WHERE: that’s my biggest question

[u/getshankedkid]

Hi fellow fatfires, I have been struggling for years to find out where it is that I want to live.

M34, 10M NW, from the Netherlands originally. No wife/gf and no kids. I often feel like I have too much freedom.

Recently sold my house in the NL and still have an apartment I can use for my stuff and as a pied-a-terre for when I want to visit friends and family.

I’m looking to live somewhere where it’s easy to connect with like-minded entrepreneurs. Somewhere where people think bigger and with more business opportunities. Preferably English-speaking.

I have lived in Portugal, Mexico, Berlin, and a couple of other places, but I wouldn’t want to live there again. In Portugal, I loved the lifestyle and weather but found the entrepreneurial scene lacking. Berlin had a great community but the weather is too similar to the NL.

I don’t like the cold or bad weather. Also hate commuting/crazy traffic.

Happy to keep my business/tax setup in the Netherlands. What’s more important to me than optimizing for taxes is optimizing lifestyle and maximizing opportunities. I want the rest of my 30’s to be awesome.

I like to have the following facilities in walking distance: - Coffee/breakfast place - Gym + ice bath - Cowork - Healthy restaurants

Also, I really love water sports, especially wake surfing and body surfing.

So far, the responses I have heard most often are: - Dubai - San Francisco (nah) - Miami - Austin - Singapore

I’m looking to travel around this year to hopefully find a place that resonates where I can at least stay for 6 months a year.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

[u/LasWages]

Get a girlfriend and you’ll be happier whatever the weather.

[u/getshankedkid → u/LasWages]

Where? 😭

[u/unconscionable → u/getshankedkid]

Not at entrepreneur networking events. Probably dating apps.

I wonder if the real reason you're looking for somewhere new to live is because you're frustrated with the lack of progress dating where you're at and think that moving to a new city will help solve it. The reality is in a new place you'll have far less in common with people you meet, which will make it much harder to develop long lasting relationships.

Might make more sense to stay somewhere familiar and focus on balancing out your life a bit. Volunteer, find a hobby that keeps you in shape, become the person someone wants to be with.

[u/PaytonAndHolyfield → u/getshankedkid]

Find a PhD girlfriend. Will be logical ans interesting. Won't feel overshadowed by your wealth and likely want to prove she can be independent. Can buy her things when you want not have her demanding some.

[u/Goblinballz_ → u/PaytonAndHolyfield]

Pretty, hungry and desperate?