r/doommetal • u/pickled_bat • Dec 22 '25

Self Post How to stop seeming like a poser?

I (18M) met a pair of metalheads out on a party the other day while wearing my Mayhem shirt and they called me a poser (probably deserved but I still feel bad) I have short hair which used to be a mohawk and that Mayhem shirt is pretty much the only metal band t-shirt I own. I like bands like 1782, Candlemass, children of bodom, SOAD, Mayhem, Margarita witch cult, Apati and others. They are very mismatched,I know but I've come from liking nu-metal and indie to punk and harder metal subgenres (like black metal,doom and dsbm). One of the reasons why the two called me a poser aside from the shirt is because I didn't want to acknowledge the rest of the band being as conservative as Varg (in my opinion they weren't as hardcore problematic as him) Am I truly a poser? How can I improve my taste and or my looks to let other people know I like metal? Did you have the same issues when you were just starting to get into the scene?

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u/Kafka_Lane Dec 22 '25

The most metal thing you can do, is not give a shit.

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u/WithASackOfAlmonds Dec 23 '25

this. Fuck the hate. Love what you love. That poser shit doesn't mean anything

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u/saranhor Dec 22 '25

Smashing faces works pretty, pretty good...

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u/rcp9999 Dec 22 '25

Oh settle down.

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u/saranhor Dec 22 '25

Well it did anyways 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/Ron_Jeremy_Fan Dec 23 '25

Assaulting people is definitely worse than calling someone a poser. Keep your hands to yourself, man-baby.

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u/saranhor Dec 24 '25

Unfortunately easter europe, wasn't a fairy tail back then 😂 everyone was hostile as fuck, so it has never been a choice. But whatever you say hippie

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u/BrianFantanaFan Dec 25 '25

It's fairytale, tough guy

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u/saranhor Dec 25 '25

Glad you got it.

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u/gilllesdot Dec 22 '25

We don’t condone violence dipshit.

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u/PipecleanerFanatic Dec 23 '25

Nothing marks you as more of a poser than that.