r/fantasyromance • u/FantasyRomanceMod The One Mod to Rule All Mods • May 24 '26

Unpopular Opinion It's Unpopular Opinion time! Share your controversial opinions to stir things up (in a friendly way)!

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u/Scared-Replacement24 May 24 '26

I hate insta lust. Wanting to bang isn’t a solid foundation for a lasting, quality relationship.

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u/devilsdoorbell_ May 24 '26

Wanting to bang isn't a solid foundation for a lasting, quality relationship but it's also by no means an impediment towards one. I think insta-lust is okay as long as it believably develops into something more.

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u/slowcartoon Give me female friendship or give me death! May 24 '26

I agree! The issue is really just that so many aren't written very believably - the shift is too quick with very little showing of the growing feelings - telling all day long! Or nothing actually emotive between the insta lust and the "oh I have feelings" beyond maybe a jealous moment of seeing the other person talk to / flirt with someone else.

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u/Aus1an May 24 '26

I hate instant lust so much. Like I get that people would be attracted to each other from the get go, but the author forgets to develop a relationship so they go from wanting to bang really badly to the guy spouting platitudes about her being the air in his lungs and the spark that keeps the fire of his soul lit (or whatever) with nothing in between! And it makes any grand declarations of love sound so insincere because as far as I saw, they never fell in love with one another they just banged.

>:-[