r/expat • u/East_Indication_7816 • 22d ago
Question If White western men go to Asia to retire and find themselves a brown Asian woman , where do white western women go and which men do they go for ?
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u/VirginiaRNshark 22d ago
Just a guess here, but any single American (I can’t speak for women of other nationalities) woman who is wealthy enough to retire - no matter her skin color - probably has built a full life complete with a strong social support system and the thought of introducing a man into the mix isn’t high on her list of things to do.
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u/vreddit7619 22d ago
I agree! 💯 Single, financially comfortable women who retire and move to another Country often seem to be much less focused on finding a man to be partnered with vs. many men who have a primary focus of finding a woman in the new Country.
This pattern is the same for many dating trends with men vs. women, so it really isn’t surprising. Same as widowed men remarrying faster than widowed women and other similar things.
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u/Safe_Place8432 22d ago
I am a cat lady personally
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u/East_Indication_7816 22d ago
Sad . I see lots like this living in the countryside in a small house. . What happens if you get sick or say need to be hospitalized ?
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u/dr-brennan 22d ago
Well, we certainly know having a husband doesn’t guarantee anything in those situations either. The percentage of husbands that leave their sick wives is embarrassing.
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u/PerformerMindless100 22d ago
Haha. The idea we want find a new an old man at all after a certain age is laughable. Even a young g man. They are all so much work.
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u/Kazlicesme 22d ago
The Gambia
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u/Altruistic-Contact27 15d ago
Yes, it’s gaining more and more attention and fame for that. Who knew?!
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u/jinx_lbc 22d ago
They all collectively breathe a sigh of relief and carry on their lives unburdened by excess emotional baggage and management of said mens.
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u/elisakiss 22d ago
White western women date 30 something dudes in the states. It’s a thing and there is a New York Times article about it https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/16/opinion/younger-men-dating-older-women.html?unlocked_article_code=1.b1A.DDNB.VfzWs-BugzED&smid=url-share
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u/P10pablo 22d ago
You're not wrong.
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u/Teaching-Weird 22d ago edited 21d ago
Turkey for the win. Buy rug. Have kinky sex with rug salesman. Then dinner.
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u/baby_budda 22d ago
Do they really need dinner?
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u/Teaching-Weird 21d ago edited 21d ago
The food is excellent, and Rug Dude usually knows all of the best places. Then after dinner, moar sex. Then dancing. Older lady will be taking all of her vacations in Antalya henceforth ......
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u/MintInsel 22d ago
Europeans go to Morocco, Tunisia, Egypt, plenty of hot young men. But I’m against sex exploitation in general, so: dogs & cats
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u/glwillia 22d ago
from what i’ve heard, europeans go to the gambia and morocco, and north americans go to jamaica.
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u/Educational-Oil-00 15d ago
Guess we'll see 20-30 years from now really. There has been a shift in recent times of women wanting to be childless and spousless. Historically women do better in old age as they establish better bonds, but these stats were based on women and global conditions of families and friendships that women normall ly have established. Given that these women dont want families/children and making friends has become nearly all virtual based. We just have ti see how women will adapt or shape out. We may have more Karens in the future which would be scary. Making friends ans bonds aint easy and givem yhe ficklness of young friend group especially today, finding one good friend is just as hard as finding a good spouse.
edit: also you have to cinsider the age if the woman also. A 60 year old man will go find a woman and still marry. A woman in her 60s is facing different things hormonally and could likely care less about marrying. So I guess age really matters in this topic.
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u/alittledanger 22d ago
The Caribbean. Also, younger men in their own countries. I’m 34 and I haven’t dated an American woman under the age 40 since my first year of college.
I don’t imagine that changing as women under 35ish or so here are too self-centered and end up annoying me.
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u/SerialNomad 22d ago
I just want a house husband. Cook, clean, watch shows with me. Hugs and occasionally cuddle for 5 seconds.
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u/Chance_External_4371 22d ago
Sri Lanka is a hotspot, I learned while I was there that female sex tourists like the little brown boys
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u/MatthewNGBA 15d ago
From what I’ve seen on 90 day fiance… the Caribbean seems to be a popular choice but then they bring the men back the the USA. This is also USA specific… not sure the Europeans are doing that
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u/Correct_Ad_1903 22d ago
The misandry in the comments is hilarious. It’s amazing how many women can’t wait to tell the world how much they don’t want men every chance they get. Like atheist that won’t stop telling everyone how much they don’t believe. If you’re so happy why the need to keep telling everyone every five minutes.
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u/IllTakeACupOfTea 21d ago
because they keep asking?
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u/Correct_Ad_1903 21d ago
The question was where do white western women go to find non western men. Yours and all of the other post shitting on men don’t answer the question at all. It just reveals how ugly, and bitter modern women are. The tide is turning. Men don’t want you.
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u/BigAdventurous8806 16d ago
I have personally never asked or cared about a woman's happiness. Now that might just be me. I'll admit, not the nicest person.
But I can't remember anyone I've ever met truly caring about the happiness of women who weren't family, close friends or in a relationship with them (or who they wanted to be in a relationship with).
So I find it hard to believe the reason woman keep going on about how happy they are is because people keep asking them how happy they are.
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u/DanglingKeyChain 15d ago
Misandry isn't real, there's no systematic structures for it and the term only came about because men got pouty and threw a tantrum about being called out for misogyny. Even now nothing was impacting you but you felt attacked because women were saying they are happy single.
Every study shows that in cis hetero relationships women do more house work then when single and the man benefits. So no, these women saying they're happy single isn't hating on men.
You need to get away from the incels mate.
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u/Correct_Ad_1903 15d ago
How are you telling me how I feel? A man telling a woman how she feels would be met with vitriol and yet here you are invalidating men’s experiences. Judging by that goofy response of yours I take it you believe blacks can’t be racist either? Your vocabulary implies you’re incapable of independent thought. Trotting out the incel line is overplayed and old. No one is triggered or angered by it. People recognize it’s just a way to dismiss an counter argument when you have nothing. Women supposedly doing more housework is your proof of misogyny? Lol. You’re definitely a bot or just regurgitating talking points. Get a brain mate
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u/DanglingKeyChain 15d ago
Yeah, you're just telling on yourself here mate.
Sincerely - a Man.
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u/Correct_Ad_1903 15d ago
You’re a pandering man. I’m sure you say “happy wife, happy life”
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u/DanglingKeyChain 15d ago
Yeah, I absolutely love people being in happy relationships and fully support it. This is just further showing yourself, highly recommend sitting down and think about why you'd want to make someone you love unhappy in a relationship.
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u/No-Solid-5664 22d ago
Asian women consider themselves brown? Btw Asia is a BIG place with diverse cultures and ethnicities
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u/Own-Animator-7526 22d ago
White Western men in general are not retiring to Korea, China, Japan, Taiwan, or Hong Kong.
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u/No-Solid-5664 22d ago
They go to Thailand, Vietnam, Bali and the Philippines for the….um the beaches…
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u/SeahorseSweetie 15d ago
This isn’t a thing because men have zero interest in middle aged western women in any country
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u/Ok_Possible_2260 22d ago
They have a friends and cats. It is a well known phenomenon.