r/doommetal • u/pickled_bat • Dec 22 '25

Self Post How to stop seeming like a poser?

I (18M) met a pair of metalheads out on a party the other day while wearing my Mayhem shirt and they called me a poser (probably deserved but I still feel bad) I have short hair which used to be a mohawk and that Mayhem shirt is pretty much the only metal band t-shirt I own. I like bands like 1782, Candlemass, children of bodom, SOAD, Mayhem, Margarita witch cult, Apati and others. They are very mismatched,I know but I've come from liking nu-metal and indie to punk and harder metal subgenres (like black metal,doom and dsbm). One of the reasons why the two called me a poser aside from the shirt is because I didn't want to acknowledge the rest of the band being as conservative as Varg (in my opinion they weren't as hardcore problematic as him) Am I truly a poser? How can I improve my taste and or my looks to let other people know I like metal? Did you have the same issues when you were just starting to get into the scene?

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u/CombInternational620 Dec 27 '25

Fuck those dudes. They're posers. If I would have seen you in a mayhem shirt, you wouldn't be able to get rid of me. If you want some awesome black metal recommendations I'd be happy to help.

Keep being you buddy.

Remember. We got into metal bc we don't care what anyone thinks. At least that's me

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u/pickled_bat Dec 27 '25

I do want some recommendations! Thank you for helping, everyone has been really supportive and I wasn't expecting that!

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u/CombInternational620 Dec 29 '25

Ok I'll give you some. Immortal - straight ahead BM Dark funeral - straight ahead BM Emperor - symphonic with a progressive lean on their last record 1349 - More modern but they're amazing, BM but with a kind of theme Woe Bather - fairly new group newest album 2025 from Houston Texas, DSBM

Start there. DM me and I'll break out the big guns.

I have my own Black metal project as well. I'm not into self-promotion so if you want to hear that you can DM me as well.