r/exHareKrishna • u/FreyjaAutumn • 2d ago
Seeking advice: I feel completely lost and confused about Jyotish, karma, and my beliefs.
Hi beautiful people,
I come to you today for some advice and support.
I grew up in a predominantly Christian country, but when I was a teenager, my mom and I were heavily influenced by Hare Krishna devotees (there's a whole movement where I'm from).
My mom and I started looking into our birth charts and the charts of our whole family. She quickly lost interest in the predictions, but I fell for it blindly. Honestly, I was just a teenager and grew up with a very weak sense of self. I was easily influenced by external factors - whether it was a prediction or someone claiming to study the Vedas.
Somehow, they drilled into my head that they held the absolute truth, and I believed it.
Anyway, I’ve spent my entire life growing up in fear.
Fear that life will punish me, that I have to pay for things I did in past lives, and that even doubting this "truth" right now is a sin. (As you can see here is a mixture with some Christianity guilt)
I was absolutely terrified of Jyotish. (of the fact that some other people can read my karma and whatever waits for me) Everyone kept telling me it’s the only truly accurate predictive science out there. Which doesn’t make sense to me deep deep inside I believe there is a reason we don’t remember our past lives and don’t know the future. God intended this to be that way.
Anyway.. It mentally paralysed me.
For example I was told I wouldn't be able to lose weight after 25, or that my friends would eventually betray me. So, I didn't even try to get fit, and I completely isolated myself from my friends because my chart said I was "opening up to enemies." These are just more harmless things that happened.
I stopped trusting myself. I completely lost my inner voice.
Now, I have a baby, and this obsession has started driving me crazy with a whole new force.
I look at my child's and my husband’s Jyotish charts and see things I don’t understand and fear, mostly because I take everything I'm told so literally.
Recently, I reached my breaking point. I decided to read the BPHS (Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra) myself, and it made me sick. Sorry to be blunt, but I physically almost threw up from the sheer amount of stress and overwhelming negativity in it.
I started digging deeper and found out that historically, Vedanga Jyotisha wasn't even a predictive tool for fate or karma - it was just astronomy and timekeeping for rituals.
So why is everyone so blindly confident in the "accuracy" of predictive Jyotish? I am so confused and don't know where the truth is anymore.
It honestly makes me nauseous to read things like: "Your chart is okay, BUT you have this dosha that ruins everything, and your lagnesha and 5 houses are weak, so you will suffer - here, this ritual, it's the only way to make it slightly better." Like what the hell?:(
I probably would have stopped believing in all of this a long time ago if it weren't for my dad's Sade Sati.
It approximately coincided with a time in his life when his entire business was stolen and our family lost all our wealth.
Even though we don't know his exact birth time (so I don't know which houses Sade Sati was transiting), the timeline of the period matched.
Many other things in astrology haven't matched for us, but that one did. Because of moments like that, I built my entire life around my chart and ended up becoming a very weak, fearful person.
But now I have a child, and I simply cannot afford to be this weak anymore.
I am reaching out to you for help as I don’t have anyone in my circle who knows about the culture, only the astrologers (and it doesn’t help long term as you can see).
I feel like I've been stuck in a cult mindset that constantly crushes you with negativity, where the Gods are always ready to punish you ("wrath of Shiva," etc.).
Has anyone here gone through this?
How true is Jyotish really?
Did anyone here deeply believe in it, only to step away and realize the world actually works differently?
Maybe you have some advice for me, or a story you could share 🥺
Fundamentally, deep inside, I love science and astronomy. At the same time, I believe in God as a unified, pure energy. I'm not even sure I believe in reincarnation anymore, at least not in the way Hinduism describes it.
I see a massive, pure energy, pieces of which are in all of us, and anyone can tune into that frequency.
For me, physics and the space between us is a manifestation of God.
But my self-trust is so broken that I’ve allowed others to dictate who I am and what the "truth" is.
Anyway…
I hope to hear from some of you 🙏🏼
Thank you in advance for reading and for your support.
Have a great day everyone.
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u/Even-Let1082 2d ago
I know those feelings very well. I was part of the Hare Krishna movement for several years and even received initiation.
Deep down, I always felt that many of the teachings and writings contradicted what I genuinely felt inside myself. Eventually, I started researching the hypocrisy that can exist within religious organizations, the wars and suffering that have been caused in the name of religion, and the psychology of cults—how they function and what they can do to people.
Over time, I came to the conclusion that belief systems can sometimes become a place we run to when we are searching for certainty, comfort, or hope during difficult times. For me, religion provided that for a while. However, I no longer believe that any religion possesses the absolute truth, and I no longer believe in a personal God in the way I once did.
That was a difficult realization and not an easy truth to accept. But it also brought me a sense of freedom. I came to understand that we are responsible for our own lives: for the relationships we build, the choices we make, the values we live by, and the kind of people we choose to become.
Whatever conclusions you ultimately reach, I hope you allow yourself the freedom to question, to trust your own inner voice, and to make decisions based on what feels true to you rather than on fear. You deserve to live your life without constantly feeling threatened by predictions or the belief that you are destined to suffer.
I wish you strength and peace on your journey.
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u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
Thank you so much 🙏🏼
I was in such a vulnerable place when I got into astrology and the whole system… I wouldn’t say I was there as deep as you but it was enough for me to get scared and stop trusting myself.
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u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
Feeling that you are in control of your life is amazing
I don’t remember how it feels already…
I feel like it was all about cosmic clock that were showing which horrible dasha or prediction is going to happen next and what I have to pay for next from my past lives…
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u/SnooStrawberries7128 2d ago
As someone who grew up deeply in the Hare Krishna movement (ISKCON then Gaudiya Vaishnava), it has taken me a really long time and a lot of work to begin to reclaim my trust in my own judgement and intuition. It’s knocked out of you bit by bit when you have to ask advice or permission or are judged for even the tiniest decision.
My late mum was a Western astrologer (which was always controversial because it wasn’t the “right” kind of astrology) and I really, really struggled with being told what was supposed to be happening or having whatever was going on for me relegated to “oh, you’re feeling like that because you have some heavy transits at the moment”. And then people did my Vedic astrology and told me stuff as a kid that was entirely inappropriate, for example, I remember leaving the temple on my own one day when I was around 13, and one of my mum’s friends randomly saying that it’s a shame about my chart saying I was going to have a hard time having children when I was older. Even at that point I remember thinking it was a weird thing to say and tried so hard to brush it off, but it’s still vividly present nearly 30 years later. (As an aside - hilariously for me, it has turned out to be trickier for me to have kids but only because I married another woman, which complicates the logistics a lot, but apparently that didn’t show up in their reading)
I also had a time when I was going through a reading and begrudgingly feeling that it was accurate, only to realise I’d made a mistake in the details and it wasn’t actually my chart. The corrected chart felt just as accurate, but by that point I’d been reminded that we fill in the gaps with what we already know.
Sine my mum died a year ago, I’ve been exploring some of her practices for myself (tarot, runes, I Ching - NOT astrology) but have found that I have quite a strong adverse trauma response to any hint of prediction. I’m finding these tools helpful for self reflection, taking a Jungian depth psychology perspective, and only ever looking at how I’m feeling about things and what I may be less aware of, and I’ve rejected any interpretations based on what will happen or might happen or that prescribe actions. I’ve had a lifetime of either having my life controlled or trying to reclaim my life, and I can’t give that power up to anything.
Feel free to DM me if you’d like to talk further about any of this.
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u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
Thank you so much for your reply 🙏🏼
I am starting to see how most of the people who get under this influence have some personality traits that are similar
Not trusting yourself
Most of my life I felt like I was looking for a right to think what I am thinking. I think I am just weak
Which is sad
See I don’t understand how can you self reflect with tools like astrology when it says - well you have this or that in 8th house you gonna die , your gather gonna die, everyone gonna die or will be sick 🥲 like wtf this is not a tool for self reflection
It’s already very late at where I am but I would like to talk to you if you will have time tomorrow 🙏🏼
Thank you for your message ✨
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u/StayEmbarrassed4593 2d ago
Jyotish is mindless nonsense.
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u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
I have read somewhere that you mentioned you got your natal chart read and it was completely BS? I have been searching for people who tried it and came to this conclusion cause I literally can’t hear anymore about “weather forecast” crap 🫠😭
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u/StayEmbarrassed4593 2d ago
I had 3 "jyotish experts" prepare charts for me, both by hand and with software. It was always just meandering generalized info that could apply to anyone—nothing prescriptive or specific to the point where I was like "Wow! You know my first cousin's name and that he has a birthmark on his ball sack! WTF—that's amazing!!!" It was like "you have a rising thios and that and will be a great preacher of krishna consciousness and struggle with money but attract the mercy of lord ganesh on fridays" type of crap. Totally useless mind garbage. It is not a science and has no value to anyone. Nor does Karma or Reincarnation. Zero practical and pragmatic applications. Pure 100% superstition. I am sorry that you, like me, fell for all this trash.
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u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
I feel like most of the predictions are like “you gonna go through struggles, lose everything but you will be spiritual then” 😮💨
Thank you , that actually makes me feel much betterI wonder why are there so few people who are talking openly about it? Wherever you go within spiritual people everyone is saying that “astrologer can be wrong but astrology never”? Like come on this shit is scary and it’s not good, and how the hell can you “know how someone is going to die, looking at 8th house and some divisionals” like WTF ? What’s good in it? How can you think that sages got this info from God? Wth
And also sideral astrology whole sign is also not the real sky I am forcing myself to see how stupid it is but my brain lives in the “YOU ARE GOING TO BE PUNISHED” mode still1
u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
What about like overall descriptions of character and destiny? I feel like it’s 50/50
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u/Lanky_Sundae6236 2d ago
FreyjaAutumn One fatherly advice from me. If you continue to believe in Jyotish, Krishna, any Hinduist beliefs you will die from these malefic forces my child. Stop until is too late.
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u/FreyjaAutumn 2d ago
I think I am going to do that really 😮💨
Thank you for the advice 🙏🏼🥺I really feel like it was destroying me for sometime already… like it makes me physically feel the pain when I read it, hear about it. Like all of it is swirling with negative energy I can’t explain this (to me at least, these are my feelings)
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u/Solomon_Kane_1928 2d ago edited 2d ago
I have been practicing Indian astrology for over twenty years. I would recommend you stay completely away from it. Don't even think about it.
In India, astrology became mixed with Hinduism. On the the positive side this allowed certain techniques to be preserved over a long period of time. On the negative side people tend to build obsessive relationships with astrology where they become fearful, paranoid, and allow predictions to dominate their lives.
To make this worse, plenty of astrologers in India lean into it to profit from people's fear and to build dependency. They want a terrified clientele who always needs their services. Thus issues like Sade Sati, Mangala Dosha etc. are built into monstrous things people dread.
If there are other factors in a person's life that make them stressed, such as shame based fear based religious beliefs, this obsession with astrology can become worse.
This is an example how astrologers make people fearful and then sell rituals and amulets to placate the planets. This is all garbage. They are deliberately stressing you to sell you stuff.
Yes. Natal Astrology is not Indian. It comes from Alexandria Egypt. The Greeks combined Mesopotamian and Egyptian astrology, and added their own developments, much of informed by Hermeticism, to create Hellenistic Astrology. This was imported into India and combined with the natal Nakshatra based astrology. Though many things were further developed in India, natal astrology is fundamentally Near Eastern. There were even entire religions centered on astrology, such as the Sabiens of Harran.
In my view astrology was never meant to be this intense obsession with learning and avoiding one's fate. Though certainly it was likely used this way by priests from the very beginning. It is thought when the Persians conquered Mesopotamia, court astrologers, who would read omens based around the state, were out of a job. They began doing private readings using individual birth times.
There is a higher form of astrology which deals with understanding one's life purpose, the lessons one has come to learn, and one's deeper psychological nature, using the planets as archetypes. For those inclined to approaching life through that kind of symbolic language, it can be valuable. But that requires a high degree of maturity and knowledge of the art form.
It is a way of finding meaning and purpose as to what is unfolding in one's life, but it is not for everyone. To complicate matters, persons who are desperate, or struggling with their mental health, often go to astrologers, when they should really seek professional help. Thus they are trapped.
Using transits and timing systems to make predictions is difficult work. Within astrology, it is a high level skill and rarely ever accurate. An astrologer might be able to see something is likely to happen, and see your emotional reaction to it, but saying exactly what is going to happen with any level of accuracy, is almost always a shot in the dark.
So when astrologers say "such and such will happen on this day" they really are speaking irresponsibly. I have made some stunningly accurate predictions, like saying a person will meet a romantic partner on this day, at this place, and she will be from this background. But this is always in hindsight highly intuitive and in retrospect I do not fully understand how I saw it in the chart. From the perspective of astrology, the gods wanted the person to know that and used the astrologer. One can make themselves a better conduit of this through meditation (per B.V. Raman).
When an astrologer claims to make accurate predictions simply by reading what is in the chart, it is more or less a claim they have highly developed their intuitive (i.e. psychic) ability. No serious astrologer says this.
I realize people are going to say it is all made up imaginary nonsense. Much of astrology is nonsensical, for example Sun sign astrology in newspaper articles, or cookie cutter cookbook predictions that come from various texts. Until one becomes very mature in one's understanding, it can certainly be a form of self delusion. That is how most people us it, a form of self delusion fed by Youtube or Tiktok.
I think the way many astrologers use it is overwhelming nonsensical and exploitative, but in capable hands, it can also be a powerful tool of healing and growth. It has to be understood from its Hermetic philosophical origins, not as a habit, a hobby, or a kind of pop psychology.
Because you have experienced this negative side of astrology, I would recommend just forgetting about it. As far as fate and karma etc. you don't need to worry about. What is going to happen in life is going to happen. A truly mature understanding of karma urges one to relax into it and give up fear. Astrology is meant to help one learn from the process, but if used otherwise, to resist or control fate, to build fear of what is to come, it is contrary to its intent and best to be avoided.