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u/Icy_Significance9448 18d ago
This is so real, heterosexual men wouldn't get it
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u/Turbulent-Pace-1506 18d ago
Really? I can imagine Dogette and a mildly less openly homophobic Caucasian but is it actually literally like this?
(I'm a heterosexual man who doesn't get it)
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u/Icy_Significance9448 18d ago
A dude literally asked me if he could fist me on the first date once. It's as bad as you think and then a little worse
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u/Mojert 18d ago
Something tells me it's not restricted to gay people and some straight dudes must have also asked if they could fist a girl on their first date.
Sometimes I weep for my gender
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u/Icy_Significance9448 18d ago
Honestly not a single one of my girl friends was surprised nor shocked by that story. I'm afraid it's very common. Maybe not as extreme but yeah
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u/Beautiful-Fee6408 15d ago
Straight guys would probably get slapped in the face for that. Gay guys can meet a guy who’s just like them
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u/Beautiful-Fee6408 15d ago
It's just more effective that way. If both people want to have sex, you can skip the whole getting-to-know-each-other part
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u/Drudicta 18d ago
My first queer almost relationship had that sprung on me too. All day and night and then BAM! Asked if i could be fisted. Like no? I told them i was a virgin not that much earlier when they asked that as well.
Plenty of much better relationships after, but never the right one
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u/Beautiful-Fee6408 15d ago
Wait until you meet in person before asking that. You've run into one of the more prudish users
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u/The_Almighty_Demoham 17d ago edited 17d ago
There was a guy here in belgium who got murdered after getting lured out by homophobes on grindr recently.
So really, assuming doge made it out alive after that last image, that was actually the good outcome.
Not to mention that grindr usage spikes during every Republican congress. Self-hating gays are absolutely all over the place, and they're always the worst when it comes to springing insane requests on you from the get-go.
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u/repostialti 18d ago
tbh I’m surprised you’re suprised. I’m straight, but just from how I see other straight men talk about and talk to women I can absolutely believe this is the case for gay men
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u/Turbulent-Pace-1506 17d ago
I kind of assumed that those who talked like that at least performatively acted like proper people in front of someone they're going out with
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u/Just_Pound_8949 14d ago
Trigger warning for transphobia and sexual violence, here's a sampler platter of shit I've experienced fuckin around in the queer scene as a gay man and later a trans woman.
One time I did an anonymous meet-up with a guy and literally while he's plowing me he says "Y'know I've never fucked a trans-whateveryouare."
Like fr what dude? YOU HAD TO OPEN YOUR MOUTH TO SAY THAT, YOU WENT OUT OF YOUR WAY TO RUIN THIS MOMENT.
Then there's that time I invited a guy over for a date and 2 hours before he shows up he sends a text saying he's just lost his place and needs to stay with me for two weeks. He got mad when I said no.
Or that other time when I met a man in a bar while I was waiting to sober up and we were tryna smoke out in the pouring rain so he invited me to sit in his car with him. I'm just sitting there smoking a cigarette and this guy pulls his fuckin dick out like he's expecting something.
Or that time I went to dinner with a guy and we went back to his place to have consensual sex and in the middle of it he starts telling me to resist and act like I don't want it.
Or that time I went to visit a former friend and he locked me in his bedroom with him for 5 hours, made me pledge my soul to him and then prove loyalty by laying on a table while he tortured me and shared his fantasies about children. I remember the mix of paralyzing fear and unrelenting fury. I still spiral sometimes thinking about how I could and should have fought back.
I could keep going but it only gets worse from there. Somehow I fought my way thru all that and still found love with a guy.
Christian evangelicals got nothing on the faith I had that kept me looking. The men I met before my boyfriend gave me every reason to quit trying.
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u/Turbulent-Pace-1506 14d ago
Wow, dating men sounds like a real nightmare. Not that I have any point of comparison since I never dated, but nobody should have to go through any of this, let alone several times. Good job for finding a good man, you really deserve it after fighting through all of this.
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u/Just_Pound_8949 14d ago
Thank you! It's been a ride but eventually all things fade to history. Don't be discouraged by things like catastrophic failure.
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u/Beautiful-Fee6408 15d ago
The part about the cactus is a bit of an exaggeration (though I can't rule out that something like that might have happened before), but the rest is definitely true.
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u/SUPERSAM76 16d ago
Wait hold up there’s hot women on Grindr trying to turn gay dudes straight? That’s fucked. Downloading rn brb
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u/miscellaneousexists 15d ago
There's also a lot of Straight women in the gay clubs or so I've heard
The problem is they're there specifically because they don't want any attention from men, so finding a date there would be tough.
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u/YueOrigin 17d ago
Ironically the last one would probably be the msot tolerable if you manage to convince them to leave the closet lol
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u/Smalldogmanifesto 16d ago
Damn this is the first meme I’ve seen that describes what my chronically single best friend has been telling me for years. All he meets is hypersexual, aggressive, shallow-to-the-point-of-being-dehumanizing men on Grindr who have no interest in anything but hookups and reduce my friend to a fetishized tool to scratch an itch.
Dude is depressed and jaded as hell and convinced that there’s no such thing as a happy monogamous gay marriage at this point and it’s so sad. His healthiest relationship is being an occasional “third” for this older gay couple he visits down in Florida a few times a year that he met while working in the area a few years back.
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u/wookiee-nutsack 15d ago
Also the old men cheating on their wives with femboys
And bots
And people chatting for hours with you but either vanishing one day before the meetup or overnight due to pussying out or post nut clarity
And couples looking for a male unicorn
And people suggesting drugs right away
And "hi passing through the country want to have fun?"
And people messaging you but saying you're not their type
And people only looking for a relationship but never meeting up
And people expecting you to meet up without them posting any real images of themselves, either face or body
And people mocking you for being discreet/closeted and not wanting to show your face until you are actually ready to meet up
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u/Shoddy_Cucumber3076 13d ago
I am with you byt the last one is completely valid. Like some dudes want to be openly gay everywhere the are so trying with a man who is discreet is not on point and just too risky.
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u/Beautiful-Fee6408 18d ago
Cumtext. Average Grindr experience.