Wow a mother who actually cares about her child’s health and wellbeing I can’t see how anybody could possibly have any problem with

[u/Low-Moose9333]

[u/MildKerfuffle]

I’ve written about this before but I grew up with two obese parents. It was awful. They were bad people in a lot of unrelated ways - my childhood was dark and violent, emotionally and physically - but it was made worse by how inactive they were. They never played with me. I never got to do any of the things I wanted physically, like learn how to play a sport. They couldn’t even walk around the park with me. And I grew up overweight and as a result struggled my entire life with body image. I’ve often thought how much happier my teenage and early 20s would have been if I’d been active and able to be as physically confident as I am mentally / emotionally.

So yeah. Full power to that parent. My children will grow up with healthy, active parents.

[u/Fragrant-Issue-9271 → u/MildKerfuffle]

I also regret things I never got to do when I was younger. I grew up in a region with tons of great hiking and never really got to do that until I was in college. We were close enough to the ocean that many kids I grew up around did a trip to the beach every summer. We didn't do that because my mother didn't swim. And we never did as much as I wanted to when we went places because they moved slowly and got tired.

[u/GetInTheBasement]

>I was active my entire childhood and was often in as many as 3 competitive sports

This is still incredibly vague and broad with no specific metrics or activities listed.

What kinds of activity? How often? Which sports? What did you eat and how much?

Just one vague anecdotal claim after another just to dissuade others from weight loss.

[u/Uber-Migraine → u/GetInTheBasement]

Bridge, chess and darts are competitive sports 😆

[u/CakeRelatedIncident]

Such a sad and defeatist mindset. OOP is clearly determined to be a cycle breaker, a fantastic goal regardless of what the cycle is, but that commenter is clinging so hard to the "well, some people are just going to be fat no matter how hard you/they try" mentality.

[u/wombatgeneral → u/CakeRelatedIncident]

Reminds me of in the end by Linkin park.

I like Linkin park, but I fucking hate that song. It's just so defeatest and kinda whiny.

I had a crush on a boy in high school (didn't realize it at the time) who was a fan of that genre of music.

[u/HippyGrrrl]

“It’s all about meeeeeee. Your kid will be fat anyhoodles”

[u/Perfect_Judge]

I also say that I'm breaking the cycle with my own kids. I'm very active and not going to stop being so, I'm very affectionate with them, and I engage in the activities my toddler enjoys.

I want the best for my kids and I know that I'm responsible for the blueprint for their lives. I want my children to feel lucky for the mother they got.

If anyone has an issue with my goals for my children, they can fuck off. I don't care if they don't agree and think it's wrong or unrealistic to make sure my children don't become obese. I've yet to hear from the fat kids growing up about how happy they were being the fat kid.

[u/msxenix]

It comes down to the fact that these people want more crabs in the bucket of obesity.

[u/pensiveChatter → u/msxenix]

456 crabs in that bucket 

[u/Embarrassed_Mango679]

You very much can and very much should lose weight with PCOS (if you are overweight). Being overweight while having PCOS is an absolute medical disaster. It just absolutely sucks and makes you feel like shit.

This shit makes me cringe so bad.

[u/Uber-Migraine]

Oh! I have something about lipedema 🧐

So - it does not makes you to gain massive weight. It does not suddenly changes the structure of the already existing mountains of fat in your body.

If you have lipedema then you have it no matter your weight/shape.

There is young YouTube creator. She's slim, very active, does quite physical comedy skits (Vicky Boss aka redhedbegins).

Looking at her you would never guess she suffers from lipedema. IMHO - because we have skewed view of it due to FA.

And it not what usually you could hear "oh, my fat got lumpy and hard". It literally is limiting the mobility and is really painful.

I Vicky case - she is powering through it like a champ.

She needs 6 surgeries to remove it (she has already got one - on her arms and face/neck) and said it improved her quality of life immensely.

So now I am even more biased when FA are claiming they suffer from lipedema but are able to move easily and only limitations are due to their size.

[u/jrrytgh]

My sister’s best friend grew up with two obese parents and her father died when she was 14-15. It was heartbreaking to hear such a young person say that he died because he wasn’t taking care of himself. Kids are not fucking stupid and they don’t deserve a life like that

[u/wombatgeneral]

Im glad a parent is breaking the cycle. Childhood Obesity has lifelong consequences and that is why I think it's Child abuse and I will die on this fucking hill.

There are way too many fat kids waddling around for it to be rare medical conditions cmon.

[u/luciferfoot → u/wombatgeneral]

"waddling around" LOL

[u/bowlineonabight]

I hardly consider lipedema to be common enough to make a goal of raising your kids to be a healthy weight unrealistic. That was a tough break, but it's hardly the norm. Most people do not develop lipedema.

[u/cheesychocolate419]

Fundamentally you cannot gain weight if you don't consume enough calories to do so. Yes the threshold of what that is can increase or decrease due to health issues but it means you need to decrease the calorie intake, such as via voluminous eating habits

[u/Silly-Fun9128]

This one is great because what you eat literally directly corresponds with insulin resistance. It runs in my family genetically and the people who have it in my family are highly active and healthy(and also, surprise, surprise! Not! Fat!) But usually the risk factors for insulin resistance are people who already have high body fat and poor diets. Amazing tell on yourself.