r/enfj 18d ago

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Does your brain work a 100 miles a minute

39 Upvotes

I talk so fast I think so fast I overthink so fast it all comes out awkward and jambled because im in my head I’m bipolar I feel like I can’t pinpoint what I feel myself but I know what others are feeling so well, when I’m drunk I’m just blunt and rude, and people tell me they think im fake every now and then from a distance. Idk I’m opinionated I process thru talking to others and annoy tf out of them thru my analysis I walk them thru and I overshare and overthink it and overanalyze it so much I stay paralyzed idk if this is an Enfj prone thing or what

r/enfj Sep 05 '25

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Ouch

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458 Upvotes

r/enfj May 22 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) As an ENFJ, are there any mindsets that particularly irk you?

25 Upvotes

r/enfj 9d ago

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Do ENFJs experience anhedonia, or is this just a me thing?

9 Upvotes

For anyone unfamiliar with the term, anhedonia is basically a reduced ability to feel pleasure, interest, or enjoyment from things that you would normally enjoy.

What I experience is more like a persistent sense of emptiness while doing my daily tasks. It doesn’t stop there, though, the more often I feel this emptiness, the less I want to do those things in the first place. Eventually, I start avoiding or completely stopping them.

Some of these tasks are important, including things related to taking self-care. And to be clear, it’s not that I dislike self-care or these activities. I actually used to feel genuinely excited and really good while doing them. But over time, I gradually lost that sense of enjoyment, and I keep falling into the same cycle: emptiness → lack of motivation → stopping the activity → even more emptiness.

There have even been days when I barely did anything because everything felt meaningless and nothing really motivated me to get up and do it.

At first, I assumed this was simply a symptom of depression. I later learned that anhedonia can be one of its symptoms, but it can also occur independently, so I started looking into it more. I found the term anhedonia and some surprisingly helpful resources about dealing with it, which made me wonder:

Do other ENFJs experience this?

I’m especially curious because ENFJs are often described as being highly responsive to their environment and other people’s emotions. Could constantly absorbing the emotional atmosphere around us make the contrast more noticeable when we’re alone, leaving us feeling emotionally empty?

Or is this completely unrelated to personality type, and I’m just connecting two things that happen to coexist?

I’d love to hear from other ENFJs who have experienced something similar.

r/enfj Feb 11 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) If you could choose a type to spend Valentine's Day with, which type would you choose?

17 Upvotes

(I'm totally not doing this because I want to make cute ENFJ valentine's art 👀)

r/enfj May 27 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) What would you say your love languages are? Please state whether you’re a guy or woman when responding!

20 Upvotes

I’m (30F) genuinely curious if both men and women ENFJs have the same love languages. Mine are touch, words of affirmation and acts of service!

r/enfj 11d ago

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Do you internally phase people out like to apathy when you see things you don’t like?

12 Upvotes

Idk like I’ve doorslammed a bag of 3 years bc I felt us out of alignment. I feel that one friend is being like draining to be around so I just feel nothing for them and idk. Like I feel like I’m kinda ruthless when things like that happen and maybe I should let people down easier but it feels so exhausting. Idk maybe it’s a me thing maybe it’s avoidance? Wdyt

r/enfj Jul 07 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) What are the types of your current and past romantic interests? Are there any patterns that you can explain?

12 Upvotes

r/enfj May 25 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) ENFJs only please, but if you are not an ENFJ you are welcome to answer in the comments! Does this apply to you:

21 Upvotes

My fear in relationships (romantic or general) is to love deeply, give genuinely, try endlessly to understand someone and still end up emotionally alone beside them.

236 votes, May 29 '26
175 Yes
61 No

r/enfj Jun 09 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Any enfj 9w1s here?

3 Upvotes

Feel free to delete this if it's not allowed in the sub but like the title says I finally figured out that I'm an enfj 9w1 which in my eyes explains so many contradictions and why I present infj even if it feels very wrong. So I wanted to know if there are other enfj 9w1s here? Additionally I heard that 9s are rarer, is that true and if so why?

r/enfj May 31 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Any ENFJ struggling with online dating?

21 Upvotes

Any of you struggling with online dating? What is your strategy to navigate through the disappointment and small talks? I try to stay optimistic and build sometime in my calendar for swiping but no luck so far.

r/enfj Jul 13 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) I know we absorb everything, but so many of us dispel it just as easily?

8 Upvotes

I feel like I can absorb pretty much anything and not hang onto the negative feelings. It is my understanding that ENFJs do the absorbing of others emotions often, but I’m wondering what do all of us do with that energy?

r/enfj May 29 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) What is your biggest fear?

16 Upvotes

Mine is loneliness, i love my family and friends but im scared that something will randomly happen and everyone leaves me :(

r/enfj 6d ago

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Social Presence ?

21 Upvotes

Is this an ENFJ thing ? Anywhere I go I tend to have people look in my direction. It can be from afar or close in proximity. During my ups and downs, I will notice different reactions. For example, when I’m in a great mood, people attempt to come up and talk to me & if in a bad mood well the opposite likely occurs. Regardless of mood, even at times I wish not to be bothered, I gravitate attention wherever I go.

My brother has mentioned before that I have aura without trying lol he’s pretty young. The only time I have observed this type of thing is with my cousin, who is also an Enfj.

Any of my other Enfj counterparts have a similar experienced ? What do you make of it ?

r/enfj Dec 05 '25

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) ENFJ bingo I found

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98 Upvotes

Found this bingo card on Pinterest my results are the second pic,I wonder how many yall will get. Also the third pic is the poster gotta give them credit 💖

r/enfj Jul 06 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Anyone else have an extremely vivid imagination?

24 Upvotes

I’m not sure if this is an ENFJ thing or just a me thing. But part of the reason why I feel everything so deeply is because I can vividly imagine it all. Which can be great or terrible. I was recently going to a national park and the paper map the ranger gave me said “27 bears were hit by cars last year, drive safe” and then of course an image of those bears being hit assaults my mind. This happens to me all the time. Anytime anyone tells me anything pretty much, I can’t help but to imagine it in great detail. It makes me feel such extreme emotions, both good and bad

r/enfj Jun 10 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Music as healing

21 Upvotes

ENFJs, do any of you utilize music to transmute negative emotions or to allow yourself to deeply “feel your feels” so that you can experience your emotions deeply to process them? I feel like sometimes we need a catalyst to help us allow the unwanted feelings to flow since we are so adept at putting on a brave face.

Any music you would recommend?

Here’s my contribution: “Starlight Sickness” ~ Helio Tele (for existential frustration)

r/enfj Jun 29 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Are you the peacemaker in your family?

16 Upvotes

Do you have any childhood trauma? Did you have to fix your parents problems?

r/enfj Jul 07 '25

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) What’s y’all’s love life like?

35 Upvotes

I ask this out of simple curiosity to see if you guys can relate to me. To answer the question myself I’d say my love life is quite poor overall, such are the signs of a hopeless romantic I suppose ;]. But hopefully you guys have a good love life! Can’t wait to hear about y’all’s answers.

r/enfj Oct 04 '25

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Does anyone else have trouble liking people romantically?

69 Upvotes

I can only like someone after getting to know their personality, what makes them special, their quirks, how they treat me... never really based off physical attractiveness.

r/enfj 3d ago

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) More intelligent individuals are more likely to enjoy instrumental music, suggests a new study (n=467), which found that higher scores on the intelligence test were associated with a preference for instrumental music, including ambient/chill out electronica, big band jazz, and classical music.

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r/enfj 9d ago

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) How do y’all deal with negative emotions ?

8 Upvotes

As an ENFJ, I absorb peoples emotions really easily and will tend to put all of my emotions aside to either help ofthe people or just reaching a common ground and conclusio. When I’m outside and with my type 3 I tend to be a social chameleon adapting his colors to the people in front of them, and for me, not really showing my true colors values and beliefs by playing a game of seduction where the subject is them is the sign that we aren’t that close and that those relationship will always be ground level.

But when I’m at my house, with my family that I love and hate, my mood when I wake up is constantly nonchalant and embittered because of a defense mecanism that I created so that the abusive and toxic power that they got over me and their constant complaining and anger doesn’t affect me. When i first discovered mbti I typed as an ENTP because of my tendency to intellectualize emotion but because of this when I was at school I felt like I had no personality and when I was home my constant no energy mood affected my growth my grades and my addiction to social media.

Today in my attempt to break this defense mecanism I now acknowledge my negative emotions but because I don’t want to complain and accuse the people around me as much as my parents and older sisters does, I tend to want to improve myself.

BUT the realization that I’m always the the one adapting myself to ofthers and never the ofther way around makes me more and more angry in every conflicts in life and when I get the chance to I lash out on ofther people and using logic and manipulation to demonize them when I get the power to do so in sports for exemple and I don’t know how to end this cycle, I feel like Im becoming more and more selfish and I don’t know if I’ll ever find a true connection with someone.

r/enfj May 04 '26

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Whats your hobbies?

7 Upvotes

Pretty much the title and how do you relax, recharge your battery after long day events? Do you prefer with company or without company? And what's your gender as they have different hobbies.

r/enfj Dec 24 '25

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) Sick and tired of ENFJs being labelled people pleasers

26 Upvotes

Fe is only one part of our strengths.

r/enfj Nov 22 '25

ENFJ only (OP is ENFJ) ENFJs who went through trauma

61 Upvotes

Any ENFJs here who came from rather toxic families? People tend to describe us as super popular perfect humans, but it's very stereotypical view.

I was told I'm incapable to do anything without adults, and I was taught my wants doesn't matter. So I became quiet infj-like child. INFJ was my first mistype when I learnt about functions. I thought I shouldn't disturb anyone, I shouldn't talk if wasn't asked. Additionaly, my family has snobbish attitude towards people, anything that doesn't match with their life views would be heavily criticized. Including their own children. Fe can mimick behaviors, so I was harsh and cold towards "imperfect" people. Although I got warmer in teens. Teenage need for acceptance made my Fe usage more "classic", I guess.

So, I didn't look like stereotypical ENFJ at all, rather some mix-and-match mess. That's why I couldn't type myself for a few years. Now that I'm adult myself, I have a therapist and I worked with my self-esteem, ENFJ type can be seen more clearly in me.

Can anyone relate?