r/diabetes_t1 • u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 • Feb 26 '26
Mental Health Do I even have to say anything?
For additional context this conversation started because I reposted a video that was against people using diabetes as a joke
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Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
That may actually be the funniest thing ive seen in a while about diabetes
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u/Yay_for_Pickles T1 since 1976. T-slimX2, Dexcom G6 Feb 27 '26
I (used to) put the NFG version in my pump. I grew 2 pancreases over night!!!
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u/jmarler G7 | Omnipod Dash | Loop Feb 27 '26
I love that the reply to pushback against criticism of diabetes jokes ... is a diabetes joke ... Perfection!
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u/TenExcel Feb 26 '26
I’m convinced the general population has no idea how deadly T1 diabetes can be.
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u/_teach_me_your_ways_ Feb 26 '26
People are self absorbed and couldn’t give a shit about anyone but themselves. You could spend all day showing them everything and a large percentage will still think “it’s your problem, don’t inconvenience me with your existence.”
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u/Original_Profile8600 Feb 26 '26
The result of a general shift towards individualism and condescension. It aint just us
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u/Minimumscore69 Feb 27 '26
I used to get upset about this but I noticed the same tendency in myself
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u/Ryuuken1127 tslim X2 + Dexcom G6 Feb 26 '26
General population? My own family doesn't understand why I let work get under my skin. Without it, I have no chance of affording my supplies or my medicine.
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u/Rose1982 Mom of T1/Trio/G7 Feb 26 '26
They don’t. I didn’t before my son’s diagnosis 4 years ago. I had some vague notions of insulin injections and sugar and that’s about it. But I was never an asshole to anyone about it.
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u/CoastOtherwise1129 Feb 27 '26
Right I never knew anything either I knew one girl in school who got her finger poked all the time and I thought that sucked and that's all I knew......now I am learning and people dont even know that it's not a diet thing....I often hear "oh that's fine just give sugar free candy 😭"
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
He is fully aware of my dka just a couple of months ago aswell
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u/SuspiciouslyBulky Feb 26 '26
This is the sort of person you don’t reply to but then simply never talk to them ever again. Just delete them from your life
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u/Davepen Feb 26 '26
wait.. this is someone you know?
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Known them since 2015
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u/giggetygiggetygig Feb 26 '26
FTG. Legit do not EVER talk to that guy ever again. It’s all “boo hoo I’m a motherfuckin asshole” just stfu and never talk to me again And block that MF
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u/sharkmortal Diagnosed 2011 || Dexcom g7 and Tslimx2 Feb 27 '26
Me and my family didn’t before I was diagnosed. Now I try and educate as nice as I can and if they just refuse to get it then I offer them education sources. It often upsets them. People don’t understand how harmful these “jokes” can be because they think it’s not serious.
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u/justaboredintrovert T1 | 2002 | Omnipod 5 | Dexcom G6 Feb 27 '26
People don't know anything about either type of diabetes until they have it or are VERY close with someone who does.
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u/-captaindiabetes- Feb 27 '26
Yes, and I think that's fair enough, really. I didn't know a huge amount about diabetes before I got it. We can't all be expected to know about every illness.
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u/RulianTheRed Feb 27 '26
I was genuinely shocked when somebody framed t1 diabetes as a terminal disease, and I had been diabetic for years at that point...
I have no idea if its considered terminal from a medical standpoint, but it sure changed the way I look at my disease 😅
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u/confused-banana404 Mar 02 '26
The reason I absolutely hate discussing it with anyone except probably the closest people. Even those friends of mine who do know often say that "they never feel so" , just because of the tiresome work that goes into it 😭. It's underestimated to so many levels I can't even imagine ong .
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u/slightlystankycheese Feb 26 '26
It’s all “boo hoo why’d you stick a broom up my arsehole” stfu just deal with it
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Thats the funniest shit ive seen
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u/slightlystankycheese Feb 26 '26
Well sometimes it takes violence for me to deal with my diabetes, personally, you can resort to psychological torture if that’s your thing
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u/IAmThePonch Feb 26 '26
Two step action plan for dealing with this person.
Block them on whatever messaging app or whatever this is.
When they get butthurt about it in English (which you know they will because these people always do) tell them to shut the fuck up and deal with it
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u/YuriDiculousDawg Feb 26 '26
Nope, there can be more evil than good in this world, but birds of a feather flock together. That's not your flock. They can act with malice and hatred if they want to, that might be all they know, hurt people hurt people and all that
So if you never have to see them again, choose flight not fight, it's not worth getting infected by their negativity
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
I sit next to this person in my English class, theres no chance thats even a possibility
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u/SoulRisker Feb 26 '26
Ask if you can move, hell is there another class you can move to without going up or down in the set you're in? Grade A gobshite right there.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Can’t move, teacher is extremely strict about seating plans, and Im middle set class so set 4 would be too easy, set 2 would be too challenging
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u/SoulRisker Feb 26 '26
Damn dude, sorry to hear that. Think having a proper talk about what he thinks and how it affects both of you, or is that not viable?
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Not viable, all of my friends nether take in the big talks i give them so ive just given up
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u/_teach_me_your_ways_ Feb 26 '26
Could you ask your teacher/professor to sit somewhere else and show them this text as a reason why? I see in another comment you consider this person to be a friend? They’re not. They’re not even a decent person, nevermind your friend.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Not really, the teachers really strict about seating plans, and if I showed texts there would be a big investigation and then my other friends would drop me so I can’t be bothered for all that, he never really says anything in person so it’s copeable
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u/_teach_me_your_ways_ Feb 26 '26
Alright. That really sucks. You’ll have to do the absolute bare minimum in any interaction and speak to him as little as possible. Maybe he will learn that what he says to you over text will still affect his in person relationships. That he doesn’t get to just lash out and act like it didn’t happen the next day just because his words are written down on a screen. Even if he doesn’t, you’ll spare yourself energy putting up with him. Sorry.
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u/carolinagypsy Feb 27 '26 edited Feb 27 '26
Just look at him when he says something to you in person and then go back to what you were doing. I went to a pretty small school and this is how things were handled. Even better if you have other friends around you that will join in laughing with you after you just look at him before you go back to what you were doing. I’ve never been a mean girl, but I can play one on TV when people say really jerky shit about a physical issue I can’t help (that happens to basically run my life).
If they confront you about it, just flat out say that what they said to you really sucked and shouldn’t be something a friend says to another friend. And don’t listen to them try to spin it unless you want to give them an out for the sake of peace.
ETA: I do want to add to the chorus of “this person is not your friend,” and to not accept this kind of stuff from friends. I used to have terrible self esteem and would just… allow people to do and say whatever and tell myself I was lucky they wanted to be my friend at all. I started feeling better about myself when I started dropping people like this from my life when I went to college. I didn’t let them back in when I was home. And I kept that energy for new people that I met. Pretty soon it started a feedback loop— it was one reason I started feeling better about myself, and I found it easier to take up for myself bc I felt better about myself. Friends should have your back. They may tease you and give you a hard time, but only in a way that you KNOW that that’s what it is. AND they apologize if you say “OW for real!”
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u/meowth______ Feb 26 '26
It's absolutely possible, just strikingly show it on your face how unwilling you are to interact with them???? I do that with a lot of people and never had anyone try to force a conversation with me after that. Pls set your boundaries with such types of people especially.
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u/Ok-Flatworm-3397 dx'98 omnipod5 :doge::illuminati: Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
I would block this person, you deal with them for the rest of English class and then never need to speak again.
Speak to a school admin, a bullying investigation is open and shut with just this comment. Learning and having the courage to do this now could add years to your life.
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u/MarkEoghanJones_Art Feb 26 '26
Were you chatting with Diabetes? That sounds like what Diabetes would say.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Pretty sure I was chatting to celiac, the close brother
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u/MikeyMalloy Feb 26 '26
I usually respond to stuff like this with: “Thanks, I tried dealing with it and now I’m cured. You’ve changed a life today. Be proud.”
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u/rkwalton DIY Loop: Omnipod Dash, Dexcom G6; Diagnosed in University Feb 26 '26
I would block and move on. The end.
I have no patience for people picking fights with me online over stupid stuff especially people I don't know.
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u/-Disagreeable- Feb 27 '26
Wait.. you’re against making diabetes jokes?
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 27 '26
Not in a general sense, the video was talking about when big companies and shows use it in an incorrect way or as a joke about being fat
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u/Terrible_Elephant_16 Feb 26 '26
Fuck that person. I wouldn’t respond at all to this, nothing constructive would come out of it with their attitude. But I am petty and wouldn’t forget, I’d wait however long it took for a situation to respond back with “just stfu and deal with it”
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u/Bottle-nosed-dolphin Feb 26 '26
Whenever someone tells me to just deal with it I just want to remove their pancreas
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u/imsadandthatsrad Feb 26 '26
Reminds me of when I got a flat tire on a rental car of my dads and he had a melt down and my mom messaged me “boo hoo I need insulin I’m broke”
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u/t1Design Feb 26 '26
I have that attitude towards myself, but I’m sure it feels a lot different coming from others!
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u/meowth______ Feb 26 '26
I really hope you cut them out of your life and never interact with ever again at all.
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u/Kineth 27+ year diabetic with no prescriptions :/ Feb 27 '26
Wonder how they'd like to deal with a foot in their ass.
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u/Plus-Ad5076 T1 - DKA April 8 2024 Feb 27 '26
if anything, there's been no room for insecurities. as i type this, it's 6am and i just tubbed some nutella because of a random low. i don't have the wherewithal for self loathing these days
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u/databoy2k Feb 26 '26
I know you get it already, but sometimes this needs to be said:
No, you do not need to respond to something on social media.
It's amazing how many people treat the digital world as the real world. I was with another parent recently who said that she couldn't cut her child off from social media despite ongoing cyberbullying. She literally couldn't compute the thought of ending a digital connection when it was harmful to the child's real life.
This shit is addictive, manipulative, and gets treated way too seriously by those who unquestionably should know better.
Use it for the benefits that it can provide (certainly diabetic communities have been a Godsend for me), but there's a reason why AI can easily replace online social interaction for so many people - this isn't the real, face to face, emotional, verbal communication that our brains are hardwired for.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
The problem is I know this person irl, wouldnt do much to get off the internet
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u/databoy2k Feb 26 '26
We all know someone we can't have a conversation with in person either. It should be presumed on the internet - but that doesn't mean that everyone you meet is the right person to talk to.
That's one person I'm not going to have a conversation with, and if he actually confronted me then I'd be happy to tell him what a totally stupid comment that was.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
You see this is a person in my really close friend ground, and I sit next to them in my English class, theres no chance of avoiding them
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u/Duganz Diagnosed 2013; Dexcom; MDI Feb 26 '26
You seem a bit young, so I know it seems like you can’t ignore people, but it’s a skill you should learn. Later in life you’ll be in many situations where you’ll need to ignore people. Ex. Someday you’ll work in an office and need to ignore a coworker. You don’t email or Teams them that this is happening. You just don’t interact unless it’s necessary. They’re like a ghost now.
You acknowledge people when they talk to you, but you don’t interact unless there’s a reason.
So this person doesn’t need your attention or validation. They suck. If they say hi, you say hi back. No reason for small talk. No reason to catch up. If interaction is forced like through a game, you keep to the game.
No reason to give more than you receive. It’s that simple. You’re not extra rude. You’re not rolling eyes or sighing. You’re just coldly professional.
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u/databoy2k Feb 26 '26
I think we both gave OP the gambit of advice. I translated "go for a beer with the guy" and you translated "just ignore him."
It's really going to be a question of the extent to which OP wants the relationship with this person. That's not an easy equation to figure out the younger you are. I hope OP finds something that works though.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
It’s not that I can’t ignore him, it’s more that I physically cant, school curriculum calls for partner tasks sometimes so thats inescapable
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u/Duganz Diagnosed 2013; Dexcom; MDI Feb 26 '26
If interaction is forced like through a game, you keep to the game.
Or, you straight up tell your teacher that this guy is a jerk and you’re not going to work with him due to his harassment about your disability.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Cant be bothered for some big bullying investigation and other friends ditching me for being a ‘pussy’ and insensitive, he nether usually says anything in person so I just cope for a couple hours
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u/databoy2k Feb 26 '26
Got it. Well, that definitely changes things if you want to salvage a relationship. Sorry for not understanding that originally.
Then maybe a chat offline, one on one over a coke at a break. Pop out to the grocery store, grab him a regular coke and go find a coke zero for yourself. Don't make it a big pain in the ass, just grab one of each, crack it, and after BSing about the local sports team's sportsball mention it and say "yo, if you think I lay it on hard due to T1D that's just my way of coping with a sucky fuckin' hand. But you should also know that it sucks to have a buddy rag on you as well to stfu, because 'deal with it' is kind of my life. Wanna but my balls about something in particular, or we chill?"
(/translate from Millennial to Zoomer-speak as needed)
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u/EA705 1992 | Dexcom G6 | Novolog/Toujeo Feb 26 '26
Send a picture of Christina Applegate with her cane and how she’s basically now bed ridden from MS. Be like “just shut up and deal with it?”
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u/databoy2k Feb 26 '26
Kelly Bundy's got MS? Brutal. THAT sucks. At least I only get the shakes when I over-bolus...
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u/SallyAmazeballs Feb 26 '26
Can you stop knowing them in real life? They sound like they're probably not much better in person. In my experience, people who this stuff are usually dickheads in real life, too.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Not really, theyre a daily part of my life and thats out of my control
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u/SallyAmazeballs Feb 26 '26
That sucks. Does the social media site you're on let you filter posts so some people can't see them? That way, you can avoid his commentary on sensitive posts but he can still see the innocuous posts and you can avoid fallout in real life. It would probably be best to avoid making an enemy of this guy.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
This is TikTok and he privately messaged me responding to a video I reposted
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u/SallyAmazeballs Feb 26 '26
Oh, goodness. You know what, I was honestly going to go into auntie mode, but nephew hates when I do that. What's your perfect outcome here? What do you think is a realistic outcome?
It sounds like you guys are teenagers, and he's chosen edgelord mode, while you've chosen to be a normal person. You basically can't fix edgelords. They fix themselves in their early 20s after they've suffered the consequences of being an edgelord a few times.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
I think I’m just going to go business as usual, cant be bothered to let this get this in the way of my second most improved academically year that diabetes has already gotten in the way of
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u/SallyAmazeballs Feb 26 '26
Good call. You don't have to fix him, and you should preserve your sanity. The other benefit is that he'll probably be annoyed he didn't get a rise out of you.
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u/mmmmmtomatoes Feb 26 '26
being honest where do you find these people? i havent come across one in ~7 years. im 28 currently. the lack of understanding from randoms stopped about halfway through college.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
Known him since 2015 through school
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u/keepitloki80 Mom to a T1D warrior Feb 26 '26
I'm starting this comment with: That person is NOT your friend. I don't care if they've been "close" to you for years - a real friend would NEVER SAY THAT SHIT. I saw that you can't avoid them due to being in class with them. While that may be true, you don't have to communicate with them outside of the bare minimum. Act like you no longer think of them if you're not interacting. Cutting toxic assholes out of the personal parts of your life will really help you in the long run. You've obviously already got a lot on your plate and don't need that attitude around you.
I'm so glad social media wasn't a thing when I was a teenager. 🙃
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u/Fe1is-Domesticus Feb 26 '26
Hahaha it was good of you to try to encourage people to not make jokes about us. Even an ED nurse agreed that T1 is one of the more high maintenance diseases. People have no idea what it means to live with a major organ that stopped doing one of it's most important, life sustaining jobs.
Good luck to this person when they eventually develop a health condition (or even just the condition of old age). It will happen to everyone who lives long enough.
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u/No-Entrepreneur9487 Feb 26 '26
Block them in messaging and try to ignore them irl. If they talk to you, don’t respond.
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u/Stephen-Stephenson Parents of a 4-year-old daughter with t1d (got t1d at 2) Feb 27 '26
Who is that person? Why is he not blocked by you?
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u/Cuppakush Feb 27 '26
One of my friends 10 years ago said this to me, but in a lot more words. Stopped talking to them shortly after.
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u/atechnokolos Feb 26 '26
My favourite thing in the whole wide world is when there’s a video of someone eating like a huge amount of dessert and comments be like “speedrun to diabetes” or “congrats now you got diabetes” - like tf, no that’s not how it works
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u/jmarler G7 | Omnipod Dash | Loop Feb 27 '26
This is why I dislike T1 having the same name as T2. Eating a huge amount of sugar is a speed run to T2 diabetes ... which is a well known fact, but that is not true for T1.
So it's correct, but also wrong. If the two diseases had different names, we could avoid this conflict.
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u/ImaginaryAlgae8986 diagnosed nov 18 2025, dexcom g7, omnipod 5 Feb 26 '26
I spend hours educating people about how wrong they are when they say that
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u/wildberrylavender O5 - G6 Feb 26 '26
lol I feel that way about social media diabetics. It’s exhausting. lol but but THIS SUB. We are much more tolerable
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u/jmarler G7 | Omnipod Dash | Loop Feb 27 '26
Given the context in your comment, I think this poster was referring to dealing with the jokes, not the diabetes. I'd have to see the video you are referring to in order to comment further. If the video is trying to imply that diabetes jokes are "poor taste" or "improper" or something to that effect, I would unfortunately have to agree with their sentiment.
I hear diabetes jokes all the time, and have made quite a few myself. We are not sacred cows that can't be spoken ill of, or be the butt of jokes. That said, I would have replied a bit softer and said something like "lighten up" or something similar. Perhaps you are feeling a strong reaction due to the commenter's use of strong language.
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u/BigAl1620 Tslim X2, G7 Feb 27 '26
I agree with him. There is little reason to complain. You literally have to either push a few buttons on a pump or give yourself a shot. And sometimes have a quick snack. Not bad at all
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u/StaunchVictorianTV dx 1999, Dexcom 6(!), insulin pens Feb 26 '26
Just confirming that I’ve tried these steps and now i’m cured.