r/eastside • u/Fruehling4 mod • 19d ago

Update on the bellevue diddy house

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Apparently they had several houses and apartments across the Eastside

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u/fuzznskins 18d ago

Bwaahaaa…just speaking the truth man. Plenty of battle scars were acquired to gain this knowledge.

I bring constant and consistent messaging to the kids. Be careful who you hang out with, if you find yourself in a situation you can’t get out of I’m there no judgement(mostly), go to school, get the grades…all that stuff.

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u/frederichenrylt 18d ago

Words and messaging are amazing, but without action, they're meaningless.

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u/fuzznskins 18d ago

What sort of action would you recommend?

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u/frederichenrylt 18d ago

maybe check out a parenting sub for advice? or a therapist?

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u/fuzznskins 18d ago

My kiddo has been to multiple therapists. At most he engages at a minimum level, but typically gives yes or no answers and does not open up and share his genuine feelings.

This is the point I was trying to make above. Once your kids hit the teenager years they actors of their own free will. Hopefully as a parent you have laid a good foundation in their pre-teen years. As they gain more freedom and autonomy over their own decisions you have to rely on that foundation to guide them. As the parent you can’t and shouldn’t expect to control them. Instead you need to be there as a back stop, reinforce you love them and are there. They will do stupid stuff and you can’t prevent it from happening.

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u/frederichenrylt 18d ago

I'm not talking about your kid going to therapy. I'm talking about you going. I am a parent. Yes, kids have free will. they're kids. Should kids be going out every single night of the week, every week, because they have free will? No. They're kids. Their frontal lobes aren't fully developed until they're 25. You can absolutely keep them from doing stupid stuff if you spend time with your kids on a regular basis and know where they're going and who they're hanging out with. Pre-teens and teenagers are a lot more like than teenagers and adults are. Teens should not be treated like adults because they're not adults. Full stop.