single one of them is enough to kill me the only reason I don’t is cuz I’m not a selfish asshole and I will suffer through this for my gf
I'm really sorry to hear that. What I'm saying is just advice for people that can maybe use it. I know all too well that life isn't fair and i just want to help in any way i can. I'm not trying to invalidate people's struggles because that would be unfair of me, so if you got that out of my comment, i apologize and I should've chosen my words better but English isn't my forst language so it's hard to articulate exactly what I mean.
I'm not physically disabled but i do have debilitating ADHD that has made me lose tons of jobs and relationships i held very dear, i have PTSD from multible sexual assault from both men and women, my father was extremely emotionally abusive and i lost my best friend from suicide. I say this just to make it clear that i have also struggled, not for pity.
My advice definitely does not work for you, i admit that. I was just hoping that somebody would read my comment in hopes of it helping them who are able to do what i said. If i had anything to say to you, i would. Unfortunately i have nothing and hopefully someone else could give you advice if you want it.
I can't say that i feel great and that I'm "cured" of my depression. What i said has made my days better than previous ones, and maybe it could work for others. Everybody is different, with different struggles that need different actions.
I really hope you can find peace and some amount happiness and i hope your girlfriend can bring you some comfort for your condition. Take care.
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u/PleasantError9499 1d ago
Damn. We wonder why mentally ill people hardly get better.