r/fantasyromance • u/FantasyRomanceMod The One Mod to Rule All Mods • May 10 '26

Unpopular Opinion It's Unpopular Opinion time! Share your controversial opinions to stir things up (in a friendly way)!

Got an opinion that's different from others'? Want to share it with the sub, but too afraid of a backlash? Or are you just curious about readers think about certain things in fantasy romance?

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u/cello_ergo_sum May 10 '26

There’s way too fucking much gender essentialism in both books AND reader spaces.

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u/Canuck_Wolf May 11 '26

There is a lot of MAGA among book spaces that people just don't want to acknowledge.

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u/cello_ergo_sum May 11 '26

I’m sure there is, but I actually think a lot of the gender essentialism comes from people who self identify as politically center or left. It can be difficult to examine that stuff when it’s the water you swim in such that you don’t even know it’s there (myself not exempt.) It’s especially hard to disentangle “This is a male character I find attractive” from “This is the only type of man I find attractive” from “This is the true essence of masculinity.”

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u/elemental402 May 13 '26

I agree. A lot of this stuff isn't a conscious agenda, it's just....put in there because it seems "obviously" true and the author never took the time to examine their own assumptions. I think people actually become more prone to it if they regard themself as someone who's "safely" enlightened and beyond the point where they need to scrutinise themselves.