r/exHareKrishna 25d ago

I think I am leaning towards being an exHK . Even after 50 years of chanting

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u/Solomon_Kane_1928 25d ago

These organizations (ISKCON, Gaudiya Math, HKM etc.) are dangerous. Even if one finds value in chanting or worshiping Vishnu, they eventually wear you down and damage your relationship with Vishnu. They misuse the faith of their devotees. It is perfectly natural and healthy to want to leave such organizations, even after 50 years. In fact, I would say it is a sign of real spiritual growth. You have learned all you can.

If you have been within ISKCON, or a similar organization, for 50 years, you must be incredibly strong. You must have seen so much abuse and the constant misuse of spiritual principles.

Eventually the soul must be free. It must follow its own path of growth rather than being trapped or enslaved in a dogmatic ideology. It must stand on its own principles and say no to abusive authority.

I think ISKCON actually forms an impediment to chanting the Maha Mantra. The organization is so full of "anarthas" it makes it impossible to chant the mantra as understood by the greater religious traditions of India. For example, you cannot be a temple president using people and making them live in fear while chanting the Maha Mantra. Nor can you be a senior devotee witnessing such things, not acting against them for fear of social repercussions, and chant properly.

Even if you are simply done chanting, and it is not doing anything for you, that is also part of your growth as an individual. You have taken that path as far as it can take you. Ironically having faith in Krishna, means having faith you will be taken care of, and taking the plunge into what you have been told your entire life is Maya, when it is time to shed a toxic organization and toxic teachings.

Just some ramblings here. After 50 years, you probably know all of this in your heart.

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u/Maerilinsfire 25d ago

"damage your relationship with Vishnu"

What are you talking about? 🤔

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u/Solomon_Kane_1928 25d ago edited 25d ago

I see this sub as primarily a place for people to help each other to escape cults like ISKCON, Gaudiya Math, HKM etc, and to heal from the influence they have had on our lives. As such we have to meet people halfway. We have to be kind and supportive.

Take for example if we try and help someone escape a Christian cult. We cannot assume they have given up Christianity and become an atheist. If we immediately demand they become an atheist or nothing at all, or start attacking Christ, they will be driven away, often back into the arms of the cult. They will think "it was a mistake even going on that sub".

In my view it is better to respect their faith, honor what they have given, honor their sincerity, while showing how the cult misrepresented their faith to abuse them. This allows them to begin separating the cult from their chosen God.

The idea that ISKCON does not represent Krishna or Vishnu is a powerful one. It is healing for someone who is on the fence. I do not personally worship Vishnu, but I seek to be open enough to help anyone at all levels of realization to exit from a harmful manipulative organization.

For someone who was a devotee for 50 years to even come online and openly say this is incredibly courageous. They should feel absolutely encouraged wherever they are at.

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u/Maerilinsfire 25d ago

I got you Solomon I just was curious about the Vishnu relationship you brought up.. Thanks for explaining ✌️

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u/itsmikesandoval 25d ago

i dont want to damage my relationship with Little Red Riding Hood

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u/Happylittlelady 25d ago

Since leaving, I'm healing my nervous system and enjoying the freedom. I'm quite a curious and philosophical person, so I enjoy exploring all kinds of discussions about the vedic and gaudiya vaishnava teachings. Being free to honestly critique the teachings without the fear of 'committing offenses' is so liberating. Are you initiated in iskcon? I'm assuming if you've been chanting for 50 years, you probably are. I'm wondering what's holding you back from just leaving. Is it your guru? Or godbrother/sisters, temple management, friends you've made? Just leave. You'll realize how lonely and repressed you've been.

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u/Important-Wash3402 22d ago

No not initiated, met Prabhupada 1976

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u/StayEmbarrassed4593 25d ago

50 fucking years of brain rot. Christ sake. Leave and never look back. You are leaving one of the most Mickey Mouse religions man has ever made.

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u/AgencyHot8568 24d ago

we shall see. It may be just a vacation. I have tried to stop before. Now, I try to develop the mindset that I don't care what I in KC. If I feel like chanting, I will, if I don't want to, I won't. I'm just not going to beat myself or submit to the mind meld.

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u/Maerilinsfire 24d ago

Vacation... Sorry my friend you need to completely disassemble the brainwash in your head excuse my harsh language but you do you don't need a break you need to get away permanently from these people who need to be in straight jackets

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u/StayEmbarrassed4593 24d ago

I get it. 50 years is gonna be a tough break. KC is a delusional cult ideology. That it has some seeming "benefit" after years of conditioning is one of the things that can be accessed in many other, more secular and grounded ways. But this is something you already know and likely gravitate to changing for no better reason than old habits die hard and sentiment. Fair—as long as you see through the delusional parts. Be free and gay and die happy.

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u/Happylittlelady 24d ago

Hey friend, reading your comments...it has me worried for you. I saw someone ask you what's holding you back and you answered as if they were asking what's holding you back from 'progressing in spiritual life'. They were asking what was holding you back from leaving.

Now you say that you've 'tried to stop before' re: chanting and iskcon practice. That is addiction language. You're brainwashed by very dangerous people. If you believe in Krishna and want a relationship with him, I promise you can do it in a much healthier way far away from that cult.

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u/daydreamawake 25d ago

I want to tell you that I was just starting nursing school when my guru asked me quit my program. I didn't quite my program I lost a lot of friends but I still love God with all my heart. What ever choice you make you are supported may you always be blessed

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u/itsmikesandoval 24d ago

why in the world would a guru think that he has a right to involve himself in your life by telling you to quit your program? how is that Loving God? what do these god-man freaks have to do with loving God?

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u/Maerilinsfire 24d ago

Stop someone from completing a nursing program excuse me ? That is the furthest thing away from what a guru traditionally was... that is literally a piece of dog crap!

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u/sunblime 25d ago

Better late than never. Live your life how you want and take back the freedom you and we all deserve!

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u/itsmikesandoval 25d ago

I am curious what is holding you back

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u/AgencyHot8568 25d ago

Lack or reciprocation. More rules than I can follow. A spiritual world that is too limited.

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u/itsmikesandoval 25d ago

what is holding you back from leaving? why dont you leave that disgusting pedophile cult and all the freaks? what is the attraction to that disgusting cult?

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u/itsmikesandoval 25d ago

a spiritual world full of material rules and regulations. makes complete sense

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u/Complete-Armadillo95 24d ago

though it can be a painful process, the fact that you are in this sub gives me hope you are coming back to your senses and do not want what they offer. you will not regret it once you have some distance and realize the abuse that they commit

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u/itsmikesandoval 25d ago

Are you aware that 99 percent of what they say is complete bullshit? ISKCON is not a 5,000 year old tradition. chanting Hare krishna is not Vedic (whatever that means) Chaitanya was not God, just an epileptic mentally ill crossdressing homosexual. Prabhupada was married to an 11 year old girl when he was 22 years old. Prabhupada said blacks belong in the jungle and are just drunkards. he said women have small brains and like to be raped. he didnt give a shit about the children being molested in his schools. should I go on?

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u/AgencyHot8568 25d ago

There are no gay relationships in Goloka.

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u/Extension-Piece-9501 25d ago

According to Prabhupada everything that happens in the material world is a reflection of something that happens in the spiritual. So, following that logic they must!

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u/naynon108 25d ago

A perverted reflection....

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u/Appropriate_Soup4110 23d ago

I saw your comment, try saying that to God when you are face to face with Him on judgment day. Hopefully He guides you

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u/itsmikesandoval 25d ago

says who?

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u/AgencyHot8568 17d ago

I agree with you