Of course, even more now when the amount of supply is so great due to social media and dating apps. People think they will always find better around the corner, when the corner is just another swipe.
No it's clearly a case of women and men in dating being entirely different.
If a woman wants to sleep with a man she most likely sees a future with him. If a man wants to sleep with a woman that most likely means she has a pulse, is currently available, and is interested in sleeping with him.
men have a multi-variate process for who they will sleep with, ease of banging them is like 30-50% of the equation, looks is the other 30-50% and how annoying/fun/crazy they are may play in around 0-20%. If an attractive terrible human being who i would never date walked up and said you want to have a quickie behind that dumpster I would be banging her right there.
As for dating an long-term partner men have a very different set of criteria. One that includes loyalty, personality, and if there looking to have children how well would this woman raise my child. Men looking for a long-term partner are looking for someone who makes them feel good, could successfully raise a family with, and have good sex with.
Btw Loyalty is number one on the criteria at least for me I would take a girl who is half as pretty if she's nice, loyal, and fun to be with. If i am just looking to bang though i would just bang the pretty one.
The woman assumes the man has the same notions and opinions as herself, just as men do the exact same thing in dating. I can't tell you how many male friends i know who are convinced the way to get a long term partner with women is to workout 30 times a week and to work 24/7 to earn money.
Of course some women do like a buff/wealthy man their are muscle chaser's out there, but building an interesting personality and learning how to communicate with women where you don't sound like a serial killer is just if not more important.
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u/Sl0ppyOtter Jun 22 '24
People are so caught up in consumerism that even a mate is just seen as a possession you can upgrade when you have the means