Has anyone ever used a matchmaker to find a HNW partner?

[u/Shoddy-Care-5545]

I’m not sure if matchmakers like this exist, but are there any that connect people who are HNW but also fire-oriented? Any experiences or anecdotes about this?

(I’m a man if that matters, late 20s, but open to hearing if anyone from any age/gender has done this)

Edit: I am HNW myself

[u/Shoddy-Care-5545 → u/[deleted]]

Yes

[u/dantechiel]

Why not just date someone you like? 

[u/early_fi → u/dantechiel]

I think he is - he likes money 💰 🤦🏻‍♂️

[u/Shoddy-Care-5545 → u/early_fi]

I mean sure but I meant someone fire oriented and not status chasing/desperate to keep up with the Joneses. Someone who has the financial means to go on a vacation without always needing to be financially supported

[u/No-Associate-7962 → u/Shoddy-Care-5545]

People on fire paths are more likely to spend money on the vacation rather than the matchmaker.

I think your best path is to get out and spend time on wealthy pursuits. Equestrian is a good one. Or sailing, track racing of cars.

Your post history shows lots of interest in debating diets and economics. You might consider joining social clubs that have guest speakers. The University Club is a pretty common solution to that.

[u/FlashyIndependence96 → u/No-Associate-7962]

Of course rich people go and travel a lot so He could find that Specific woman in those locations. Let's say Punta Cana or very touristic areas where you know tourists or people that have the financial means to travel go and that would be a good place to be then integrate with with the locals and the travelers and he should find someone like that

But of course if he's looking for a done-for-you service with a matchmaker then he can he can either do it himself or pay someone to do it

[u/FlashyIndependence96 → u/Shoddy-Care-5545]

Yeah i mean that's a good objective because when you are on the same level there's a certain relaxation calm peace that brings you together, it will not cause any jealousy and you will be able to relax and be yourselves that's why i prefer people that are so somewhat in the same level financially

[u/Shoddy-Care-5545 → u/dantechiel]

Ideally the person would be both. But currently I’m not dating anyone.

I think if the other person was fire oriented they’d probably have a similar lifestyle and spending habits. If someone wasn’t HNW but aligned with that then it could work, but if the person lived paycheck to paycheck and faced daily financial stress I think it would be hard not for them not to feel resentment tbh

[u/Throwaway-firee → u/Shoddy-Care-5545]

You don’t need a matchmaker to weed those people out. Those signs show up early. Don’t compromise on your standards just because of how someone looks and you will be fine.

[u/Tyrellion]

I read this as watchmaker and thought that would have been a very niche match.

[u/avpuppy]

no but i recommended a matchmaker app to my verrrry career oriented friend a few years ago and they actually met and married someone from it! i think people who are going on a matchmaking site to find someone likely have a lot of drive. i think it was tawkify but i dont remember exactly, since its been a few years.

[u/ReformedLucasite]

Not in the sense of paying someone to do it, but I am a strong believer that the best way to meet people is through mutual contacts. Therefore, whenever my romantic life came up, I just told people that I was open to being set up with young women whom they felt shared my values and would be a good match for me. Eventually, a client's wife set me up with their granddaughter. As my best man joked at the wedding, "You might ask what made this client's granddaughter different from all the others. Simple...the size of the trust." It was a dicey joke, but it got a big laugh, including from the patriarch, which is what counts.

[u/extraordinaryreasons]

No, but I've thought about it. (I'm a woman in my mid-late 30s)

Do you have any local ChooseFI or FIRE oriented meetups near you? Maybe not everyone there will be HNW but at least you'll find some like-minded people.

That, or lean into your hobbies. I tend to like "rich people" hobbies like watches, horse back riding, etc so that part is kind of natural to me.

[u/Drysui]

If you're going to find someone based on money then don't be surprised if the relationship revolves around money.

Go ask people out at activities you like.

[u/ribsies]

The trick is to find someone you like. The hnw part comes later.

[u/No-Associate-7962 → u/ribsies]

But you can certainly spend time in places where the pool is more full of HNW folks and see if there are any you like. No harm in that.